For me, I somewhat want kids, but I had an epiphany when I was visiting my friend's house last weekend and her 4 month old cousin was sitting in his chair. She told me to hold him, and I was like "wtf? How?".
I don't know shit about kids, and idk if I should have one.
Hook your hands under the kid’s armpits and lift. Gently squeeze the kid's torso. If you keep your elbows at your sides, you’ll be face to face with the baby. (Man, this sounds like teaching proper form for lifting weights.) At about four months, the kid will just kinda hang there and stare at you.
For very young babies, you have to cradle the kid and support its head, because its neck muscles aren’t strong enough.
Relax, these are all learned behaviors. We aren’t born with the genetic knowledge of how to hold a baby. You have to be told, or learn from observation. Fortunately you don’t have to learn everything all at once. Eventually, amazingly, you are able to distinguish (in pre-verbal kids) the “I’m hungry” cry from the “I’m tired” cry or the “I’m hurt” cry.
I myself didn’t know shit about kids, and felt awkward and self-conscious around small humans until I began raising a brood myself.