Crushing on a Guy Over the Internet

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    Jun 25, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    Hey,

    I'm having this crush over some guy I met on Manjam; we talk daily on msn and we talk about everything. I told him I'm having a crush towards him and I completely opened up with him.

    He said I shouldn't do that, we should meet at first; we are both Egyptians but he lives in the states; he said we should see each other first and then see where things wud go.

    He likes me a lot, according to what he says, he calls me his sweetie pie.

    The thing is that till now, we trade pics of each other, we never had a c2c chat. which worries me a bit that he might be fake. He is too cute and too sexy that he wud be into me, usually I fall with guys who are not my type.

    The question now: Am I having a phase of low self esteem?? Am I rushing things too fast??

    Please advise
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    Jun 25, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    Amgad1988 saidAm I rushing things too fast??
    No faster than the stereotypical lesbian.
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    Jun 25, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    From reading your thread title I thought auto correct got the better of you! I've been thereicon_biggrin.gif

    But no I don't crush on guys over the internet because it's pointless unless you get to meet up like in your case. If you're that worried about him being fake just insist on a c2c session with him.
    That should set your mind at ease at bit.
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    Jun 26, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    What is Manjam
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    Jun 26, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    The Internet is fine for meeting people and getting to know someone, but it should be viewed as a starting place. You're excited to meet someone you've connected with, and that's understandable, but you should slow down and wait to meet in person before you decide how you really feel.
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    Jun 26, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    It's internet fun, that's all it is and you have to accept that's all it's pretty much going to be considering the substantial laundry list of why it's not going to be anything more. Enjoy it lightly.
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    Jun 26, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidIt's internet fun, that's all it is and you have to accept that's all it's pretty much going to be considering the substantial laundry list of why it's not going to be anything more. Enjoy it lightly.


    yup.

    Internet is not real, sorry buds icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 26, 2012 3:55 AM GMT
    Amgad1988 saidHey,

    I'm having this crush over some guy I met on Manjam; we talk daily on msn and we talk about everything. I told him I'm having a crush towards him and I completely opened up with him.

    He said I shouldn't do that, we should meet at first; we are both Egyptians but he lives in the states; he said we should see each other first and then see where things wud go.

    He likes me a lot, according to what he says, he calls me his sweetie pie.

    The thing is that till now, we trade pics of each other, we never had a c2c chat. which worries me a bit that he might be fake. He is too cute and too sexy that he wud be into me, usually I fall with guys who are not my type.

    The question now: Am I having a phase of low self esteem?? Am I rushing things too fast??

    Please advise


    I'd proceed with caution. I wish he's fo realz and you two get together. Im a sucker for happy endings
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    Jun 26, 2012 3:58 AM GMT
    Crushing on people online? Thats happened to me more often than I have toes and fingers I'm sure.... its just a crush, try not to take it seriously
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    Jun 26, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    I agree with all of you. I do!

    The thing is he is soooooo good: Personality wise and Physically too; I'm just afraid that if I insisted on C2C he might think am not trusting him and run away. Then i'd be living with the doubt of: "What if he was fo realz"??

    I've been in the phase of being afraid to have c2c before, this is why I may give him his own reasons for it.

    I dunno...
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    Jun 26, 2012 4:05 AM GMT
    Dude, I have talked to someone on facebook daily for the past 8 months. We are soulmates, but he lives in Argentina and I live in Canada. Chances are very slim we will ever meet. We could fall in love, but we won't for that fact alone. And thus, online is not real. Its a nice escape into what could be , but won't be.
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    Jun 26, 2012 4:07 AM GMT
    Impolish saidDude, I have talked to someone on facebook daily for the past 8 months. We are soulmates, but he lives in Argentina and I live in Canada. Chances are very slim we will ever meet. We could fall in love, but we won't for that fact alone. And thus, online is not real. Its a nice escape into what could be , but won't be.


    I feel like am slapped on the face! icon_biggrin.gif

    Great explanation though! THnx! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif

    I headin' off to work, cya guys at night icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 26, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    If there's any chance that you two are going to progress to anything other than Internet buddies, then you're going to have to move to the next level, whatever that is -- cam, phone, etc. If you don't take the risk, you'll never know.
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    Jun 26, 2012 4:18 AM GMT
    To Amgad1988:

    If you have chatted, talked, and shared photos I can maybe see a crush developing because there has been interaction. So don't beat yourself up over it, thinking you have low self esteem. I don't think you do. But I would also suggest pulling yourself back alittle and being realistic. I had a guy fall for me in this way and he literally cried when I told him I only saw us as friends, realizing we would never meet and that we just had too many variables working against us. But I believe in love and if he likes you and is willing to go the equal effort to see what can happen, then go for it. If not, then you can always be pen pals.
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    Jun 26, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    CrankyMcBadass said
    Ariodante saidIt's internet fun, that's all it is and you have to accept that's all it's pretty much going to be considering the substantial laundry list of why it's not going to be anything more. Enjoy it lightly.

    Lightly? So we're not getting married, you cad?


    Where's the e-ring on my e-finger >=| And no e-skimping! I want nothing but the best Google image of the fanciest diamond.
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    Jun 26, 2012 9:17 AM GMT
    its coz u desperately need a lover ...i understand & its very hard to find a gay love in Middle-east
    but happy for u that u feel emotions of love & not just a fuck thing in all


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    Jun 26, 2012 6:01 PM GMT
    guyathome74 saidTo Amgad1988:

    If you have chatted, talked, and shared photos I can maybe see a crush developing because there has been interaction. So don't beat yourself up over it, thinking you have low self esteem. I don't think you do. But I would also suggest pulling yourself back alittle and being realistic. I had a guy fall for me in this way and he literally cried when I told him I only saw us as friends, realizing we would never meet and that we just had too many variables working against us. But I believe in love and if he likes you and is willing to go the equal effort to see what can happen, then go for it. If not, then you can always be pen pals.



    I think ur right; I'm starting to feel this way already, if we're meant to be, then we will be. I believe in that and I think that it happens that someone might love another one over the distance and yet never meet, but there is always a place for him in my heart??

    Maybe in movies, but I know it happens...
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    Jun 26, 2012 7:46 PM GMT
    Amgad1988 saidHey,

    I'm having this crush over some guy I met on Manjam; we talk daily on msn and we talk about everything. I told him I'm having a crush towards him and I completely opened up with him.

    He said I shouldn't do that, we should meet at first; we are both Egyptians but he lives in the states; he said we should see each other first and then see where things wud go.

    He likes me a lot, according to what he says, he calls me his sweetie pie.

    The thing is that till now, we trade pics of each other, we never had a c2c chat. which worries me a bit that he might be fake. He is too cute and too sexy that he wud be into me, usually I fall with guys who are not my type.

    The question now: Am I having a phase of low self esteem?? Am I rushing things too fast??

    Please advise


    He wants to meet - no cam. I would pick a place that was very public and meet him. If I had to guess, you have the sense that something is off I say chances are good it is. Perhaps he thinks he has a better chance of over coming his potential deception in person. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

    I would pick a place situated in a Mall, just in case he is some sort of weirdo. You will at least have security personnel around if something goes wrong. Secondly - park a ways from the proposed meet up site, you don't want him following you if things don't go well.

    Always follow your gut insticts.