BoyFriend Issue - Need Advice


  • Jun 26, 2012 8:26 AM GMT
    I have been dating a guy from past 1.5 months,we were quite good and purely in love.

    Then my parents wanted me to marry to a girl(We are in India and both are BI and will have to get married anytime in future,its just so that im getting married early),I told him this.

    To that he said lets take one months break,In that one month we didnt meet,text or call each other.After break,I thought he would call me but he didnt so I had to call him and forced him to meet.

    He had some misunderstanding which i clarified and he said sorry to me and kissed me.

    I text-ed him next day.but he never responded.I knew again something is wrong.I called him but he was quite rude on phone.He sent me a message on FB saying he felt guilty after meeting me this time and we just complicating each others life and messing it up big time.He said he wants time to get the things settle in his mind.

    After a week he called me but I couldn't pick the call as I was busy,I text-ed him saying Im busy and will get back to him later. To that he replied that,the call was by mistake and there is nothing and sorry to disturb.

    While we were together he deleetd his PlanetRomeo account for me and asked me to have a committed relationship.I was totally fine with him being online and meeting guys.I just wanted him to get back to me.But at that time i was everything to him.

    while on break,he again came online and chatted with a freind of mine and told him that he likes wild sex.I was shattered and stunned.

    Even last time i met him,he asked me not to go online on PR.

    he doesnt even want me to leave neither want to keep.Im still added in FB.

    Im stuck! I love him and love him a lot. I know he cheated me,betrayed me but still I love him.

    any suggestions how to move on??

    I have detailed everything on my blog itsforbiddenlove.blogspot.com
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    Jun 26, 2012 8:31 AM GMT
    You sound like a stalker.
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    Jun 26, 2012 1:07 PM GMT
    Don't try to contact him at all. If he tries to get in touch, don't answer any phone calls, sms or other messages. He doesn't love you. Forget him. What is the point of being together if you're both going to get married to women? What a mess!!!
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    Jun 26, 2012 1:14 PM GMT
    He is not as into you as you are into him.

    Cut all contact. Let the wound heal, dont pick the scabs.
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    Jun 26, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    Oh boy you have decided to get married and want to have him as your bf. This is one recipe for disaster and personally I wouldn't be your bf knowing you are going to get married and be the one you cheat on your wife with.
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    Jun 26, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    asnextdoor saidOh boy you have decided to get married and want to have him as your bf. This is one recipe for disaster and personally I wouldn't be your bf knowing you are going to get married and be the one you cheat on your wife with.


    +1

    what kind of solution is this??....triple disaster icon_sad.gif

  • Jun 26, 2012 4:49 PM GMT
    We were very clear about the marriage even the first time we met I told him that Im getting married,still we invested so much.

    Shall I remove him from FB or give him some more time(as he wanted to take some time to think about that) Even on phone when he was rude,I asked him is this our final call..he said no,just wants time)

    Its not a cheating on wife,as even being these many days together we never had sex ,we even never shagged together, we just used to smooch and have orals.

    After marriage we could have been very good friends.
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    Jun 26, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    marquismagenta saidWe were very clear about the marriage even the first time we met I told him that Im getting married,still we invested so much.

    Shall I remove him from FB or give him some more time(as he wanted to take some time to think about that) Even on phone when he was rude,I asked him is this our final call..he said no,just wants time)

    Its not a cheating on wife,as even being these many days together we never had sex ,we even never shagged together, we just used to smooch and have orals.

    After marriage we could have been very good friends.


    I think oral is qualified for sex, hence oral sex.

    That said what are your expectations from your relationship with this guy after you get married? Would you like to just be friends with no romantic involvement then talk with him. If you would like to keep it going on then are you planning on telling your wife about him?

    I understand the pressure of family and relatives and why you would rather just keep it under covers but is it really fair to the girl you will be married to.

  • Jun 26, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    We talked about this...I just wanted him to be with me whole of my life even though nothing physical would happened.

    Even he said that he want to see me grow old.He would attend my marriage and i would his.

    Shall I remove him from FB or give him time he asked for????
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    Jun 27, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    marquismagenta saidWe talked about this...I just wanted him to be with me whole of my life even though nothing physical would happened.

    Even he said that he want to see me grow old.He would attend my marriage and i would his.

    Shall I remove him from FB or give him time he asked for????


    How is removing him from FB gonna help you? You need to get over him and let it go. It'll be a betrayal to your wife which is not acceptable at all. Above all, how can you forget that once with this guy you had had shared some intimate things.

    Advise is a thing which helps one to lead to a final decision. I gave mine. Let your decision be perfect and more importantly ethical.