Celibacy Challenge

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    Jun 23, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    So i've thought a lot about going celibate for a while, maybe for the summer maybe for the school year. Not sure yet, but the idea of being sexually inactive intrigues me.

    I feel like there can be some personal understanding that could come out of it, plus it would help me (I hope) to get over my ex. Any advice on being celibate? What are your experiences and how do you use that time to foster some sort of enlightenment?

    To me, it seems like a real challenge.
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    Jun 23, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    I'm celibate, and will be for life. I don't do it to get enlightenment. I think the experience for you would be different than me though, because you know what you're missing out on.

    g'luck if that's what you choose.
  • John6311

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    Jun 23, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidI'm celibate, and will be for life. I don't do it to get enlightenment. I think the experience for you would be different than me though, because you know what you're missing out on.

    g'luck if that's what you choose.


    Why are you celibate for life? I can't think of anything more unattractive.
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    Jun 23, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    If that includes not maturbating then it is impossible. The forty days and forty nights thing only results in nature taking over so there is no point in it. Might as well share your luv.
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    Jun 23, 2012 6:59 PM GMT
    John6311 said
    SkinnyBitch saidI'm celibate, and will be for life. I don't do it to get enlightenment. I think the experience for you would be different than me though, because you know what you're missing out on.

    g'luck if that's what you choose.


    Why are you celibate for life? I can't think of anything more unattractive.
    Lol. It doesn't matter to a celibate person if it makes them unattractive. Take a sec to ponder it.
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    Jun 23, 2012 10:08 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch said
    John6311 said
    SkinnyBitch saidI'm celibate, and will be for life. I don't do it to get enlightenment. I think the experience for you would be different than me though, because you know what you're missing out on.

    g'luck if that's what you choose.


    Why are you celibate for life? I can't think of anything more unattractive.
    Lol. It doesn't matter to a celibate person if it makes them unattractive. Take a sec to ponder it.


    Hmmm- (one mississippi, two mississippi)

    I've ponder it. You're still unattractive.
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    Jun 23, 2012 10:18 PM GMT
    It's been a year and a half...
  • nefficles

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    Jun 23, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    John6311 said
    SkinnyBitch said
    John6311 said
    SkinnyBitch saidI'm celibate, and will be for life. I don't do it to get enlightenment. I think the experience for you would be different than me though, because you know what you're missing out on.

    g'luck if that's what you choose.


    Why are you celibate for life? I can't think of anything more unattractive.
    Lol. It doesn't matter to a celibate person if it makes them unattractive. Take a sec to ponder it.


    Hmmm- (one mississippi, two mississippi)

    I've ponder it. You're still unattractive.


    hah you're harsh judgement just now is far more unattractive than anything skinnybitch has said in any of his posts.
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    Jun 23, 2012 10:30 PM GMT
    fuzzywuzzy saidIt's been a year and a half...



    Completely UNACCEPTABLE.
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    Jun 23, 2012 10:54 PM GMT
    I've been celibate for 3 years and the longer I go without sex the less I think about it. Along with it went drinking, shallow friendships that didn't mean a thing and a preoccupation with stuff that just was a waste of time. I have made huge strides in my career and I am back in school.

    The pursuit of relationships was is in the forefront of my brain always and it was holding me back. I think a lot more clearly and I have been on a solid path of self improvement. I'm more confident and I have better self esteem. I also learned that gay men in general are only interested in you as long as you remain a possible sexual conquest for them. Take that away and they lose interest.

    I am so much better off.
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    Jun 23, 2012 10:56 PM GMT
    What is the point in not having sex? Seems stupid.

    When you're older, you'll look back and kick yourself...to each his own.
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    Jun 23, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    It will be six months for me at the end of the month. I miss it, but I don't feel pressed to do it.
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    Jun 23, 2012 11:03 PM GMT
    The last time I was celibate, I was in the closet. I don't recall it as a very happy or fun time and wouldn't recommend it to others.
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    Jun 24, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    MuchoMasQueMusculo saidHym...I always thought that celibacy was a life time vow to yourself and that abstaining from sex was simply for a temporal period of time. Basically that abstinence is temporary but that celibacy is a lifelong commitment. If you eventually plan on having sex then you're simply engaging in a state of abstinence.

    Oh well...now I'm uncertain. icon_sad.gif


    I've always thought the same, celibacy was for life and abstinence was temporary.

    Either way do what's right for you. Its your life if it feels right do it. I find the whole idea of any commitment made for wrong reasons a waste of time. ie being a committed slut, committed relationship, committed abstinence.
    None is good for you if its not what you really need to grow. If its to prove something make sure its yourself your doing it for not for the glory and adulation.
  • fitone

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    Jun 24, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    i find the concept hard to grasp.
  • FriscoJansen

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    Jun 24, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    I haven't had sex with anyone since August 2009, almost 3 years now. I'm just waiting for the right time... and the right guy which I'm not searching for at the moment. Not to mention I live in the worst city for dating with probably the worst pool of men. Phoenix. However, I like being alone so it is not hard at all for me. I keep myself busy with life and enjoy friends and family.
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    Jun 24, 2012 1:31 AM GMT
    Five hours and counting!

    I'm on a roll!

    Wheeeee!
  • conquer

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    Jun 24, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    been about 6 months. i'm not going to chase after just anyone with a pulse. the dating pool here is so small that everyone knows everyone else and has an opinion about them. i'd rather not be gossiped about at the lone gay bar
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    Jun 24, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    tru_guy saidSo i've thought a lot about going celibate for a while,
    What a coincidence, me too! We should get nekkid and be celibate together. icon_biggrin.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Jun 24, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    I just made this decision as well. I deleted my MH and A4A accounts.

    Getting sex is way to easy.. it's a risky business and it's becoming far too boring. I wan't my sex life to regain the same amount of intrigue as it had before I became active a year ago.
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    Jun 24, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    Nonconformity can be a turn-on, and celibate can be sexy. "Not doing it makes you more appealing..." Kenny Pugh



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    Jun 24, 2012 3:07 AM GMT
    LAGuy1979 saidI've been celibate for 3 years and the longer I go without sex the less I think about it. Along with it went drinking, shallow friendships that didn't mean a thing and a preoccupation with stuff that just was a waste of time. I have made huge strides in my career and I am back in school.

    The pursuit of relationships was is in the forefront of my brain always and it was holding me back. I think a lot more clearly and I have been on a solid path of self improvement. I'm more confident and I have better self esteem. I also learned that gay men in general are only interested in you as long as you remain a possible sexual conquest for them. Take that away and they lose interest.

    I am so much better off.


    This is legit. If I decide to abstain from sex, I want it to be for personal growth. I'm not doing it because of religious beliefs or whatever. I feel like this constant craving for sex has deterred me from alot of positive things like fabricating a friendship with gay guys without having the thought of fucking them.

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    Jun 24, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    LAGuy1979 saidI've been celibate for 3 years and the longer I go without sex the less I think about it. Along with it went drinking, shallow friendships that didn't mean a thing and a preoccupation with stuff that just was a waste of time. I have made huge strides in my career and I am back in school.

    The pursuit of relationships was is in the forefront of my brain always and it was holding me back. I think a lot more clearly and I have been on a solid path of self improvement. I'm more confident and I have better self esteem. I also learned that gay men in general are only interested in you as long as you remain a possible sexual conquest for them. Take that away and they lose interest.

    I am so much better off.


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    Jun 24, 2012 3:17 AM GMT
    Celibate would be easy but not masturbating would be impossible.
  • Drift

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    Jun 24, 2012 3:56 AM GMT

    I don't have a lot of in depth knowledge myself, so i'll leave it up to you to explore on your own, but there are belief systems, including Daoist, that describe a form of vital life energy, Jing, that is mostly passed down to us from our parents, and only replenished very slowly through meditative/energy practice. The idea is that this energy is expended/lost through ejaculation. Some take this to celibacy, but i'm not sure if that's completely necessary, or whether simply reducing or internalising is possible. I'm also not sure whether it's different depending on the kind of sex.
    Anyway, something to look into.