Jun 24, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
OK, so i had a weird experience this week.
would up striking a conversation with some older guys who were in town for pride, and i mentioned i'd never been. they asked why, i replied "it's not my thing." they pressed, and i said something along the lines of 'i dont identify much with being gay, i mostly see myself as a regular dude who really likes to have sex with other dudes." i explained that i'd never experienced any kind of homophobia in my life, 'coming out' was a non-event, and said that i just don't see the need to self-ghettoize in west hollywood/dupont/etc (ok poor choice of words on my part).
well these guys got really upset and really defensive, saying i was privileged, entitled, ignoring the contributions of past generations, etc. they seemed genuinely offended i don't see the need to be a loud and proud gay.
what i don't get - wasn't that the whole point of the gay rights movement?? to be treated as regular human beings?? i understand the whole forming a unique culture/identity was about self-protection/preservation, but it's not the 1960's anymore! being a homo is a non-issue in pretty much every major city and probably the rest of the country within the next decade. why can't everyone just do what they wanna do, and define themselves however they wanna define themselves??
would up striking a conversation with some older guys who were in town for pride, and i mentioned i'd never been. they asked why, i replied "it's not my thing." they pressed, and i said something along the lines of 'i dont identify much with being gay, i mostly see myself as a regular dude who really likes to have sex with other dudes." i explained that i'd never experienced any kind of homophobia in my life, 'coming out' was a non-event, and said that i just don't see the need to self-ghettoize in west hollywood/dupont/etc (ok poor choice of words on my part).
well these guys got really upset and really defensive, saying i was privileged, entitled, ignoring the contributions of past generations, etc. they seemed genuinely offended i don't see the need to be a loud and proud gay.
what i don't get - wasn't that the whole point of the gay rights movement?? to be treated as regular human beings?? i understand the whole forming a unique culture/identity was about self-protection/preservation, but it's not the 1960's anymore! being a homo is a non-issue in pretty much every major city and probably the rest of the country within the next decade. why can't everyone just do what they wanna do, and define themselves however they wanna define themselves??
