Does someone's living city turn you off?

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    Jun 29, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    Example: Super Uber Gay cities= Central Phoenix, South Beach, San Fran, Fire Island, Chelsea...

    I sometimes am, I initially think they r there to be in arms reach of everything gay. Doesn't seem very progressive. Like back lashing the progress of the point of being 'everywhere'.
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    Jun 29, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    uh, no.
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    Jun 29, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    No. I'm not saying this to you specifically, but it seems like people seriously are looking for the bad in people before they get to meet them.

    "This guy seems great but he's too [fat, skinny, tall, short, light, dark, has a long face, has a short face, teeth not white enough, lives in the wrong city, lives in the wrong state], ect, ect,"

    People aren't perfect so don't expect them to be. You'll find someone and be happier that way.
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    Jun 29, 2012 1:39 AM GMT
    Josh1992 saidNo. I'm not saying this to you specifically, but it seems like people seriously are looking for the bad in people before they get to meet them.

    "This guy seems great but he's too [fat, skinny, tall, short, light, dark, has a long face, has a short face, teeth not white enough, lives in the wrong city, lives in the wrong state], ect, ect,"

    People aren't perfect so don't expect them to be. You'll find someone and be happier that way.


    Oh, Josh....
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    Jun 29, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    Man, we all sure do look for a lot of things to be deal breakers.
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    Jun 29, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidMan, we all sure do look for a lot of things to be deal breakers.


    Gotta fill the day with something, it's either deal breakers or TBS.
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    Jun 29, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    South Beach is not "super gay" anymore. Its gay days have dwindled, but it's still an awesome place - gay or straight.
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    Jun 29, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidMan, we all sure do look for a lot of things to be deal breakers.
    I won't date people who look for deal breakers. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 29, 2012 1:58 AM GMT
    fasterpace saidLike back lashing the progress of the point of being 'everywhere'.

    What does this mean?
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    Jun 29, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    lol wut
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    Jun 29, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    Caslon19000 said
    fasterpace saidLike back lashing the progress of the point of being 'everywhere'.

    What does this mean?


    I think what he means is that gays confining themselves to locations that have a significant gay population is taking a step back. To move forward, he believes we need to assimilate ourselves with the general population.
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    Jun 29, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    CrankySpice said
    paulflexes said
    Iceblink saidMan, we all sure do look for a lot of things to be deal breakers.
    I won't date people who look for deal breakers. icon_razz.gif

    I see what you did there.
    Shush, you! I'm trying to be incognito. icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 29, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    I only date guys from the 909. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 29, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI only date guys from the 909. icon_lol.gif



    I won't. That's too painful on my rotary dial.
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    Jun 29, 2012 2:59 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidSouth Beach is not "super gay" anymore. Its gay days have dwindled, but it's still an awesome place - gay or straight.

    Correct. And Central Phoenix is Super Uber Gay? SF obviously, but Fire Island is a modest summer beach enclave, not a full-service city, that you reach via passenger ferry.

    But as for gay "progress" by not congregating, I rather think it's strength (and safety) in numbers to gather together. Not to mention enjoy together. There are many things the gay community favors that it won't find in a straight-majority locale. And we dilute our influence when we're spread so thin that we're single numbers. And believe me, I've lived in communities like that.

    I think we make a stronger statement as a visible, coherent community within a larger straight one, than being spread out and largely invisible as disconnected individuals.
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    Jun 29, 2012 3:06 AM GMT
    AriodanteGotta fill the day with something, it's either deal breakers or TBS.


    TBS should have a show called Deal Breakers... You might be onto something here...
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    Jun 29, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    If they live in Houston (which is where I live now) I actually am somewhat not interested. Main reason is I don't want to get stuck here or tied down. Want to move as soon as I graduate and go explore some new places.

    Born and raised in Texas but I want to get out.
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    Jun 29, 2012 3:47 PM GMT
    yeah, no.
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    Jun 29, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    Hmm, you might be over-complicating an already limited dating pool.
  • Pontifex

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    Jun 29, 2012 6:54 PM GMT
    In a way, yes.I'm not really looking for a long distance thing right now but Im here mainly to talk. You never know what might happen but the location someone lives in does not have much impact on how i think of them.
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    Jun 29, 2012 7:07 PM GMT
    Lord yes....icon_wink.gif

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    Jun 29, 2012 7:11 PM GMT
    malefeet saidLord yes....icon_wink.gif

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    Jun 29, 2012 7:12 PM GMT
    malefeet saidLord yes....icon_wink.gif

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    I resent that map saying there's nothing in Illinois, and for not including Indiana in the KKK.
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    Jun 29, 2012 7:13 PM GMT
    No. But I agree that where we live defines us in many ways.

    Was just thinking today that I think it's really sexy when the typical narrative is reversed: instead of the rural gay guy relocating to the uber-gay city for the relationship, the city guy moves to the country. Now, that's love icon_smile.gif

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    Jun 29, 2012 7:21 PM GMT
    As pointed out, I think the OP is on a path that leads to a very lonely, shallow existence. If you're this selective now, what happens when you find a great guy and then you're ten years down the line? Because I guarantee he'll have developed some feature that you find unacceptable. Hell, it doesn't even take ten years.

    This reminds me in some ways of my parents. As they've become older, they no longer engage anything that takes them out of a very well-defined comfort zone. I think if you're going to lead an interesting and complete life, you have to expose yourself to a wider spectrum of experiences, and develop tolerance for things not going your way all the time.