Passive Date Requests

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    Jun 27, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    So I asked a guy out from an online dating site and we had a pretty nice first meeting. I didn't hear from him afterward, so I assumed he wasn't interested in a second date. But just for kicks I sent another message, just basically saying "nice to meet you" and referencing some conversation we had during the meeting but didn't explicitly ask him out again. He responded in kind but also didn't ask me out again. So does that mean he surely isn't interested? ( And yes, I know----some will say you should have just asked him out. But that's water under the bridge.) This would be so much easier if it were opposite sex, ugh!

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    Jun 27, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    As I read your post, I immediately went back to that movie "He`s just not that into you". It was the scene where Justin Long was bitching at Ginnifer Goodwin telling her that when a man wants to make it happen, he will. Mind you, he did end up with her so that theory is clearly not always correct.

    In all seriousness, I would follow your instinct on this one. I have been in the same situation and after I made my move, I left it to him to reciprocate. Guys who are interested will give you some sort of lead to inspire you to contact again. My feeling is that if he really wanted to make it happen again, he would have taken you up on your message and opened it up for another meeting. Just my two cents.
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    Jun 27, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
    Yeah. I was thinking more or less the same thing, unfortunately
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    Jun 27, 2012 3:58 AM GMT
    willocdh said This would be so much easier if it were opposite sex, ugh!


    That's because it would be irrelevant !

    If you're interested in this guy, ask him out. Never play games. Keep it simple.
    If you're not interested, don't dwell on it and continue your search.
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    Jun 27, 2012 7:11 AM GMT
    willocdh said This would be so much easier if it were opposite sex, ugh!


    Maybe because you're not into women and don't care if they say "yes" or not.
    Maybe you've never dated a woman and didn't realize there's some serious game playing going on between men and women.

    If either of you were more interested, someone would have made a move. Time to move on to the next one.
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    Jun 27, 2012 7:44 AM GMT
    willocdh said This would be so much easier if it were opposite sex, ugh!



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