Jun 27, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
I am involved In a very complicated situation and I am very torn between two guys! I was with my previous boyfriend for 5 years. the last 2 of which we lived together. The relationship started off great,.until we moved in together! After moving in together, it started to go downhill. We began fighting, and as time went by, we began fighting even more, and the intimacy and sex became less and less. we had some really good times together, but the fighting got to the point where things got sooo bad, that I decided to move away closer to my family and attempted to end the relationship, he got so hurt by this that it turned into him becoming physical with me and beat me up pretty good! Not to mention afterwards he threatened suicide,. I did leave, and while broken up I ended up meeting someone else unexpectedly, the new guy is very nice and even ha so his life in order,.and looking to purchase a successful business. I have been dating him for awhile now, and I like everything about him aside from the fact that he is a little more fem than I prefer, but although it bothers me its something I think I can overlook due to the fact that I adore everything else about him... Now my ex wants me to move back and try to work things out, of which I dont want to do because although we have gotten along to the point where we can have good conversations and ive spent time witjhe him and it was like old times when I thought he was the one. But we still fight everytime we bring up our relationship,.because he wants me to move back with him, and try to work out our relationship cuz he wants me back, and im not sure I want to? My dilemma is what to do? Should I end things with the new guy to try to work things out? Or should I pursue the new guy.and end and cut all ties with my ex? the new guy is sooo sweet and nice that I really dont want to hurt him in any way! And me cutting ties to go back to my ex that may not even work out due to all our issues we have had..... But I also wonder if due to our long past that maybe I should try to work things out one more time... But I dont want to end things with the new guy cuz we get along really well, and he is ssoo sweet to me, I would feel horrible to break his heart,just to try to work things out with my ex, that may end up not working out anyway.... So what should I do? Do I try to work things out with my ex on hopes that we we.could rekindle our relationship,.or move on and pursue things further with the new guy? Please help, cuz I am so torn with what to do?