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  • tarik24

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    Jun 23, 2012 11:34 PM GMT
    Hello everybody.

    I have a 7 years relationship but sometimes I feel lost. I love him and I think he loves me too but theres something disturbing me. We are always together but we have too many fights. Nowadays we have an open-relationship because I thought it could work better because I WAS monogamous and every time we went to Brazil for holidays, he ended up with some lad. Once he dumped me for a guy but regreted and I forgave him. He is funny,nice,crazy and have a beautiful heart BUT last night while drunk he told me I am very ugly for him and someone told him that. Actually Im NOT that ugly...lol . We were drunk and this is not the first time he says that. We have both facebook but he doesnt have any pic of mine there. In 7 years we have ONLY two pics we are together and one of them he was forced by the photographer cause it was an gay event on the street and they took people of every gay couple and gave us one copy for free. He told me he loves me and he did not mean that. He doesnt post photos of mine,I cannot touch him in gay places(pubs,clubs...because he told me theres no need for such hypocrysie) Does he love me or Im blind,crazy?
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    Jun 24, 2012 1:40 AM GMT
    tarik24 said... Im blind,crazy?
    Yes.
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    Jun 24, 2012 2:37 PM GMT
    My last relationship was like this, I got tired of that bullshit and called it quits! I learned that if you have to trick yourself in to thinking that he loves you, than he really doesn't. Like I have posted on here before Never make a person that views you as an option, a priority in your life. However, thats just my thought.
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    Jun 24, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    tarik24 saidHello everybody.

    I have a 7 years relationship but sometimes I feel lost. I love him and I think he loves me too but theres something disturbing me. We are always together but we have too many fights. Nowadays we have an open-relationship because I thought it could work better because I WAS monogamous and every time we went to Brazil for holidays, he ended up with some lad. Once he dumped me for a guy but regreted and I forgave him. He is funny,nice,crazy and have a beautiful heart BUT last night while drunk he told me I am very ugly for him and someone told him that. Actually Im NOT that ugly...lol . We were drunk and this is not the first time he says that. We have both facebook but he doesnt have any pic of mine there. In 7 years we have ONLY two pics we are together and one of them he was forced by the photographer cause it was an gay event on the street and they took people of every gay couple and gave us one copy for free. He told me he loves me and he did not mean that. He doesnt post photos of mine,I cannot touch him in gay places(pubs,clubs...because he told me theres no need for such hypocrysie) Does he love me or Im blind,crazy?


    Actions speak louder than words. Volumes in fact. Sooooooo when are you going to get tired of being this guys emotional punching bag? Just curious.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 24, 2012 3:10 PM GMT
    Rather than guessing his intentions, it's clear it doesn't work for you... thats enough to get serious and find someone else.
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    Jun 24, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    tarik24 saidor Im blind,crazy?


    Definitely crazy to stay in this kind of relationship.
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    Jun 24, 2012 5:30 PM GMT
    Being comfortable with someone is not at all the same as happy. That said, drunk or not, his "repeating" what someone else supposedly said.. outward demonstration he has utterly no respect or feelings for you whatsoever.

    Going out in public - keeping your distance? This guy is a tool. Are you supporting him? Just curious. Cut him loose.
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    Jun 24, 2012 6:08 PM GMT
    Like Ann Landers used to say, "are you better off with him or without him?"
    PS, my guess is without him.
  • BmwKid92

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    Jun 24, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidlol fucking leave him already. Are you special?


    ^^
  • tarik24

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    Jun 25, 2012 1:54 PM GMT
    Sorry guys for my later reply but I was not at home. Anyway, thanks a lot for your reaction but I really think the same BUT...I dont know. I feel Im connected or something. I broke up with him once and his sis called me saying he was very sad and did not want to eat anymore. I love him but I feel frustrated every time I touch him on public (gay places only) and he moves my hands/arms away. Thats why I asked him for an open-relationship. I will these days take a better look on our situation and talk (again) with him. Once more...thank you!!!
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    Jun 25, 2012 1:56 PM GMT
    Dump his Ass
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    Jun 25, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    tarik24 said... Im blind,crazy?
    Yes.
    This ^^
  • GS27_USC

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    Jun 25, 2012 7:35 PM GMT
    You deserve someone that does not say mean things to you. Drunk or not.
    When you're drunk, all that does is remove the filter in your head.

    That in itself should tell you - leave his ass.
  • tarik24

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    Jun 25, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    We will have a nice talk tomorrow kos we dont live together,hehe,believe me.
    Today he is a bit different and very sweet. see guys...how difficult it is? But ja, better to have a good conversation and maybe things change again between us.