Cenarion saidHave you ever been in the position where, your on a date, and the other guy does not make the first move....Then you eventually run out of conversation topics, and the smooching has yet to commence...
If so, I ask those of you that know how to incite a close up to post your wisdom for those of us that well, don't have such vast experience LOL. thanks in advance!
This in a nutshell sums up why gay guys (and probably straights too) have such relationship problems. We don't know what else to say so lets jump to the seduction, usually in hopes of scoring a little mattress time because we don't have much else to offer.
You don't say whether this is a first date or not or whether you are looking for a long term relationship or just a one-night-stand with the date as just a pretense so you don't look like a complete and total whore. No judgement here. Lord knows I've had my share of one-night-stands; I just don't kid myself by pretending it's something it is not. But i digress. For the sake of argument I am going to assume you are hoping this date will lead to a long term relationship.
If it is a long term relationship you are looking for, what's the rush? If you have run out of things to say or do maybe it is time for the date to come to a close. Maybe you could say something like: "Wow, look at the time! I can't believe how late it is! Man, I've really had a great time but I have an early appointment I cannot be late for. I hope we can do this again very soon. How about ." As you are ending this monologue, lean in and give him a goodnight kiss him on the cheek.
(N.B., Always let you date know you have an early appointment. That way you always have a ready excuse to call it a night early if the date is not going well. If the date is going well, you can always say that you will cancel the apopointment. Your date will be impressed that you would do that for him).
If you have run out of things to say and do early in the date, may I suggest you work on making yourself a more interesting person who has something more to offer than a pair of lips and cock. That or find more interesting guys to date.
In short, a kiss should be a spontaneous show of genuine affection and not a dead air filler in a strained conversation.