Why AM I still ALONE?

  • choubi

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    Jul 01, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    Why am I still alone!!

    There is 6000000000People on this planet and I'm still alone?

    WHY?

    I respect people... I just need to be fully happy to find the true love but why don't I find the good one?

    I will give my life for him to be happy and he can't love me???

    I'm over it


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    Jul 01, 2012 1:39 AM GMT
    choubi saidWhy am I still alone!!

    There is 6000000000People on this planet and I'm still alone?
    Because you can't count. There are 7 billion people here.
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    Jul 01, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    Stay strong. I understand how you feel because I've been alone/single all this time. Keep in mind that love is hard to find, but when you find it, it will be what you've always wanted and what is missing in your life now. Keep a positive outlook and don't feel too depressed. And certainly don't feel like your life, or at least a good life, depends on your getting a guy. Like I said in the beginning, stay strong and wait for that prince. Or be a bit more proactive and seek out that prince.
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    Jul 01, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    Because I'm ahead of you in line. Wait your turn!
  • choubi

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    Jul 01, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    typical real jock members coments
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    Jul 01, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    After your PM, it's completely obvious why you're alone.

    Nobody wants to hang out with someone who's so jaded they can't take a joke.
  • NyRuinz

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    Jul 01, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    I agree it definitely takes times, don't be one of those people who will stay in a loveless relationship just to say they are in one.
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    ...

    [Edit, after your indignant PM: maybe stop taking things so overly serious and learn to find your own happiness, for a start- unless you're interested in landing somebody attracted to a quasi-desperate, humourless vibe; all the best!]
  • choubi

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    Jul 01, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidAfter your PM, it's completely obvious why you're alone.

    Nobody wants to hang out with someone who's so jaded they can't take a joke.


    HAHAHAHA sometimes you don't want to joke...
    and thanks again for your nice comment
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:09 AM GMT
    You're 23, it's not all over.

    If you're not finding what you desire where you are, then move somewhere else and "start from zero".

    You might be amazed at what you find!
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    Go out and find someone, complaining on here will not help you.

    Soul mates are a myth, there is more of a chance for a blizzard of identical snow flakes to exist.
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    Watched pot never boils. Guys who constantly obsess about not being in a relationship stay not in a relationship.
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    choubi said
    paulflexes saidAfter your PM, it's completely obvious why you're alone.

    Nobody wants to hang out with someone who's so jaded they can't take a joke.


    HAHAHAHA sometimes you don't want to joke...
    and thanks again for your nice comment
    This isn't a business meeting. Joking is perfectly acceptable here. Those who don't like it can go back to talking about percentages and playing with PowerPoint and being all serious for weird people with lots of money.
  • choubi

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    Jul 01, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    O.K I just wanted to share a feeling after a long night, I didn't except any answers, I just cant understand some answers but we r all different...

    I just feel like life is unfair, because I'm 23 but I've been single for 23years and I'rally think i'm a nice guy.

    The life of the guy I love will really count more than mine, and lots of people are selfish in this new world...

    But anyway... I also know that many things are more dramatic in this world than my little life, but sometimes its small things who make you really happy... And for me its love! And tonight once again i'm disappointed...

    ... anyway

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    Jul 01, 2012 2:24 AM GMT
    choubi said
    I just feel like life is unfair, because I'm 23 but I've been single for 23years and I'rally think i'm a nice guy.





    I've been single for 28.
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    I'll date you, lol. I'll move to Versaillesicon_lol.gif Dating is hard for straight people even harder for us. I am pretty much on the same boat. BUT, I also realize that I havent put myself out there. A boyfriend will not appear out of nowhere, I need to get out there and find my match. Anywayzzzz, keep your head up! icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    choubi said
    I just feel like life is unfair, because I'm 23 but I've been single for 23years and I'rally think i'm a nice guy.





    I've been single for 28.


    But can you really count your child hood as part of your single dating life?
  • waccamatt

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    Jul 01, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    choubi saidWhy am I still alone!!

    There is 6000000000People on this planet and I'm still alone?

    WHY?

    I respect people... I just need to be fully happy to find the true love but why don't I find the good one?

    I will give my life for him to be happy and he can't love me???

    I'm over it




    I am too...successful, reasonably decent looking, kind-hearted, but probably too independent.
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    Someone once told me, the most important relationship you can have in this world is with Yourself! Read Brad Gooch, Finding The Boyfriend Within. It basically states the same thing that you should be happy and content with yourself first in order to be with another man. And btw, being in a relationship takes a lot of work (sometimes too much drama). When I was your age 23, I was barely out 2 years later, making friends and sleeping around. Then I became involved in a ltr with my ex from my late 26 to late 29. Now, I'm back to my single self again and couldn't be more happier now than before. My point is don't expect a man/boyfriend to Complete you, at least that's not my philosophy. People date, make up, break up all the times. Keep your head up, put yourself out there, do your things. Once day, he will come along. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    boy i'm right there with you...

    ;) i feel you!
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    because i still cant choose if i want a guy or gal....
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    Jul 01, 2012 2:59 AM GMT
    I am astonished by the number of awesome looking men on RJ who are single. But, as I have said before, it makes me feel better. Cuz now I know it isnt just looks that assures a relationship.

    Now, I grew up before the internet, etc, and we had much more limited ways of learning about being gay. So for me, it was much more a challenge to learn about myself even. I didnt have other gays to compare myself to. So I really agree with the comments above that you have to be content/know yourself.

    One thing I have learned about myself....and it kinda surprised me....is that I require a man who is no taller than myself to maintain a long term sexual interest in.
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    Jul 01, 2012 3:00 AM GMT
    choubi saidHAHAHAHA sometimes you don't want to joke...

    +1

    Sometimes the smart aleck remark is out of place.
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    Jul 01, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    You're not alone. Although I've never read "The Boyfriend Within," I'm comfortable with myself. I enjoy my own company but it does get lonely at times.
  • stratavos

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    Jul 01, 2012 3:15 AM GMT
    until you're satisfied being alone, will a relationship be a good move. similar to what ariodante wrote, you're more likely to find someone if you're not as active about searching for them (weird isn't it?).

    One of the other things to do is join some common interest groups (queer positive ones would probably help), and make some friends there. From that see what kinds of friends you can make, and if you both feel like trying anything more.