Do you respond to all your messages?

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    Jun 29, 2012 8:35 AM GMT
    I'm just wondering what the eitquette is on this site.

    I respond to guys I fancy (obviously) and I thank people for comments....but sometimes I ignore guys that hot list me/unlock their pics for me.

    This site is nothing like the British ones i've been on before, so just wondering what the consensus was.

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  • Karl

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    Jun 29, 2012 9:22 AM GMT
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    except those messages from sock accounts or accounts with no photo.
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    Jun 29, 2012 9:27 AM GMT
    Karl saidyes m027.gif
    except those messages from sock accounts or accounts with no photo.

    But your a sweetheart Karl icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 29, 2012 11:44 AM GMT
    I'm guessing sock accounts are fake accounts? In the UK we just call them fake or trolling profiles.....but I like the idea of them having a name icon_biggrin.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Jun 29, 2012 11:51 AM GMT
    I'm pretty good when it comes to this, though rarely do I respond to photoless profiles.
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    Jun 29, 2012 12:07 PM GMT
    I answer most, though sometimes I defer when I'm busy, and then I may forget as more messages pile up. I deliberately don't answer guys on fishing expeditions who just joined, especially from 3rd-World countries.

    Complimenting me, or worse, being sexually explicit on the first e-mail, is the best way to get me to block a profileless newbie. The few times I've tried to engage them the subject invariably turns to discussions of their financial situation, an obvious scam. So now I don't answer anyone not already established on RJ.
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    Jun 29, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    Messages without content like Hi, Sup, not necessary to respond.

    Photo compliments: Many don't respond, but at least a simple thank you is polite.

    Hot List: same

    Messages with explicit, unwelcome content: Ignore

    Messages polite indicating some interest: From other threads, many say they don't respond, saying that is more polite than a blunt not interested. May be so, but I think it is bad manners to ignore a polite message. You can indicate lack of interest politely.

    Messages from new, empty profiles, especially if they want you to respond outside of RJ to an email address. Ignore. Likely scam.

    Messages that are polite: bad manners not to respond. Not required to engage in discussions back and forth, though. Some disagree here about even a response to a first message. Decide for yourself.
  • Hothouse

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    Jun 29, 2012 12:32 PM GMT
    I try to answer any message I get here. I don't get that many, so it's not a big deal.
    I especially like to say thanks when someone leaves a photo comment.
    I can understand if a guy is popular and gets a lot of messages that he might not be able to keep up with responding - but, for me, that's not a problem.
  • calibro

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    Jun 29, 2012 4:27 PM GMT
    if they don't ask me to unlock my private pics, then yes
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    Jun 29, 2012 4:38 PM GMT
    98% of the times I respond, unless they're messages like:

    "So, when you gonna let me on that ass?" orrrrrr messages like that one time when someone wrote me a full poem expressing how much they loved me and I had never even spoken to them...that was kinda strange and I honestly had no idea what to say in response lol

    Edit: Oh all hotlistings and photo comments get definite replies....common courtesy.
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    Jun 29, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
    Sometimes.
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    Jun 29, 2012 4:40 PM GMT
    Yes. I'll say "thanks", even to an account with no photo and no information. Doesn't cost me anything but a few seconds.
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    Jun 29, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    Yes, 99% of the time. Even the "creepy messages", I will usually at least send a "thanks for the message, but no thanks for the offer". Same with photo-less profiles, I'll send a "thank you, why no pic"? and it usually scares them away.

    For every hot list or photo comment, I send a "thank you".
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    Jun 29, 2012 4:43 PM GMT
    If they're people I know, yeah....but a lot of them, no.

    I recently got in "trouble" for not responding to what was, in my opinion, an extremely creepy message that I feel like 90% of people would have ignored - it was from someone I didn't know, had never spoken to, and the story was so weird...and then I got called a dick for not responding to it.
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    Jun 29, 2012 4:45 PM GMT
    I ignore when they say anything along the lines of sex. If they ask my sexual orientation. If they cannot spell words correctly or are just stupid statements in general.
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    Jun 29, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    I respond to most e-mails, unless their an obvious troll, appear to be after only sex, or don't say much like "sup."

    I don't send thank you's for picture comments, buddy listings, or hot listings anymore. It's too awkward. If someone wants to start a conversation with me, they can send an e-mail.
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    Jun 29, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    Yes generally.

    If someone has taken the time to write a message it's the polite thing to do. The only time I ignore them is if they are asking to see my private photos (which btw aren't even dirty icon_lol.gif )
  • jim_sf

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    Jun 29, 2012 4:53 PM GMT
    I always reply, at least to the first message - even if it's just to thank them for hotlisting/unlocking/complimenting. Further replies will depend on context.
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    Jun 29, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    CrankySpice said
    The only messages I don't respond to are along the lines of "I read yr profile and I know u and I r meant 2 b together I am living in Bulgaria pls send plane fare so we can be together forevr"


    Or a supposedly US profile that starts out with "I love you."

    To be fair, though, I serioudly doubt that we get the volume of come-one messages that the younger guys do, so we don't really face the same issue.
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    Jun 29, 2012 4:55 PM GMT
    I only respond to messages that use song lyrics in the title.
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:00 PM GMT
    I answer to all messages , except for the ones that say " can you unlock " without a " Hello " or any kind of acknoledgment toward you as a person .
    I think it is common courteasy to answer back when the person sending you a message has taken the time out of their busy life to write you these well thought words
  • Splendidus_1

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    Jun 29, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    7Famark saidIf they're people I know, yeah....but a lot of them, no.

    I recently got in "trouble" for not responding to what was, in my opinion, an extremely creepy message that I feel like 90% of people would have ignored - it was from someone I didn't know, had never spoken to, and the story was so weird...and then I got called a dick for not responding to it.


    My mail to 7Famark -- the extremely creepy message, the story that was so weird:

    "Random story: It seems my subconscient thought it'd be cool "throwing" you into my dream last night as a guy who went to my college (which I recognized from RJ).

    I guess that would be all ....and oh! I like sharing random facts/stories, that's all."


    This is the exact quote. I found it random and I said I liked sharing random stories, and I simply recognized your face in the middle of the crowd. I'm guessing you have low standards when it comes to consider something creepy icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:09 PM GMT
    I've dreamt about people I don't/have not ever spoken to before...but I didn't rush off to send them a message. *shrug* Could have led into it with a "hey, what's up?"

    Tactics.
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:09 PM GMT
    I dont usually reply to buddy listings, hotlistings, or photo unlocks.. i reply to actual messages at all times here though
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    Jun 29, 2012 5:10 PM GMT
    Yes