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    Jun 30, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    is it normal to be in touch with a guy via, txt and sometimes phone calls and he keeps telling you he misses you and loves you but in the past 2 months has not made an effort to meet despite of me asking a few times, but he always saying he is very busy with work and he needs me to be patient?

    I am just not getting it icon_eek.gif The trill factor is dying rapidly.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:24 AM GMT
    graphicabc saidis it normal to be in touch with a guy via, txt and sometimes phone calls and he keeps telling you he misses you and loves you but in the past 2 months has not made an effort to meet despite of me asking a few times, but he always saying he is very busy with work and he needs me to be patient?

    I am just not getting it icon_eek.gif


    RED FLAG.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    yes red for sure, but what is he up to? I mean is he living in lala land?
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    You don't seem to be a priority in his life. If he can't find the time in 2 months to make a simple 5 minute phone call then he is up to something. Where is he? Prison?
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    no he calls at times, but we live in the same town, he can not even arrange to meet for a cup of coffee, this is ridiculous. I am wanting not to return his emails, txt or phone calls

    His last txt read "i really love you, your an amazing lovely guy and when i say i love you i mean it." icon_eek.gif.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    graphicabc saidno he calls at times, but we live in the same town, he can not even arrange to meet for a cup of coffee, this is ridiculous. I am wanting not to return his emails, txt or phone calls

    His last txt read "i really love you, your an amazing lovely guy and when i say i love you i mean it." icon_eek.gif.


    Well, same thing. if he can't even meet for 5 minutes then something is fishy.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    graphicabc saidno he calls at times, but we live in the same town, he can not even arrange to meet for a cup of coffee, this is ridiculous. I am wanting not to return his emails, txt or phone calls

    His last txt read "i really love you, your an amazing lovely guy and when i say i love you i mean it." icon_eek.gif.


    Dude if he lives close, and is telling you these things, but dodging meeting you in person, something is definitely wrong. Tell him how you feel.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    aside from the priority thing, is it normal for a guy to say he loves another guy or misses him, based on a picture or 2 and txt and phone calls at times?
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    graphicabc saidaside from the priority thing, is it normal for a guy to say he loves another guy or misses him, based on a picture or 2 and txt and phone calls at times?


    NO.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    i told him how i feel, he says be patient that he works night shifts and shit like that. I had a few up and downs about this topic, i am almost tired of me hearing asking him out.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    he's just stringing you along and has no interest in actually meeting you. Probably because he's not who he says he is. Dump him.

    Anybody interested in you will find the time for a meeting.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    Yes, it is very normal for someone who has completely misrepresented himself.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    If someone makes you an Option, don't make them a Priority. You're only hurting yourself.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    graphicabc saidaside from the priority thing, is it normal for a guy to say he loves another guy or misses him, based on a picture or 2 and txt and phone calls at times?


    It's a sign of an extreme fantacist who doesn't want the bubble of self-delusion to be burst by an imposing reality.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    wow, so you guys think he is not who he is. well something weird happened today, when he called my home, i got his name under call display, so I did a search online, found his resume, it said pretty much what he already had told me about him, his education etc... when i pointed it out to him, he said he never posted it online, so i cut and pasted a few lines and txt him. He was then at work and said when he gets home he will check it out.

    funny thing is that he said he never posted a resume online, but after 5 min, it was removed from that site. This is very strange and suspicious to me.

    Why anyone misrepresenting themselves get a kick of stringing me along?
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    graphicabc said
    Why anyone misrepresenting themselves get a kick of stringing me along?
    You answered your own question.
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    Jun 30, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    graphicabc saidyes red for sure, but what is he up to? I mean is he living in lala land?



    Why does it matter? Maybe the right guy is passing you by while you are wasting your time trying figure out this guy that nothing will come of. If he can't find at least a little bit of time some afternoon or evening within the last two months, he's never going to find the time.
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    Jun 30, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    fake pics or married.
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    Jun 30, 2012 11:58 AM GMT
    Havent we heard this before from the op? I remember a similar question posted months ago. I smelly something fishy, and it's not Edwards upper lip...
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    Jun 30, 2012 12:04 PM GMT
    graphicabc saidno he calls at times, but we live in the same town, he can not even arrange to meet for a cup of coffee, this is ridiculous. I am wanting not to return his emails, txt or phone calls

    His last txt read "i really love you, your an amazing lovely guy and when i say i love you i mean it." icon_eek.gif.


    Can you clarify something here? Are you in a relationship with this guy? If so how long have you been dating?
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    Jun 30, 2012 12:13 PM GMT
    well yes, i posted it a while back, but it has continued despite me wanting to end it. I was not firm with him, so it dragged on. I am trying to make a final decision to close this whole chapter.

    No, I do not even call it a realtionship, since I have not meet him face to face, he send me 2 pictures of him about 2.5 months ago and nothing since, despite of me asking for more pics et... I am really thinking that he is not what he says he is.
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    Jun 30, 2012 12:29 PM GMT
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    No, I do not even call it a realtionship, since I have not meet him face to face, he send me 2 pictures of him about 2.5 months ago and nothing since, despite of me asking for more pics et... I am really thinking that he is not what he says he is.


    Sounds like complete fantasy to me. For this guy to say he "loves you" having never meet you F2F is rediculous. Please don't misunderstand me this doesn't mean your not worthy of love, but love shouldn't be used in such a loose context I feel.

    Sounds like typical CL nonsense. Stop wasting your time, no one is that busy.
    We all deserve "the real deal".

    This guy has mislead you either in representation (photos) or his willingness to connect with you or anyone.

    Cut him off and end this, obviously it is having an emotional affect on you.

    Do something positive to replace this activity, connect with a local social group and start meeting guys F2F before engaging in intimate discussions.

    Don't beat yourself up over this either, we all want to believe we live in a perfect world with genuine people who want to do right by us. His behavior isn't a reflection on you but himself.

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    Jun 30, 2012 12:42 PM GMT
    graphicabc saidno he calls at times, but we live in the same town, he can not even arrange to meet for a cup of coffee, this is ridiculous. I am wanting not to return his emails, txt or phone calls

    His last txt read "i really love you, your an amazing lovely guy and when i say i love you i mean it." icon_eek.gif.



    Yes, this is normal for a married guy who's cheating on his wife or boyfriend. They feel guilty about actually having sex with someone else, so they create this fantasy romance to give them a taste of what an affair might feel like. I've met many many guys like this over the years and they always wind up being married. Hell, I even had one guy sending me money and clothing even though we had never met. One guy called me at least twice a day and told me how much he loved me (I was young and naive). icon_rolleyes.gif He made me mixed tapes that he had recorded filled with classic love songs and he recorded his own voice telling me how much he loved me between the songs. icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 30, 2012 12:59 PM GMT
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    graphicabc saidno he calls at times, but we live in the same town, he can not even arrange to meet for a cup of coffee, this is ridiculous. I am wanting not to return his emails, txt or phone calls

    His last txt read "i really love you, your an amazing lovely guy and when i say i love you i mean it." icon_eek.gif.



    Yes, this is normal for a married guy who's cheating on his wife or boyfriend. They feel guilty about actually having sex with someone else, so they create this fantasy romance to give them a taste of what an affair might feel like. I've met many many guys like this over the years and they always wind up being married. Hell, I even had one guy sending me money and clothing even though we had never met. One guy called me at least twice a day and told me how much he loved me (I was young and naive). icon_rolleyes.gif He made me mixed tapes that he had recorded filled with classic love songs and he recorded his own voice telling me how much he loved me between the songs. icon_confused.gif



    "Fantasy Romance" that is exactly what this is!
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    Jun 30, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
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    graphicabc saidno he calls at times, but we live in the same town, he can not even arrange to meet for a cup of coffee, this is ridiculous. I am wanting not to return his emails, txt or phone calls

    His last txt read "i really love you, your an amazing lovely guy and when i say i love you i mean it." icon_eek.gif.



    Yes, this is normal for a married guy who's cheating on his wife or boyfriend.
    You beat me to it.