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  • UCstudent

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    Jun 22, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    I am a masochist and I like being tied up and spanked and all that...but I have a lot of limits. Everytime I consider being with another guy I feel like it will turn in to rape. I almost want to hire a dominatrix because I trust women more,


    Is gay bdsm dating safe? should I be worried?

    also, am I even desirable? I don't even know if I am attractive enough for someone to want to hook up with ive been rejected twice on this site.
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    Jun 23, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    UCstudent saidI am a masochist and I like being tied up and spanked and all that...but I have a lot of limits. Everytime I consider being with another guy I feel like it will turn in to rape. I almost want to hire a dominatrix because I trust women more,


    Is gay bdsm dating safe? should I be worried?

    also, am I even desirable? I don't even know if I am attractive enough for someone to want to hook up with ive been rejected twice on this site.


    You're definitely desirable!
  • Suetonius

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    Jun 23, 2012 7:48 AM GMT
    UCstudent saidI am a masochist and I like being tied up and spanked and all that...but I have a lot of limits. . . Is gay bdsm dating safe? should I be worried?

    Yeah, it's safe. Just avoid the Hanible Lector and Spacey types. Don't get tied up by just anybody. Your looking worried probably would make the S more interested in the scene.

    also, am I even desirable?

    Yeah, kid, you look very desirable - but then this is the internet, and not reality. Someone is going to desire you, but it helps for them to see you in the flesh.

    I don't even know if I am attractive enough for someone to want to hook up with i've been rejected twice on this site.
    So - this is not a great place to hook up - you might expect to be rejected 100's of times here; try craigslist or A4A, etc.

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    Aug 06, 2012 2:06 AM GMT

    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREalso, am I even desirable?


    Hey, rjers. I just searched out info on training Sirs and boys on google, it led me here to this thread, which really doesn't say anything I haven't learned on my own in the past eighteen months I've been active Dom.

    Wouldn't even have registered except for this young man.

    Now I am going to move to the state he lives in! kidding

    UC, you are f****ng smokin hot. that worried look, like the other poster said, is exactly what Doms work hard to achieve, and you've got it while you're typing!

    Don't worry about getting raped. Just lie there and enjoy it. Seriously, most doms are not rapists. More like actors. and all will respect limits if they accept you in the first place. I am pretty new, only have about twenty subs so far, only three regular. Everybody has limits. Most don't like being pissed on. Few eat s**t. I won't pierce anything, im no doctor. Generally, it's more tame so far than all the pornos. So go for it, faggot! (I love faggots)

    and for the love of all that's holy, let me lead you through a video chat, boy.

    If you're not all tied up, that is...
  • Nipmuck

    Posts: 35

    Aug 06, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
    To The OP :

    Yes, you're very desirable and attractive, so don't be worried about that. You just need to find the right guy, and the chemistry has to be right.

    You're smart to be worried. Most guys who are into bondage and spanking are decent and considerate. They know it's a kind of role-playing, dominance-submission thing, they know an inexperienced guy might be nervous, and they are actually nice guys. They'll be respectful of your wishes. The "rough" part is just role-playing, part of the erotic experience.

    But you never know for sure, so be careful. Don't automatically trust a stranger, no matter how friendly or hot they are. Get to know the guy first. Meet him a few times. Make sure you know his name, telephone number, where he lives, what he does for a living, etc. Don't ever get tied up by a stranger. Make sure that someone knows where you are at all times, don't go to any destination where no one knows where you are.