how to deal with heart breakers....

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    Jun 25, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    how do you deal with guys that play the field?

    -lead you on? (for us that are hopeless romantics...)
    -show and give all the right answers and emotion just like you want him to, but in the end drop your a$$ like a hot potato...

    ugh.
  • waccamatt

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    Jun 25, 2012 3:39 AM GMT
    You learn to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back on the horse.
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    Jun 25, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    Never let a man chip away at you. There are Blue Angels out there who take a lot of pleasure in playing with your feelings.

    Call them on their bullshit, and don't let their double-speak get to you.
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    Jun 25, 2012 4:52 AM GMT
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    Jun 25, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    ^^^ rough sex?
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    Jun 25, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    Like 'dis!

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    Jun 25, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    Write a song about it. Make millions.
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    Jun 25, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    I listen to Adele
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    Jun 25, 2012 5:34 AM GMT
    notadumbjock said^^^ rough sex?


    nah just choking and smacking
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    Jun 25, 2012 5:40 AM GMT
    For the record I do not condone unjustified violence, but I think Superman best describes how I'd deal with a user.
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    Jun 25, 2012 7:28 AM GMT
    First you get a few loyal buddies to help you hide the body....
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    Jun 25, 2012 7:30 AM GMT
    or you learn to be a heartless bitch and not give a fuck
  • DanOmatic

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    Jun 25, 2012 10:50 AM GMT
    Elusium saidNever let a man chip away at you. There are Blue Angels out there who take a lot of pleasure in playing with your feelings.

    Call them on their bullshit, and don't let their double-speak get to you.


    Unfortunately, it's true that there are people out there who are emotional vampires, and they derive a sense of power or energy through leading others on until they get their fill. Then, suddenly, they're off in search of a new source.

    One way to keep from getting hurt by these people is to take their words with a grain of salt, and focus on their actions instead. Also, if you get a sense in your gut that something is off, or too good to be true, pay attention to that. If it's not measuring up, take the upper hand and walk away before you get sucked in.
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    Jun 25, 2012 12:28 PM GMT
    forget him, start with a clean slate and dont punish the new people you will meet by having trust issues because you got played.. everyone deserves to be trusted the first time... if you will be a calculating skeptic guy from the start, you will never enjoy the bliss of a true loving relationship.. always, and always give love another chance.. being heartbroken simply means that you are capable of genuine love, if he passes on that, its his loss.. and eventually you will find someone who will return that affection.. by that time, you'll be convinced that all those heartbreaks are still worth it .. just keep trying..
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    Jun 25, 2012 12:35 PM GMT
    ^ like!
  • Jonny21

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    Jun 26, 2012 8:21 PM GMT
    I feel like I am currently in this situation. I just met a nice guy that just moved to my city. My group of friends befriended him, I met him and we both felt something. However, he seems to be very flaky at times. I mean he is intense when I'm around him (saying things like I think you're really cute and I really like you and I have slept over his house on three occassions, although we really didn't have sex-so I'm not sure if it's just a hookup). Part of me doesn't want to shut myself off, be emotionally insecure, and think the worse. But another part of me doesnt want to set myself up for heartbreak later (I like him, but haven't "fallen for him" yet), especially considering some of the red flags. Feel free to chime in.
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    Jun 26, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
    "when someone shows you who they are believe them" has always struck me as a really valuable piece of advice because we all so often ignore it.

    In my dating experience, it was often I knew what I was getting into, but just didn't want to believe it. If a guy doesn't seem sincere in his desire to be the type of bf you're looking for, he probably isn't.
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    Jun 26, 2012 8:28 PM GMT
    Elusium saidNever let a man chip away at you. There are Blue Angels out there who take a lot of pleasure in playing with your feelings.

    Call them on their bullshit, and don't let their double-speak get to you.



    I agree, always call the bitch out.
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    Jun 26, 2012 8:40 PM GMT
    It may also be worthwhile to try to keep in mind that initial attraction (especially merely PHYSICAL) does NOT indicate a lifetime relationship.

    There may be spark and even some FIRE in the very beginning...but as people get to know one another they may realize there is in fact no real common ground.

    That's why it's called dating. You get to know people and see if there is anything beyond a few shared jokes, a coupla double entendres and maybe mutual hard-ons.

    Sometimes it works out.

    Sometimes it doesn't.

    It's not about cruelty. It's about understanding that you have to meet lots of Men to understand what it is you are really looking for before you meet the right one. It takes time. And experience. And maybe a little patience

    One of My best friends EVER was a guy I dated - once - and absolutely hated even though he was beautiful and we had a similar sense of humor. We ran into each other again later, and having accepted that there was NO reason for us to be romantic, we went on to become the very BEST of friends. I LOVED him. Dearly. It was not a bad deal although not what I thought I initially wanted.

    Too many boys confuse a broken heart with a broken ego.

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    Jun 26, 2012 8:43 PM GMT
    Elusium saidLike 'dis!

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