Best place to meet someone for dating or a relationship?

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    Jun 23, 2012 6:02 PM GMT
    Where do you all think are some good places to meet men who are single and relationship oriented? I have difficulty finding anyone that I share attraction with and when I do, they are usually not in my city. I've been told I should go to a dating site. What exactly are some of them? I tried Okcupid once but I didn't like how it directed me to who it determined were matches for me. I like being able to choose for myself.
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    Jun 23, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
    There are no such places and internet is good for a hook up, but don't expect much more of it (sorry). The advice most posters are probably going to give you is to go out and do stuff without consciously looking for a potential partner. That will only lead to further frustrations...

    Join a gay club or something and get to know other guys as friends first. Don't force anything or you'll come across rather awkward.
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    Jun 23, 2012 6:19 PM GMT


    Exactly, don't look for a "boyfriend," or "partner" right off the back. Get to know the person first to see if there is also an emotional attraction as well as a physical one.

    Also do join a club either gay or gay friendly that appeals to you and make FRIENDS first then go from there if someone you like shows interest. If the rest of the world if like Portland, then the dating sites are just full of Partnered or Married guys who are just looking for something different for one night stands
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    Jun 23, 2012 6:21 PM GMT
    Well, you're a very handsome guy. But, you live in San Diego.

    I worked in Sorrento Valley/Mira Mesa but I really hate traffic. So, I lived near work. But, the gay community is down in Hillcrest. Apparently gays don't drive there.

    Same problem in Seattle.

    Gays don't drive from Capital Hill area and I work 25 mi away in Everett, Washington state's gay wasteland.

    So, here's the question: what part of the area do you live?
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    Jun 23, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    Sportzdog said

    Exactly, don't look for a "boyfriend," or "partner" right off the back. Get to know the person first to see if there is also an emotional attraction as well as a physical one.



    double true...

    Even though I'm pretty sure Sportzdog is a heart breaker all-star.

    my advice, put yourself out there but take it slow when you meet people.

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    Jun 23, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
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    Jun 23, 2012 6:41 PM GMT
    Why, Brazil, of course!



    edit: That's only when ALL else fails, Ari.....icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 23, 2012 6:44 PM GMT
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    this house seems to work for a lot of people
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    Jun 23, 2012 6:48 PM GMT
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    Jun 23, 2012 6:53 PM GMT
    turbobilly said
    edit: That's only when ALL else fails, Ari.....icon_eek.gif


    but I want to drop the soap...=o
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    Jun 24, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    Truppensturm saidThere are no such places and internet is good for a hook up, but don't expect much more of it (sorry). The advice most posters are probably going to give you is to go out and do stuff without consciously looking for a potential partner. That will only lead to further frustrations...

    Join a gay club or something and get to know other guys as friends first. Don't force anything or you'll come across rather awkward.


    I agree, join a club. Go out and mingle with welcoming people. Once you shine and don't appear desparate, then you'll make connections. Also most people make their friends on the job or from remnants of school days. Then they go out to a club or social gathering and it spawns from there. The internet has its posibilities too, but sadly most don't view others beyond a sex object for hook-up of personal gratification, or making fun of in riducule. RJ however is changing my opinion to some degree. Most people online make friends only with those they vainly feel drawn to. I find it rare when its not that case. Its definately something to build on but ultimate its about mutual attraction and things being tangible.
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    Jun 24, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    OP if any of us knew do you think we'd be thrashing away on our keyboards?icon_lol.gif

    I went to an age appropriate community party last night, had a great time, met some interesting guys, some not so much. Got a few numbers had a late night burger with one guy, chatted laughed and went home alone, intentionally. Seems there is a huge "dinner party scene" where all the single guys over 40 meet up.
    So that's where they hang out down here.
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    Jun 24, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
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    Jun 24, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    Facebook, lol
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    Jun 24, 2012 2:00 AM GMT
    Daniel_S saidFacebook, lol


    Many friends have told me that. I just don't know if it's worth joining considering all its previous privacy gaffes, employers asking your password, etc
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    Jun 24, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    Daniel_S saidFacebook, lol

    i was going to say the samething only because of the mutual friends icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 24, 2012 2:18 AM GMT


    Join a gay club or something and get to know other guys as friends first. Don't force anything or you'll come across rather awkward.[/quote]

    I agree! I was in the process of wanting to either volunteer , join a gay club or sports team in the area just to meet other kinds of men. Website dating is very frustrating and will make you give up. Plus a lot of them charge fees and the free ones are just for hooking up.
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    Jun 25, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    Thanks to those who kindly gave me advice. No thanks to those with the rude and sarcastic comments (you know who you are). I have been told that I should join a club before. What kind of clubs are there for me to join though? I do volunteer work sometimes at my church and a community outreach center, but there definitely aren't any guys I want to date at those places. And there really isn't anyone at the University either, not a lot of gay dudes in my department. And yes, I've been around the gay section of my city, it's extremely hard to actually meet anyone though, which is why I don't go to bars or gay clubs as it is just a waste of time. I was just wondering there is something I'm not doing that would help.