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I recently went to Bonnaroo with a friend from work and a guy she is dating who is very cute, had a lot of energy, and was so much fun to be around during the festival... We love music and hit it off fabulously. On the first late night we were both rolling, and Chelsey jokingly said she wanted to see Zach top me. Zach then told me to make out with him. I was embarrassed and shrugged it off and then the next night Zach asked me why I wouldn't make out with him and I shrugged it off again. Zach is obviously very straight, a charming knockout and one can gather he loves to flirt with women and have sex with them. Once we got back to St. Louis a couple times we were talking about the Chelsey, my friend/the girl he was dating and how badly she treated him on the trip. It was actually pretty bad. During our texts, he told me he loved me twice, although it seemed playful. Now that my lease has ended, he has asked me if I wanted to get a place with him. He's a 23 yo straight boy with a business degree and works at a prestigious financial firm in St. Louis and I'm a 28 yo nurse. Yesterday, he texted me while he was out on a date (with a girl) and said "I've been thinkin about ya! Hope your move is going smooth!" I moved this weekend. Is he really friendly and considerate, teasing me, or could he be heteroflexible. At Bonnaroo, he kept talking about how he was hoping there would be more nudity so we could walk around naked together. He seems super secure as a person, very comfortable in his own skin. I am getting a growing straight boy crush on him. What do you think?

why would you say he's sending mixed signals.... I'm only seeing one type of signal and it's the good one.

smartbart saidwhy would you say he's sending mixed signals.... I'm only seeing one type of signal and it's the good one.

Exactly. I want to make out with you and can we move in together aren't subtle.

he sounds like he's a bisexual who was in a heterosexual relationship. The real things you should be checking up on is weather or not you two could be harmonious roommates. dating and living together are two very different things.

When I used to have girlfriends(14-20 yo) I was also hitting on guys.
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That boy is messed up. I think he's playing with ya. Nobody is THAT forward if he's genuinely,truly, from-the-bottom-of-the-heart interested in you.

STRAIGHT boys (and Men) don't give mixed signals.

Period.

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I'd just be straight up honest with: "Dude, WTF? You wanna bang both girls and guys? Whats your deal?"

Put your dick in him.

If he objects, there's a possibility he's straight.

"Str8 guys" don't send mixed signals. Their one signal is "I like pussy."

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globe_trotter saidThat boy is messed up. I think he's playing with ya. Nobody is THAT forward if he's genuinely,truly, from-the-bottom-of-the-heart interested in you.

That's what I'm thinking! I think he likes attention from gay guys and that's it. I just don't understand why a 23 yo straight boy with so many friends would want to room with a 28 yo gay dude. The only thing I can think of is because we like a lot of the same music, hockey, etc.

It's simple, next time he says something you think is weird call him on it. Ask him if he is gay, because you are confused by what he means. If he says he isn't then just leave it be and treat him as a friend only.
Some people are gay, some people are just friendly.

He's bi-curious at the very least. I'm certain!

He may not identify as "gay" so I wouldn't challenge him that way (if you are in the least bit interested).

He just be narcissitic. He loves attention and flirts to get it. He knows he is attractive to women and he probably knows you are attracted to him.

So, enjoy the flirting and take the sound advice posted here and confront him. BUT... protect your heart and dont get hurt because he isn't going to become a gay guy and you guys ARENT going to start dating and become a couple. Guard your heart, dude.

mattmikewitt saidI recently went to Bonnaroo with a friend from work and a guy she is dating who is very cute, had a lot of energy, and was so much fun to be around during the festival... We love music and hit it off fabulously. On the first late night we were both rolling, and Chelsey jokingly said she wanted to see Zach top me. Zach then told me to make out with him. I was embarrassed and shrugged it off and then the next night Zach asked me why I wouldn't make out with him and I shrugged it off again. Zach is obviously very straight, a charming knockout and one can gather he loves to flirt with women and have sex with them. Once we got back to St. Louis a couple times we were talking about the Chelsey, my friend/the girl he was dating and how badly she treated him on the trip. It was actually pretty bad. During our texts, he told me he loved me twice, although it seemed playful. Now that my lease has ended, he has asked me if I wanted to get a place with him. He's a 23 yo straight boy with a business degree and works at a prestigious financial firm in St. Louis and I'm a 28 yo nurse. Yesterday, he texted me while he was out on a date (with a girl) and said "I've been thinkin about ya! Hope your move is going smooth!" I moved this weekend. Is he really friendly and considerate, teasing me, or could he be heteroflexible. At Bonnaroo, he kept talking about how he was hoping there would be more nudity so we could walk around naked together. He seems super secure as a person, very comfortable in his own skin. I am getting a growing straight boy crush on him. What do you think?

Honestly, it sounds like he's looking for attention. Still, the the date seems a little off. Then again, it may have just been a friendly text he sent because his date wasn't going well. If he is truly gay, let him come to you. There's no reason to mess up you friendship by trying to get him to make a move before he's ready. And if he's is straight, making a move will probably make things awkward. My advice is to remain his friend, but continue looking around for love/sex/relationship. Until he makes a move, he's unobtainable.

Hell, TAKE HIM HOME TO MEET YOUR MOTHER!

He is only gay if he pushes back ;)

just try a kiss then move into him.....grab his crotch.if its hard down there......fuck him....he wants u.........show him how tight and enjoyable a guys ass can be......

Not worth a crush just for a fuck!
if thats what you want persay! If not and looking for a LTR well look somewhere else!

robertotenrod saidNot worth a crush just for a fuck!
if thats what you want persay! If not and looking for a LTR well look somewhere else!

I think that "persay" and "walla!" must come from the same foreign language.

mattmikewitt said heteroflexible....

LOL!

That's a new term for me...gonna have to use that sometime.

Chelsey knew Zach had gay leanings that's why she was mean to him and put him onto you. He doesn't really know what he wants bi wise. But, I think he is taken with you and in your shoesI think you have really missed an opportunity to be with a nice caring guy.

Call his bluff I say. Accept his advances and see how far he wants to take it.

simple_me saidjust try a kiss then move into him.....grab his crotch.if its hard down there......fuck him....he wants u.........show him how tight and enjoyable a guys ass can be......

agree


what's the problem here? he likes you, you like him, neither one of you are married, engaged or otherwise attached to someone....GO FOR IT waddduagot to loose


If it hadn't been for a wild, drunken 3 way with my best friend and his soon-passed-out wife; I'd still be "deep-in-the-closet" and afraid to move on what I suspected.

Sounds like you would be doing this guy a huge favor.

be a friend to this guy, help him out and have sex with him.