Conversating

  • Joeyphx444

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    Jun 30, 2012 11:19 AM GMT
    So just a question. If you are messaging someone for the first time or they message you and their responses are short or don't ask anything back, is that good enough evidence that they aren't really interested?

    Example:

    You: Hey, what's up?
    Them: Nothing
    You:What's your name?
    Them:John
    ETC

    I always wonder why people can't say, I am John and you? Or even generate their own questions for you. It's like your interviewing someone. I see on so many profiles that people want someone who can keep a conversation going. I guess it's so you can keep it going so they don't have to icon_razz.gif

    I think this also ties into answering with one word answers vs LONG paragraphs. I admit I am guilty of one or short answers but some questions only require that to me. I think if someone wants you to spill so much online in the first conversation and you don't want to, then it's a sign that you may not be a match at all. But hey, at least I ask and you or a follow up question after my answer. I guess you can't always assume your answer will be followed up by the other person.

    I think short answers aren't always meant to show disinterest BUT short answers with no follow up, rebuttle or questions DO show disinterest.
  • Karl

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    Jun 30, 2012 11:24 AM GMT
    Joeyphx444 said

    Example:

    You: Hey, what's up?
    Them: Nothing
    You:What's your name?
    Them:John
    ETC

    .

    seems 70% they arent interested ... m083.gif
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    Jun 30, 2012 1:29 PM GMT
    If they use the word conversating they are probably ghetto and not worth the time.
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    Jun 30, 2012 4:22 PM GMT
    "What's Up" is hardly a harbinger of pithy interlocution.

    You initiate with a vacuity and then complain that the other party does not labor to provide you with sufficient entertainment?

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  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jun 30, 2012 4:24 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidIf they use the word conversating they are probably ghetto and not worth the time.



    LOL -- I was about to look it up. Yea, a new word icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 30, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    irregardless
    refudiate
    unaacurate

    Am I playing this game right?
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    Jun 30, 2012 7:05 PM GMT
    Yeah, "conversating" is a Danger Ahead! road sign on a lost highway. Get off on the nearest exit.

    Supposably.
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    Jun 30, 2012 7:08 PM GMT
    Iceblink saidirregardless
    refudiate
    unaacurate

    Am I playing this game right?


    My boss insist on using irregardless all the time even though it's grammatically incorrect, yes it's a word technically but people sound like idiots when they use it. She says it all the time to other people and I wish she could hear herself.
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    Jun 30, 2012 7:15 PM GMT
    One thing that might help is if you talk about some interest he mentioned in his profile - I tend to be a bit perfunctory when writing back to someone who hasn't resonated with anything I took the time to write down.

    Otherwise, he just isn't that into you. I sometimes catch myself being annoyed at a lack of any response after I've written something that, while short, touches on his profile information. Then the adult part of me says it's absurd and narcissistic to assume I deserve a response to an unsolicited message, because after all I don't think I'm so bad. icon_lol.gif

    But in reality it's a gift from heaven to know who is worth effort and who isn't worth effort early on. It frees up time to find someone who appreciates you. Viewing those small defeats as a positive thing is an important life skill.
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    Jun 30, 2012 8:40 PM GMT
    Defenseon said
    Iceblink saidirregardless
    refudiate
    unaacurate

    Am I playing this game right?


    My boss insist on using irregardless all the time even though it's grammatically incorrect, yes it's a word technically but people sound like idiots when they use it. She says it all the time to other people and I wish she could hear herself.


    Can you be more pacific? (when did pacific become a synonym for specific?)
  • cowboyathlete

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    Jun 30, 2012 8:44 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidIf they use the word conversating they are probably ghetto and not worth the time.
    lol
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    Jun 30, 2012 8:47 PM GMT
    principal0 said

    But in reality it's a gift from heaven to know who is worth effort and who isn't worth effort early on. It frees up time to find someone who appreciates you. Viewing those small defeats as a positive thing is an important life skill.


    This is too true. Terse responses typically indicate a lack of interest, or a type of personality that might not be conducive to a robust friendship/relationship.

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    Jun 30, 2012 8:48 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidIf they use the word conversating they are probably ghetto and not worth the time.


    THIS.