Feeling of being stuck

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    Jun 29, 2012 5:37 AM GMT
    What do you when you're feeling stuck, frustrated, like nothing is working out as it should or could be? Currently feeling like I'm in a rut and nothing I do seems to be working. Home, family, job, relationship or lack thereof icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:40 AM GMT
    Now would be a great time for you to pick up skydiving!
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    If I were you I'd look in the mirror and say "holy fuck dude, your abs are hot!"

    Then I'd stop feeling sorry for myself and put the same effort into making things better as I did in making my abs hotter.
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:42 AM GMT
    Saber170 saidNow would be a great time for you to pick up skydiving!
    But probably not a good time to be the skydiving pilot that operates the plane. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:49 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Saber170 saidNow would be a great time for you to pick up skydiving!
    But probably not a good time to be the skydiving pilot that operates the plane. icon_lol.gif


    Hah yeah stay away from that unless you want to add money to your list of ruts. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 29, 2012 6:06 AM GMT
    Find creative ways to relieve frustration ^_^

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    Jun 29, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    Sounds like you might be having an
    Existential Crisis!
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    Jun 29, 2012 1:13 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidIf I were you I'd look in the mirror and say "holy fuck dude, your abs are hot!"

    Then I'd stop feeling sorry for myself and put the same effort into making things better as I did in making my abs hotter.

    ill try that out next time I shower hehe. Not really feeling sorry for myself, just frustrated. Maybe a vacation is in order.
    @GAM, I read it and its very comforting so thanks.

    I heard skydiving is a big rush. Too bad I don't like heights.
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    Jun 29, 2012 1:15 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidFind creative ways to relieve frustration ^_^

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    hehe any other recommendations?
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:18 PM GMT
    sanjose470 said
    Ariodante saidFind creative ways to relieve frustration ^_^

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    hehe any other recommendations?


    icon_eek.gif No I think this is the best recommendation
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    Yes.
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:20 PM GMT
    Daddymugs...fagsmut...

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    Jun 29, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    sanjose470 saidWhat do you when you're feeling stuck, frustrated, like nothing is working out as it should or could be? Currently feeling like I'm in a rut and nothing I do seems to be working. Home, family, job, relationship or lack thereof icon_confused.gif


    I was in this place a couple of years back. So I left and divorced my wife of 22 years and moved in with my new boyfriend; that took care of the home, family, and relationship rut. A week after the divorce I lost my job; that took care of the job rut. Five months later I'm still looking for one.

    Somethings just have a way of working themselves out. Right about now I'd like to find a nice comfortable rut to settle into for a while.

    Perspective my man, perspective.
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    sanjose470 saidWhat do you when you're feeling stuck, frustrated, like nothing is working out as it should or could be? Currently feeling like I'm in a rut and nothing I do seems to be working. Home, family, job, relationship or lack thereof icon_confused.gif


    I was in this place a couple of years back. So I left and divorced my wife of 22 years and moved in with my new boyfriend; that took care of the home, family, and relationship rut. A week after the divorce I lost my job; that took care of the job rut. Five months later I'm still looking for one.

    Somethings just have a way of working themselves out. Right about now I'd like to find a nice comfortable rut to settle into for a while.

    Perspective my man, perspective.

    you're right. I'm very patient, trust me. Sometimes you get to a point where you start asking yourself "what am I doing?" Just the way I felt last night. Wish I had your "perspective "
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    Jun 29, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidSounds like you might be having an
    Existential Crisis!

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    Reading that then This gif!
    I need a cigarrette.... icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 29, 2012 7:54 PM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    GAMRican saidSounds like you might be having an
    Existential Crisis!

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    Reading that then This gif!
    I need a cigarrette.... icon_eek.gif

    I'm on my phone so the GIF wasn't upholding its purpose. I'm with you on that cigarette BTW.
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    Jun 29, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    maybe i should start by dating. havent done thaat yet icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 29, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    sanjose470 saidWhat do you when you're feeling stuck, frustrated, like nothing is working out as it should or could be? Currently feeling like I'm in a rut and nothing I do seems to be working. Home, family, job, relationship or lack thereof icon_confused.gif


    Look into Bach Flower Essences. Emotional health remedies.
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    Jun 30, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    A) What are you doing now ?
    B) How's that working for you ?
    C) Try doing something different.
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    Jun 30, 2012 1:39 AM GMT
    remember that life is like a turning wheel: bad times (like good times) will come and go. this doesn't mean that you shouldn't take the opportunity to self-examine what is going on in your life, what you're not happy with, and how you'd like to see it change.

    i believe that even in failure, there are learning opportunities. every successful person has experienced at least as many (if not more) failures in life. the thing that makes them successful is that they learn from mistakes and bad experiences, and use it to reposition themselves. it means that you can't let the challenges bring you down, but rather see them as opportunities to grow and refine what is/isn't working for you, and how you should adjust your direction, technique, or strategy.

    only you can answer those problems - different solutions are already in your head. good luck!
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    Jun 30, 2012 1:16 PM GMT
    set a goal? nothing to hard but something worth while.
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    Jun 30, 2012 1:30 PM GMT
    I think everybody can have some challenging moments along these lines... totally normal. I think it imiportant to focus on the good things that have happened in the past. Very easy to get your mind focused on a bunch of bad things... try to stand back and evaluate objectively.

    Also don't do the, "it always happens to me" sort of thinking. It doesn't always happen to you and if you think it does.... are you contributing to that outcome?

    Stay grounded, things will turn around.
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    Jun 30, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    sanjose470 saidSometimes you get to a point where you start asking yourself "what am I doing?"

    A question that men your age often ask themselves, as they see their 20s running out, and wonder what their life beyond 30 is going to be like.

    We tend to view our 20s as our exploratory & planning years, our 30s and beyond as our settled & established years. But as 30 approaches, some of us think: "I'm not ready yet! Is this gonna be the pattern for the rest of my life? I want a second opinion, another chance, more options!"

    Do you feel any of that? It's kinda normal. The trick is in realizing that you can keep reinventing yourself your whole life if you want. Which incurs its own risks in terms of instability and more opportunities for new mistakes & failures. But at least you do have a choice, especially for the man who hates ruts, repetition, second-best situations, and boredom, and maybe wants a little adventure and new challenges.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:03 PM GMT
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    paulflexes said
    Saber170 saidNow would be a great time for you to pick up skydiving!
    But probably not a good time to be the skydiving pilot that operates the plane. icon_lol.gif


    Hah yeah stay away from that unless you want to add money to your list of ruts. icon_lol.gif
    $10/hr at 10-15 hrs/wk is not much money. icon_lol.gif (that's what skydive pilots get paid - it's a p/t job with a flooded market)
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    Thanks for the feedback. Routines aren't bad but if they don't satisfy you mentally, emotionally, or physically then a change is in order. Like Webster and some others have said, probably a good time to evaluate. Now that I read my OP, I sound like a whiner lol. So much in life we, or I, take for granted. On a side note, I was leaving work the other day and I started talking to another employee about real estate. He wants to sell his house but in the near future. I asked why and he said he can't afford it anymore because his wife has ALS and has been given 6 months to live which was 6 months ago. He's just waiting til his wife dies. It got me really sad and made me think about how I have been living my life and taking my family, friends, life for granted. OK, just wanted to share. Thanks again.