Crushing on a Boss

  • MadeinMich

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    Jun 30, 2012 11:07 PM GMT
    So I started working at this company about two weeks ago. Since then I had to take a much better paying opportunity somewhere else. But while I was there I was (and still am ) smitten by this man. First off he is middle easter (my favorite type), gorgeous dark, tan skin, tall and handsome with a nice, tall, naturally athletic build.

    Over the course of this recession I've found most companies want yo uto have a preset skill set b4 they hire you and are not willing to train. well this guy offered to train me for this career and then put me to work just because he wants to give back. He is totally straigh. This man offered to train me and put me back to work when no other company would. I am not just attracted to his looks but his kind, charasmatic spirit.

    I noticed when we talked business I would have dual thoughts in my mind of being romantically involved with him as well as listening to whatever business we were discussing. I found it very distracting to me. lol.

    Has anyone ever crushed on their straight boss? How was it doing business with them and getting around your crush?
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    Jun 30, 2012 11:29 PM GMT
    You don't need to stick your dick in an electrical socket to know that's a bad idea... same goes for your boss.
  • E_84

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    Jun 30, 2012 11:45 PM GMT
    Haa... Oh man...

    Its like sitting watching a horror movie anxiously waiting for that character to get messed up... Because we know it's about happen.

    My warning about your idea/situation, rule just like them horror flicks, keep running and don't stop!!
  • maxferguson

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    Jun 30, 2012 11:51 PM GMT
    Age old advice - don't chase what you can't catch. If he's straight, and he's as genuine as he sounds, get to know him (without getting too close) and if he doesn't know you're gay, maybe let him know (assuming he's chill with that). Although he wasn't my boss, I had a bit of a crush on one of my best friends who's straight. I told him, and explained that he had nothing to worry about because of the obvious..., but that I needed him as a good friend I knew I could turn to for almost anything, and vice versa. Telling him was hard, but it was like coming out again. He knew I was gay, but telling him I had a bit of a crush on him was like reliving the day I came out to him. It was also like reliving every day after -- we got way closer because I raised the bar on being open and honest. At least the way I see it, those are prerequisites for any sort of relationship, whether it's a friendship or a romantic relationship. Lol, the only alternative is stewing over someone else's dinner ;)
  • maxferguson

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    Jun 30, 2012 11:52 PM GMT
    I forgot to say that when I told him, it allowed him to speak to the situation and have input. This pretty much killed half of those dual thoughts icon_razz.gif (in a good way)
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    Jun 30, 2012 11:53 PM GMT
    Don't do it.

    But, if you do...report back with all the gory details.
  • MadeinMich

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    Jun 30, 2012 11:54 PM GMT
    Well, I never implied I planned on taking it anywhere other than a crush. But because he is so helpful and genuine I think it would be benificial to stay in contact professionally and keep the screwing in my head.
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    Jul 01, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    MadeinMich saidWell, I never implied I planned on taking it anywhere other than a crush. But because he is so helpful and genuine I think it would be benificial to stay in contact professionally and keep the screwing in my head.


    Consider taking it out of your head as well. There is a very ancient saying that "Thoughts, become words, which become actions, which become deeds".

    You're already at Step #2 of 4.

    You may not have implied, but we've been down this path before and the story always starts out the same. We figured we'd cut to the chase. icon_biggrin.gif
  • FredMG

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    Jul 01, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    Often in life I think about what Star Trek lessons could I apply to any situation? Vulcan nerve pinch? Multiply the time I need by 4? Should I have sex with the green animal boy? But really what aplies to your situation are the FERENGI RULES OF ACQUISITION Specifically:

    rule # 112. Never have sex with the boss's sister.
    rule # 113. Always have sex with the boss.
  • MadeinMich

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    Jul 01, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    FredPDX saidOften in life I think about what Star Trek lessons could I apply to any situation? Vulcan nerve pinch? Multiply the time I need by 4? Should I have sex with the green animal boy? But really what aplies to your situation are the FERENGI RULES OF ACQUISITION Specifically:

    rule # 112. Never have sex with the boss's sister.
    rule # 113. Always have sex with the boss.

    too funny
  • varsitybadboy

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    Jul 01, 2012 3:57 AM GMT
    not on a boss, but going through it with my Philosophy teacher. He is middle eastern too! icon_razz.gificon_twisted.gif
  • MadeinMich

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    Jul 01, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    excheeks saidnot on a boss, but going through it with my Philosophy teacher. He is middle eastern too! icon_razz.gificon_twisted.gif


    Aren't they just gorgeous (well the cute ones)
  • varsitybadboy

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    Jul 03, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    Yes, lol, I agree the cute ones! lol. And his accent, woo, nice eye candy for me. Probably the main reason I go to this class, besides needing to get that A icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 03, 2012 9:09 PM GMT
    MadeinMich saidWell, I never implied I planned on taking it anywhere other than a crush. But because he is so helpful and genuine I think it would be benificial to stay in contact professionally and keep the screwing in my head.
    If you keep it in your head you will only build something in your head that was never there. This will only hurt you in the long run. Best to get it out of your head.
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    Jul 06, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    Ok..i get..you like a challenge..Do you like anyone ..Gay and Middle Eastern..?? icon_neutral.gif Cause this sounds like packing two giant suit cases for a trip to nowhere..(no offense)..
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    Jul 06, 2012 2:03 AM GMT
    I never play with coworkers like that. My niece is dating a coworker; who is also living with us. Think she's not prepared for the nuclear winter from this. As for the OP. No Homo!
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    Jul 06, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    don't dip your nib in the company ink...
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    Jul 06, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    Lock your heart man, lock your heart. Crushing on the boss has bad idea written all over it.
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 06, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    My advice would be as the other posters: however generous and tempting it seems (and he does sound it!), leave him alone. If you have these feelings about him, I think you`ll find a platonic friendship/ professional relationship difficult to sustain long term.

    I experienced something similar in the police with a straight colleague I felt strongly for. He was just the type I like, bearish but still very athletic and toned. More than that, we seemed to get on immediately; our personalities meshed well. When I joined the station as a probationer he was remarkably considerate, helpful and patient, no question too dumb, etc. He didn`t treat me as a waiting joke to be played on. Sometimes I thought (or wanted to believe) this meant he had feelings for me!

    He was my model for a police officers` conduct: fair, firm, taking no nonsense, but not hard or getting a kick from bossing people around.

    He was also the officer in charge of wildlife crime, something I would have loved to do anyway. I warmed to him quickly, and despite all, I think he helped me make good progress as a probationer. At times I did find it very hard to concentrate on the task in hand; not good for a junior officer who had to do well in all set to him.

    A couple of other points convinced me I needed to use my head: this was the police, not some routine office job, and things could get very serious, workwise. Soft feelings for another officer like this could backfire on me, him, and the service. We patrolled regularly together and I needed to be alert at all times. He also had experience and rank on me. My brother (ex-military) had warned me of the dangers of presuming on rank.The other point was we lived fairly close, in a rural area, and any gossip about us would have soon reached his wife-a disastrous situation.

    So my head had to rule my heart. I put my career first.

    But I still think of him at times and see him as I first came to the station, smiling and welcoming this unsure new officer in.
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    Jul 06, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    I crushed only on 1 boss. He was asian, tall, thin, and had brown eyes that sparkled. He was always cool under the worst pressure, and I had the hots for him. Never acted on it, though. But I had alot of dreams, haha
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    Jul 06, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    MadeinMich said
    I noticed when we talked business I would have dual thoughts in my mind of being romantically involved with him as well as listening to whatever business we were discussing. I found it very distracting to me. lol.


    LOL We would like to know more about these romantically provoking thoughts you speak of.icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif

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    Jul 06, 2012 3:00 AM GMT
    may help getting a raise if you sleep with him.

    can't move up unless you move down icon_razz.gif

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    Jul 06, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    Dont dip your pen in company ink.
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    Jul 06, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    if hes gay,u can get a promotion icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 06, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    tell him you'll suck on his peen if he gives you a raise (a monetary one)