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Say the man has a job where you were able to see him do his thing..

You meet him, fondness grows, then you see him at work and he's either really terrible at what he does, or else he does it in a way you have no respect for.

Example, a server who gets orders wrong, is rude to customers, has his thumb in the food as he carries the plate. But he treats you well and you like most of the rest of him.

Yay or Nay?

SkinnyBitch said
Would you date someone who was sucky at their job?

Not if their job was dating me.

I dont think he'll have his job very long if he is sucky at it. So with that in mind he would be bouncing from job to job sucking at it long time and well, I dont think I could handle that. How am I supposed to work with an ever changing schedule?

Yes, as long as he is not mean to people. As long as he has a job it doesn't really matter. Good jobs are hard to come by these days!

If his job is in the adult entertainment business, the suckier he is, the better he'll be at it.

I take pride in all the work I do... even the crappy jobs. So I don't think it could work out with someone who didn't. I might be able to look past the bad for the short term but ultimately things would not work out.

SkinnyBitch saidSay the man has a job where you were able to see him do his thing..

You meet him, fondness grows, then you see him at work and he's either really terrible at what he does, or else he does it in a way you have no respect for.

Example, a server who gets orders wrong, is rude to customers, has his thumb in the food as he carries the plate. But he treats you well and you like most of the rest of him.

Yay or Nay?

this sounds more like someone who "doesn't give a crap" as opposed to someone who "tries but is not good at his job." if he tried and simply failed a lot it would be waaay more forgivable than someone who had no ambition or appreciation for his work.

^Agrees with SkinnyBitch

I don't think I would know enough about his job to know if he was good at it or not. And if he was bad his job I imagine he wouldn't have that job for long.

What about like a pro athlete, who had bad stats, fans didn't like him, but he'd be fine financially since he got paid plenty or had job security? He tries hard, but just doesn't perform that well or buckles under the pressure.

Would that be a boner killer for you?

There are tons of people out there who suck at their jobs, and lots of them are dating people or married. Either the partner doesn't know or isn't bothered that much by it.

SkinnyBitch saidWhat about like a pro athlete, who had bad stats, fans didn't like him, but he'd be fine financially since he got paid plenty or had job security? He tries hard, but just doesn't perform that well or buckles under the pressure.

Would that be a boner killer for you?

There are tons of people out there who suck at their jobs, and lots of them are dating people or married. Either the partner doesn't know or isn't bothered that much by it.

Unless I was a better pro athlete than him, I would keep my mouth shut and realize I have no room to talk.

Who cares? If it's just a job to pay the bills while he's in school or something then that really has nothing to do with my relationship with him. Maybe he'll have some funny stories from work.

it shouldn't matter more about taking orders wrong, but if he is trying to do his job, i dont see why it should matter whether you date him or not, you're not dating his job, but its a different thing if he is an overall rude person to anyone, that means he shouldn't be partial about treating people worse and then treat you with all outmost respect, Just don't work like that!! Just my two cents...

^ FYI It's a hypothetical sitch, I'm not dating anyone. I was watching something with a hot guy who was sucky at his job and I noted that it would be interesting to see what the gays would say about it.

A doctor who misses diagnoses, recommends things that make it worse...
A lawyer who loses most of his cases...

I'm not asking about prestige, but about whether your partner's ability or lack thereof is attractive.

As long as he tries hard but sucks at it, ok it doesn't bother me.

If he's lazy though, I wouldn't be attracted.

He should love his job and want to be the best at it.

I work at McDonald's. Shit happens. You get used to it.

Yes, in my case, because we both hold the same job at the same level; each others excellence only serves to inspire.

As long as the person is trying to do his job to the best he can.

Bullwinklemoos saidI work at McDonald's. Shit happens. You get used to it.

I got fired from McDonald's in 1991 cause I cooked the burgers too long (going by the timer back then left the meat bloody).

BTW, that particular store was mysteriously under new ownership within two weeks of my being fired.

paulflexes said

Bullwinklemoos saidI work at McDonald's. Shit happens. You get used to it.

I got fired from McDonald's in 1991 cause I cooked the burgers too long (going by the timer back then left the meat bloody).

BTW, that particular store was mysteriously under new ownership within two weeks of my being fired.

Really? It's so easy to accidentally overcook or undercook the burgers.

SkinnyBitch said
Would you date someone who was sucky at his job?
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Example, a server who gets orders wrong, is rude to customers, has his thumb in the food as he carries the plate. But he treats you well and you like most of the rest of him.
Yay or Nay?

Everyone has bad days or moments, and may be rude due to their temporary frustration. This can sometimes be understandable and excusable. ... But if some is always badmouthing without any redeeming words of praise, then no, I wouldn't have much to do with that person no matter how well he might treat me. IMO such a person would eventually turn on me, just a matter of time.
Some people suck at what they do because they really should be doing something else, and that isn't always possible.

SkinnyBitch saidSay the man has a job where you were able to see him do his thing..

You meet him, fondness grows, then you see him at work and he's either really terrible at what he does, or else he does it in a way you have no respect for.

Example, a server who gets orders wrong, is rude to customers, has his thumb in the food as he carries the plate. But he treats you well and you like most of the rest of him.

Yay or Nay?

If he does a bad job purposely, yeah probably. Still, I'm willing to overlook it if he's seriously looking for another job though. Sometimes people are bad a their job if they really hate it. Sometimes, there's good reason.

Good post! Makes you think.

It has been my experience that usually someone who does their job poorly (that is without concern or diligence) usually doesn't have it together in the other areas of their life as well.

Work is certainly not everything, but a lack of good work performance is a lack of respect for your income, employer, and those you serve at work. I know people that hate their jobs but are the best at what they do, why? "self-respect" and respect for others.

So to answer your question, for me the answer is simple "no", but it is unlikely I would have entered into a relationship or even a dating situation with someone like this.

All someone need do is open their mouth and they reveal all that is within if one listens closely.

There are only some jobs that, were they to be done incorrectly, that you should ditch the guy that you're seeing:
- Hand Job
- Blow Job
- Rim Job