Would i be asking for too much if........

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    Jun 30, 2012 11:44 AM GMT
    I want a boyfriend, but I don't want to meet in a club where it's loud and you hardly know what they are saying and the only reason they are talking to you is not to get to know you but to just have sex...

    Maybe perhaps i'd like to meet a guy at work, then I could get to know that person first before anything happens, like be friends first? But what are the chances? I know!

    AND i'm really picky about my type, nice eyes, preferably green, light hair, preferably with six pack, or just reli reli hot haha!

    My friends all want me to go to gay bars and clubs and hurry up and meet someone but i prefer to just have them fall out of the sky than to go find one.

    They tell me I have to meet more people but I'm shy........ so I guess my first step is to join this forum and meet new people.

    I don't want to post any photos of myself though, is that unfair? Sorry if it is, just wanna protect myself eventhough it's probably really safe here.

    Anyway enough ranting, I just need a reality check! Nice to meet you!
  • calibro

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    Jun 30, 2012 7:08 PM GMT
    Itstennis saidI want a boyfriend, but I don't want to meet in real places

    Maybe perhaps my fantasy will come true

    AND i'm really picky

    My friends all want me to get off facebook but i prefer to just have them fall out of the sky than to go find one.

    They tell me I have to meet more people but I'm not interesing, confident, or attractive


    I'm kinda ugly and in the closet

    I just need a reality check!


    you're welcome
  • musclejames

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    Jun 30, 2012 7:20 PM GMT
    calibro said
    Itstennis saidI want a boyfriend, but I don't want to meet in real places

    Maybe perhaps my fantasy will come true

    AND i'm really picky

    My friends all want me to get off facebook but i prefer to just have them fall out of the sky than to go find one.

    They tell me I have to meet more people but I'm not interesing, confident, or attractive


    I'm kinda ugly and in the closet

    I just need a reality check!


    you're welcome


    Lol, I am sorry but that is hilarious. Bonus points for this guy.

    Quit your whining and go do something fun with lots of gay guys.
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    Jun 30, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    My guess is the OP enjoys Christopher Guest movies.
  • Karl

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    Jun 30, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    calibro said
    Itstennis saidI want a boyfriend, but I don't want to meet in real places

    Maybe perhaps my fantasy will come true

    AND i'm really picky

    My friends all want me to get off facebook but i prefer to just have them fall out of the sky than to go find one.

    They tell me I have to meet more people but I'm not interesing, confident, or attractive


    I'm kinda ugly and in the closet

    I just need a reality check!


    you're welcome

    you're so cruel icon_lol.gif
    +1 because it's so hilarious , sorry the OP
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    Jun 30, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    calibro said
    Itstennis saidI want a boyfriend, but I don't want to meet in real places

    Maybe perhaps my fantasy will come true

    AND i'm really picky

    My friends all want me to get off facebook but i prefer to just have them fall out of the sky than to go find one.

    They tell me I have to meet more people but I'm not interesing, confident, or attractive


    I'm kinda ugly and in the closet

    I just need a reality check!


    you're welcome


    Calibro is a God.

    period.

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    Jun 30, 2012 8:44 PM GMT
    calibro said
    Itstennis saidI want a boyfriend, but I don't want to meet in real places

    Maybe perhaps my fantasy will come true

    AND i'm really picky

    My friends all want me to get off facebook but i prefer to just have them fall out of the sky than to go find one.

    They tell me I have to meet more people but I'm not interesing, confident, or attractive


    I'm kinda ugly and in the closet

    I just need a reality check!


    you're welcome


    Hilarious icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 30, 2012 9:22 PM GMT
    I think you people need to adjust your parody detectors.
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    Jun 30, 2012 9:27 PM GMT
    asnextdoor said
    calibro said
    Itstennis saidI want a boyfriend, but I don't want to meet in real places

    Maybe perhaps my fantasy will come true

    AND i'm really picky

    My friends all want me to get off facebook but i prefer to just have them fall out of the sky than to go find one.

    They tell me I have to meet more people but I'm not interesing, confident, or attractive


    I'm kinda ugly and in the closet

    I just need a reality check!


    you're welcome


    Hilarious icon_lol.gif


    @Calibro - Priceless!

    @OP - Seriously, (if you're not a troll/sockpuppet) consider broadening your horizons and instead of focusing on what you're looking for, focus on becoming the kind of man whom you seek to attract. In otherwords, if you want "top notch", then prepare yourself by becoming "top notch" (whatever "top notch" may mean in all dimensions of human physical, spiritual, intellectual, emotional, financial being).

    If you ARE a troll/sockpuppet, then ignore what I just wrote, find the nearest petrol station, douse yourself in high-test and promptly immolate yourself in full public spectacle. You'll attract a lot of men in a very short period of time in this manner.
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    Jun 30, 2012 10:25 PM GMT
    Yeh, I know I whine a lot, but at least I can see what I seem like from ur points of views now. I'm actually not in the closet, was for a very long time but wanted 2 tell parents first, came out last year so still know nothing bout this world and scared, I guess of many things, which is why I moan until I have courage to take next step but what a welcome this is! I guess I just have a very specific type don't want 2 settle for less because otherwise it would not be worth all that hassle of coming out to parents and friends. Are you guys angry because I said I didn't want to put picture up? I just wanted to chat here not put myself up for a dating site, maybe I'm in the wrong place...
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    Jun 30, 2012 10:28 PM GMT
    Itstennis saidYeh, I know I whine a lot, but at least I can see what I seem like from ur points of views now. I'm actually not in the closet, was for a very long time but wanted 2 tell parents first, came out last year so still know nothing bout this world and scared, I guess of many things, which is why I moan until I have courage to take next step but what a welcome this is! I guess I just have a very specific type don't want 2 settle for less because otherwise it would not be worth all that hassle of coming out to parents and friends. Are you guys angry because I said I didn't want to put picture up? I just wanted to chat here not put myself up for a dating site, maybe I'm in the wrong place...


    You don't have a very specific type if you haven't dated much. You'll find your preferences and dislikes change a lot over the years. Enjoy the buffet and don't decide its all garbage before you taste any of it. You might surprise yourself icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 01, 2012 8:38 AM GMT
    Well, you stirred me out of lurkdom. Couldn't quite help but feel sorry for you; I read what you wrote a few times to digest what it was you were trying to say and visited your profile, hopefully I'd be able to see things from your point of view...

    Itstennis saidYeh, I know I whine a lot

    Well, you don't seem particularly whiny - just rather naive and perhaps somewhat filled with whimsy - meeting a guy at work, perhaps in university, that hot blond librarian with pecs to die for and an ability to read past the letter G (oy, no laughing at my sick fantasies!)... that sort of thing. This is normal for very young people - you're twenty-one. You're that age where we sometimes have a lot of think about and say it all at once. icon_lol.gif Ah, the good times. But don't feel bad if you do, we all usually mellow with age.

    Itstennis saidI guess I just have a very specific type don't want 2 settle for less because otherwise it would not be worth all that hassle of coming out to parents and friends.

    I'm sorry. I really did laugh out loud at that. You know, you're lucky that you're out and accepted by family and friends. A number of us didn't, and still don't, have that luxury or courage. You have their blessing to meet others, so why don't you go have fun anyway? Going out and meeting others doesn't quite mean you're compromising on anything, or that you have to settle for the first man who approaches you.

    Itstennis saidbut what a welcome this is!
    Are you guys angry because I said I didn't want to put picture up? I just wanted to chat here not put myself up for a dating site, maybe I'm in the wrong place...

    Oh no. I've done that too actually. I haven't gotten railed at or anything, in fact met two very supportive people here. I can't speak for everyone but perhaps your post did make some angry - especially the part about bars and being picky.

    You see, some people go to bars not because of sex - it's a rather sweeping generalization to say that everyone who goes to a bar to fish is only looking for sex. Some are looking for companionship; like you, they just don't know where else to find it - and where else to find it except where people who have the same orientation gather?

    There isn't a real filter out there for anyone to use really. You might say going to a bar isn't playing safe, but the chances of meeting someone you like might be there. If you wanted safety, there's always safety in numbers (going with your mates), and looking out for yourself generally, don't drink things you don't trust, bring protection just in case, etc. Don't like the music? Perhaps take his number, meet at a cafe and just chat. If he's interested to know you, he'll agree. Body language talks over music - I remember meeting someone at a very loud party and took him away to play cards and chat, since he looked bored. By looking at his body language, you might be able to pick up if this is really what you want, or not. Travelling and seeing new things aren't bad either, they're a plus when looking.

    I'm not saying your six-pack man won't fall out of the sky, but there are some things just worth looking for.

    Good luck!
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    Jul 01, 2012 8:42 AM GMT
    trollolololol
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    Jul 01, 2012 9:32 AM GMT
    Wow this thread reminded me of the movie Meangirls. Anyways... best of luck Itstennis with growing into yourself, finding someone interested in you and meeting decent people on RJ. You will need it. Post an ab picture or something for starters maybe. It might get you more of a response from some. Some guys can be very witty and cruel here. Maybe its the testosterone or something. Don't let it discourage you.
  • maxferguson

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    Jul 01, 2012 10:48 AM GMT
    Itstennis saidI want a boyfriend, but I don't want to meet in a club where it's loud and you hardly know what they are saying and the only reason they are talking to you is not to get to know you but to just have sex...

    Maybe perhaps i'd like to meet a guy at work, then I could get to know that person first before anything happens, like be friends first? But what are the chances? I know!

    AND i'm really picky about my type, nice eyes, preferably green, light hair, preferably with six pack, or just reli reli hot haha!

    My friends all want me to go to gay bars and clubs and hurry up and meet someone but i prefer to just have them fall out of the sky than to go find one.

    They tell me I have to meet more people but I'm shy........ so I guess my first step is to join this forum and meet new people.

    I don't want to post any photos of myself though, is that unfair? Sorry if it is, just wanna protect myself eventhough it's probably really safe here.

    Anyway enough ranting, I just need a reality check! Nice to meet you!


    I can definitely relate to the attractiveness thing, but loosening your standards on things like eye colour can easily duplicate your dating pool (coming from a sucker for blue eyes ;p). Very few people have very green eyes - it might be that you're just not attracted to darker eyes, and looking for blue, green and hazel eyes would triple the number of people who might have everything else you find attractive. In the end, you need to be sexually attracted to someone to share a meaningful relationship (IMO). If you're not, then you can't share what people in a romantic relationship are supposed to reserve for each other. Given all of that, you'll eventually find that you've dated enough guys to know what you need in their personality and what you can't tolerate over the long term. I know for me, open mindedness and intelligence are absolute musts, and blue eyes matter less now.
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    Jul 01, 2012 10:53 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidtrollolololol


    I'm positive that's "troll," but I immediately youtube the trololol guy. fuck this video is awesome: I'm positive that's "troll," but fuck this video is awesome: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oavMtUWDBTM