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Did you make close friends after 20??

• kemoze Posts: 387
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 7:40 AM GMT

  Guys i liked my friends so much, i had around 7 close friends they were all straight guys but after i finished my college and moved to kuwait for work i lost my contact with them, the main reason is that they were getting engaged and planning for marriage and i had a lot of pressure on me. because of my sexuality.and i knew that i wont come back to egypt ever again thats why i lost any connection with them.
  i will be in istanbul on 30 of june to start new life..
  
  Do you think i can make the same good friends i had before while i am now 23 years old.?
  
  everyone tells me that good friends are those you met when you were young?
  
  am i able to make very close and good friends at such age or i will be busy working and stuff?
  
  if you ever had a very close friend after u hit 20 pls tell me your story.
  
  thanks in advance..

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• TheBizMan Posts: 3518
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 7:43 AM GMT

  Why wouldn't you be able to make close friends after 20?
  
  20 years old in many cases, is only 1/4th of a human lifespan.
  
  If you are a personable, charismatic, and kind individual, making friends is easy.
  
  
  Edit: But the key is to be open about yourself. Deceit is the blunder of any friendship.

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• kemoze Posts: 387
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 7:53 AM GMT

  TheBizMan saidWhy wouldn't you be able to make close friends after 20?
  
  20 years old in many cases, is only 1/4th of a human lifespan.
  
  If you are a personable, charismatic, and kind individual, making friends is easy.
  
  
  Edit: But the key is to be open about yourself. Deceit is the blunder of any friendship.

  
  
  of course this is gonna be new beginning, i mean i will come out of the closet once i move and i will tell anyone who seems to like my company that i am gay.
  
  i really need this kind of life where i have no hidden secrets. i am comfortable with my sexuality now really after i hit Realjock two years ago.

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• Latenight30 Posts: 1420
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 2:23 PM GMT

  I didn't start forming long friendships again outside of college till my late 20's and early 30's. In our modern time people move and change jobs constantly. It wasn't until I was in a stable relationship my life settled down some and I could find a home base. I now have friends I've known almost 8 years. I would call them true friends, favorites on the speed dial and they have me too.
  

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• YeahhBrah Posts: 106
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 2:25 PM GMT

  I made my closest friends after 20 actually.

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  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 2:27 PM GMT

  All of my closets friends I made in my very late 20s through 40s. I dont talk to anyone I knew before I was 25.

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  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 2:40 PM GMT

  YeahhBrah saidI made my closest friends after 20 actually.

  
  
  Same here. All of my close friends were made after I turned 20. It was the stage of life I was in and could trust others in a way that I couldn't before I was 20.

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• Larkin Posts: 3479
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 2:53 PM GMT

  The friends I'd bleed for came into my life at 25

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• HndsmKansan Posts: 14769
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 2:54 PM GMT

  I still have good friends from my childhood and some have "passed on" so to speak.... the same with friends from college and law school. I also have good friends that I've made more recently and some here on RJ.
  
  I think you have to be open to and put yourself in social situations to establish good friendships. It should have some importance to you (and sounds like it does). I think new friendships are made your whole life, the comments you had received before are a little bogus as far as I'm concerned.
  Good luck in Turkey!

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  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 2:57 PM GMT

  Dallasfan824 saidAll of my closets friends I made in my very late 20s through 40s. I dont talk to anyone I knew before I was 25.

  
  This. You have to be a mature man before you really know how to be a mature friend.

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  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 3:00 PM GMT

  Larkin saidThe friends I'd bleed for came into my life at 25

  
  
  thank god you arent a hemophiliac.

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  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 3:17 PM GMT

  Making friends is all about your willingness to be open to new people and the context in which you meet them/have commonalities. Not your age.

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  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 3:27 PM GMT

  All of my close friends I have now I met after I was 20 years old. With the exception of four, I've met most of them in the last two to three years!

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• kingmo Posts: 713
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 3:44 PM GMT

  Dallasfan824 saidAll of my closets friends I made in my very late 20s through 40s. I dont talk to anyone I knew before I was 25.

  
  
  ^^^ same for me. the fact is that we're all changing in our teenage years and early 20s, finding ourselves, developing our ideas and positions in the world. i really don't talk to my friends from highschool anymore, even though we were very tight back then. university changed everything and we all went in different directions. my best friends are the ones i made in university and in work - because we share deeper life experiences and values.
  
  moving to a new city is always tough, and it depends on the culture of that place, how welcoming they are to outsiders. so you must strike the balance between putting yourself out there and being outgoing and friendly, but also being modest and respectful of other people's different comforts in the speed in which they make friends.
  
  good luck!

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  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 3:53 PM GMT

  Aside from my boyfriend, no.

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  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 4:01 PM GMT

  YeahhBrah saidI made my closest friends after 20 actually.

  
  Same here.

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• bishop65 Posts: 142
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 4:03 PM GMT

  some of my closest friends i have came into my life when i was in my 20s and 30s. so there is hope. just be open to new people and new experiences.

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• bishop65 Posts: 142
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 4:04 PM GMT

  Larkin saidThe friends I'd bleed for came into my life at 25

  
  
  YUP! My sentiments exactly.

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• kemoze Posts: 387
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 7:58 PM GMT

  it seems like everyone has met the close and good friends after 20 that gives a great hope,
  
  today one of my friends at the high school called me to go and hang out we both work in kuwait but in different companies, i felt like i am not that kareem he thinks of me, i am someone else, i really want to meet new people whom i tell everything about me, i would like to be hated for who i am rather than being liked for whom i am not.. damn.
  
  thank u guys..

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• PBLH Posts: 168
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 8:00 PM GMT

  I too would agree with everyone else, I've met most of my close friends in my now 20's...

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• redsoxfan791 Posts: 1607
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 8:05 PM GMT

  kemoze saidGuys i liked my friends so much, i had around 7 close friends they were all straight guys but after i finished my college and moved to kuwait for work i lost my contact with them, the main reason is that they were getting engaged and planning for marriage and i had a lot of pressure on me. because of my sexuality.and i knew that i wont come back to egypt ever again thats why i lost any connection with them.
  i will be in istanbul on 30 of june to start new life..
  
  Do you think i can make the same good friends i had before while i am now 23 years old.?
  
  everyone tells me that good friends are those you met when you were young?
  
  am i able to make very close and good friends at such age or i will be busy working and stuff?
  
  if you ever had a very close friend after u hit 20 pls tell me your story.
  
  thanks in advance..

  
  
  Honestly, I've made five of the closest friends I've ever had in the last year. I don't know what I'd do without them, and I think they feel the same way.

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• Aristoshark Posts: 23944
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 8:08 PM GMT

  Most of my closest friends I met in two batches-----a huge number of them in college, ages 16-21, and then again another in my mid-20s. But I'm still making new friends even at 55. They just don't have the same resonance as people who've known me for 40 years.

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• kemoze Posts: 387
  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 8:08 PM GMT

  i posted this because i was so scared recently that i have passed the real time of making good & Close friends. because for me sometimes i feel like the close friends are not less important than the loved one ( boy friend ) u can let go with ur bf with any reason but with ur close friend is not like that at all.. close friends are always there for you... in my situation now as i am not dating and never met any guys and lost all close friends i feel so weird. will be in istabul so soon just hope i make friends once i get there .. i am leaving kuwait for that reason too, can not make friends here. maybe istanbul would be a better place for meeting cool and open minded people.

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  QUOTE Jun 22, 2012 8:09 PM GMT

  salaam
  
  of course! at a younger age, all my friends were retards from high school. i found my closest and most amazing friends at around 19+ (im in college now)

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