is okey to say I dont into asian guys ?

  • gabriel29

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    Jul 31, 2008 9:45 PM GMT
    When is about looking for a date on-line usually we have to describe the guys which we are into. Body is just part of that but somehow play important part.
    I never find attractive Asian guys but when I mansion that people criticize me and make faces.
    I don’t think is discrimination - just preference. Maybe American to sensitive about race ?
    Do you agree ?
    I will don’t get upset if someone don’t find attractive Slavic type.
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    Jul 31, 2008 9:53 PM GMT
    I don't get people's hang ups on other's preferences in men. To be honest, people are just trying to be politically correct. My opinion? Continue liking who you like and ignore the people who get affronted by your preference as they are not worth knowing.
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    Jul 31, 2008 10:02 PM GMT
    BAD THREAD IDEA

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    No it isn't. Don't mention race anywhere in your profile. If you must, say it in general terms, i.e. "I generally prefer Caucasians".

    Even if you haven't found any Asian attractive, you never know.

    I generally prefer Caucasians too. but I'm finding myself drawn more and more to other races nowadays.

    You can do it anyways, but don't expect a lot of people to like you. It shows a narrow-mindedness bordering on self-righteous exclusivity.

    Why would you NEED to put it down anyhow? Unless you're getting hit on by 10 Koreans every 2 hours, it's a completely unnecessary piece of information to add to your profile. I mean is it so hard to say to the occasional Asian who emails you "I'm sorry, but you're not my type"? It's no different than saying that to say... a Caucasian who's not your type?

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    Jul 31, 2008 10:53 PM GMT
    OMG!! Can this NOT be another LAME question??? And ESPECIALLY about YOUR personal tastes?!?!?!? BTW, if you like Lima Beans you're not cool!!!


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  • GQjock

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    Jul 31, 2008 10:53 PM GMT
    Never say never ...

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    Jul 31, 2008 10:59 PM GMT
    GQjock saidNever say never ...

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    Who you tellin'!!! That guy is SIZZLIN'! I can take a guess why the OP thinks he's not into Asian men icon_lol.gif.
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    Jul 31, 2008 11:05 PM GMT
    BTW, he's "Asian" too.....


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    And I say GOD DAMN!!!
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    Jul 31, 2008 11:06 PM GMT
    There is no way anyone can sit and post here about what your personal choices are, or more important, should be, any more than you may try to legislate morality. We all know about that, don't we.
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    Jul 31, 2008 11:46 PM GMT
    I think it's a matter of respect.

    Asians can't do anything about being asian, any more than you can do anything about being Caucasian. By the way, "asian" is not a race. No one likes being told they're inherently ugly or unattractive, which is essentially what you're telling an asian when you say, "I'm not into Asians."

    The summary dismissal of an entire group of individuals based on a single characteristic reduces that group to essentially non-person status. It's not so much that I find people who aren't _attracted_ to asians offensive, so much as it is that I find the fact that they won't even talk to, be friends with, or consider social contact with them. When a guy tells me, "I'm not into asians", I'm pretty willing to bet he doesn't actually know any, other than the brief social contact he's had from one (or several) hitting on him. This is a broad generalization and I'm sure there will be a ton of posters who say they're not attracted to asians, but have lots of asian friends. I have personally had someone comment to me (unsolicited), "Ew, asian."

    Asians come in all shapes and sizes. Chances are, your idea of what an asian entails is shaped not by your own personal experiences in interacting with a man who happens to be asian, but rather some image that you've generated that causes them to be repugnant, regardless of any other characteristic (positive or otherwise) they may possess.

    It is this impression of close-mindedness and broad-stroke painting that becomes offensive. Your tastes are your tastes. And that's fine. There's a way to tell someone you're not interested in _them_ while maintaining a healthy respect for them as individuals and not relegating them to some sort of sub-standard class. Going after their skin colour isn't one of them.
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    Jul 31, 2008 11:56 PM GMT
    Good points above. To build on lean_jock's comment, I'd suggest identifying what specific traits don't turn you on that stereotypically are associated with asians, and then list those in the parameters of what you are/aren't looking for.

    For instance...is it height? Some are pretty damn tall. Is it build? Again, there's tons of variation. Complexion? I have to admit I'm not a fan of my natural complexion myself, so I'm nearly always tanned. Facial features? Again, those vary. Hair color? No single race has sole claim to any one color. Behavioral stereotypes? Cultural norms? These are a little trickier, and might take some thinking on your part.

    At the end of the day, we all have preferences. As mentioned, it's the strict adherence to absolutes and matters of respect that get us into trouble.
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    Aug 01, 2008 12:00 AM GMT
    "I`m not into",not"I dont into".But anyway...
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    Aug 01, 2008 12:01 AM GMT
    BTW, LOVE me some zdrew AND lean_jock74!!!
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    Aug 01, 2008 12:04 AM GMT
    lean_jock74 saidI think it's a matter of respect.

    Asians can't do anything about being asian, any more than you can do anything about being Caucasian. By the way, "asian" is not a race. No one likes being told they're inherently ugly or unattractive, which is essentially what you're telling an asian when you say, "I'm not into Asians."

    The summary dismissal of an entire group of individuals based on a single characteristic reduces that group to essentially non-person status. It's not so much that I find people who aren't _attracted_ to asians offensive, so much as it is that I find the fact that they won't even talk to, be friends with, or consider social contact with them. When a guy tells me, "I'm not into asians", I'm pretty willing to bet he doesn't actually know any, other than the brief social contact he's had from one (or several) hitting on him. This is a broad generalization and I'm sure there will be a ton of posters who say they're not attracted to asians, but have lots of asian friends. I have personally had someone comment to me (unsolicited), "Ew, asian."

    Asians come in all shapes and sizes. Chances are, your idea of what an asian entails is shaped not by your own personal experiences in interacting with a man who happens to be asian, but rather some image that you've generated that causes them to be repugnant, regardless of any other characteristic (positive or otherwise) they may possess.

    It is this impression of close-mindedness and broad-stroke painting that becomes offensive. Your tastes are your tastes. And that's fine. There's a way to tell someone you're not interested in _them_ while maintaining a healthy respect for them as individuals and not relegating them to some sort of sub-standard class. Going after their skin colour isn't one of them.


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    Aug 01, 2008 12:05 AM GMT
    a1972guy saidBTW, LOVE me some zdrew AND lean_jock74!!!

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    Aug 01, 2008 12:10 AM GMT
    Here's my thing about all that. First make it clear and positive what things you do prefer in a guy. Thats the most important thing. From there if there is something you specifically are not as attracted to you can mention it but what I like to do is make it clear that although I may not be initially pulled towards a feature or trait that does not mean that type of person is not sexy and hot. I'm very open to being surprised when I see myself pulled towards someone I never thought I would be. So try to always be respectful.

    I'm not sure how I feel about announcing you aren't attracted to a certain ethnicity when you probably could cover that by just saying.. I prefer white guys. That way you stayed on track. You just listed the positive attractions and didn't insult anyone.

    Just my take but do what you want. In the end we all have to be honest and admit we each are unique in our tastes and desires.
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    Aug 01, 2008 12:32 AM GMT
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    No it isn't. Don't mention race anywhere in your profile. If you must, say it in general terms, i.e. "I generally prefer Caucasians".


    But what if he likes everyone but Asians? How does he word his preference without hurting the feelings of oversensitive Asians? What's the point if he doesn't tell the truth?

    Sedative said if you haven't found any Asian attractive, you never know.


    Even if you haven't been in an Earthquake, you never know. So therefore, don't put in your profile, "I've never experienced an Earthquake" cuz one might come along and SWEEP YOU OFF YOUR FEET!...any moment now.

    Sedative said can do it anyways, but don't expect a lot of people to like you. It shows a narrow-mindedness bordering on self-righteous exclusivity.


    If he does it, I'll admire his honesty and disregard for being PC just to make minorities happy. The only thing narrow-minded is your lack of ability to understand that not everyone has a malleable tastes, and not everyone physiologically feels the impulse to stick their dick in every kind of man walking on Earth. I'll admit I find far more Latinos, Middle-Easterners and White people attractive, but I just don't put it in my profile because once in a blue moon I find an Asian or Black person (or mix) really attractive. Fact: I used to masturbate to Will Smith...still do.

    Sedative said would you NEED to put it down anyhow?


    It's a necessary precaution just in case a surge of Filipinos discover this site and flood every white man's inbox with outdated English computer lingo messages filled with syntax errors. Hey it happened to friendster.

    Btw Sedative Asian guy, you are pretty attractive yourself. ;)
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    Aug 01, 2008 12:38 AM GMT
    I just have to wonder if you receive so many offers for sex,dates and relationships from guys of asian appearance that you need to have it in your profile. Are the numbers really that unmanageable? It seems sensible to me to deal with such offers on a case by case basis.

    I suspect you'll find that hot comes in a colour to match every outfit.
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    Aug 01, 2008 12:48 AM GMT


    DUDE -

    USE YOUR SPELL CHECKER!!!


    At least then people won't know you are a moron until they actually talk to you.



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    Aug 01, 2008 12:50 AM GMT
    Why justify it at all?

    "I don't really feel the same about you,"
    "I don't feel it,"
    "I don't think we're a match,"
    "I don't think we'd be a good fit,"
    "I don't think I'm interested, thanks."
    "Thanks for the compliment."

    The phrase, "I prefer Caucasians," is pretty much the same as "I'm not into asians," even if it spins it using no grammatically negative words. If you _prefer_ something, it doesn't mean you exclude things that are not in your preference. I _prefer_ steak, but that doesn't mean I refuse to eat chicken. "I prefer white," means that generally, given the opportunity to choose, you would usually pick white. It does not mean that you would always pick white and it does not mean that you would never consider asian.

    What you are expressing when you reject someone is a decision to not pursue a relationship (possibly of any kind) with THAT PERSON. Attraction is not something the other person controls, and rejecting them may involve telling them how _you_ feel--not what's wrong with them (there's nothing wrong with them. It's _your_ perception or preference.)

    Even if you've had 20 Koreans fall all over you, and the message is the same, just because you've said it 19 times already, that 20th one is hearing it for the first time. Rejection is about expressing your preference, not making someone else feel small.
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    Aug 01, 2008 12:50 AM GMT
    he won't talk to me... i'm asian.
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    Aug 01, 2008 12:51 AM GMT
    lean_jock74 saidI think it's a matter of respect.

    Asians can't do anything about being asian, any more than you can do anything about being Caucasian. By the way, "asian" is not a race. No one likes being told they're inherently ugly or unattractive, which is essentially what you're telling an asian when you say, "I'm not into Asians."

    The summary dismissal of an entire group of individuals based on a single characteristic reduces that group to essentially non-person status. It's not so much that I find people who aren't _attracted_ to asians offensive, so much as it is that I find the fact that they won't even talk to, be friends with, or consider social contact with them. When a guy tells me, "I'm not into asians", I'm pretty willing to bet he doesn't actually know any, other than the brief social contact he's had from one (or several) hitting on him. This is a broad generalization and I'm sure there will be a ton of posters who say they're not attracted to asians, but have lots of asian friends. I have personally had someone comment to me (unsolicited), "Ew, asian."

    Asians come in all shapes and sizes. Chances are, your idea of what an asian entails is shaped not by your own personal experiences in interacting with a man who happens to be asian, but rather some image that you've generated that causes them to be repugnant, regardless of any other characteristic (positive or otherwise) they may possess.

    It is this impression of close-mindedness and broad-stroke painting that becomes offensive. Your tastes are your tastes. And that's fine. There's a way to tell someone you're not interested in _them_ while maintaining a healthy respect for them as individuals and not relegating them to some sort of sub-standard class. Going after their skin colour isn't one of them.



    HERE HERE ! well said, now if you could just apply the same to AGE!
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    Aug 01, 2008 12:53 AM GMT
    It really applies to all preferences, I think. It's just that this thread is about asians.
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    Aug 01, 2008 12:57 AM GMT
    ITJock said

    DUDE -

    USE YOUR SPELL CHECKER!!!


    At least then people won't know you are a moron until they actually talk to you.





    Amen.
  • auryn

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    Aug 01, 2008 1:03 AM GMT
    gabriel29 saidWhen is about looking for a date on-line usually we have to describe the guys which we are into. Body is just part of that but somehow play important part.
    I never find attractive Asian guys but when I mansion that people criticize me and make faces.
    I don’t think is discrimination - just preference. Maybe American to sensitive about race ?
    Do you agree ?
    I will don’t get upset if someone don’t find attractive Slavic type.


    You know your intent and your preference. If you don't like, you don't like. If you're not being a dick about what you like or don't like, then no problems. For you it is what it is. However, if you can't find the type of guy you want in the pool you're fishing, try expanding your options and search the ocean. You never know what you might find that'll work for ya.
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    Aug 01, 2008 1:23 AM GMT
    Here's a thought: you can express almost everything in a positive way. Instead of saying what you don't like, say what you like.

    Then you won't have to start a thread asking if it's OK to say what you don't like. (Of course, you'll miss the opportunity of getting in a subtle dig at these pesky Americans and their hypersensitivity to silly racial distinctions, endearing yourself to many Americans, no doubt).

    I admit I'm getting depressed by all the threads with titles like "What do you hate about X" where X is the "guy above you," "gay bars," "gay music," "gay fashion," "straight guys," "bi guys," "your home town," and on and on and on with the hate and the dislike.

    Blechh. Not a party that I want to attend.