Feminine Men?

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    Aug 11, 2007 1:47 PM GMT
    Who all is attracted to a feminine-acting man? How feminine is too feminie for you?
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 11, 2007 4:34 PM GMT
    Not me.....not in a million years. But I dont hate them though. Just not attracted to them.
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    Aug 11, 2007 5:51 PM GMT
    I've had a couple of BFs in the past who displayed some feminine traits. You could tell they were gay fairly easily. But it was their uncompromising confidence in themselves, and their unwillingness to "straight" for the benefit of the close-minded ones, that was part of the attraction for me.

    I'd even go so far as to say that each was more a man then so many of these self-proclaimed "normal", "masculine", "straight acting" posers you see all over the 'net. "Straight acting" is a particularly ridiculous assertion for someone to make about themselves. They're telling you right up front that they're acting (again, posing), not living. Red flag.
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    Aug 11, 2007 5:53 PM GMT
    ...unwillingness to *act* "straight"...

    (sorry. still not proofreading too good.)
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    Aug 11, 2007 6:21 PM GMT
    I used to say no, but the man I was with for 2 1/2 years was quite feminine, no flamer, but you didn't need a gaydar to get a reading. I found it very attractive because he didn't try to be anything he wasn't. When he did, it was too cute or funny to take seriously, and it always felt he was true to himself.

    What I don't like, is when a man is all gruff and tough, big, muscled, and supposedly some badass who watches nothing but spike TV and UFC (and maybe some home and garden). However he has a purse flop out of his mouth and has a fine china collection with his ornate Marie Antoinette bed. What the hell is that shit? Cut the image shit out. Be yourself, don't wear a mask.
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    Aug 11, 2007 6:49 PM GMT
    Rambo is too feminine for me. The terminator is a sissy-mary. Only this man has the voice, the stiff-wristedness, the hair, the balls, the walk, the talk that can tame me.

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    Aug 11, 2007 7:00 PM GMT

    If I wanted Feminine I would be seeing women.

    R
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    Aug 11, 2007 7:26 PM GMT
    ITJock: No you wouldn't, because women don't have dicks. You like dick don't you?
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    Aug 11, 2007 8:10 PM GMT
    There are all sorts of gays like there are all sorts of straights. You may like some and dislike others but we have to respect all of them if we want to respected back.

    A gay guy can be feminine and still be a nice guy on the other hand , a gay guy can be masculine and be a perfect shit.

    It's the value of the personnality that counts.

    Michel
  • dfrourke

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    Aug 11, 2007 8:44 PM GMT
    ...I like my men 80% manly with a side dish of 'girl'...

    ...you gotta be able to laugh at yourself and your friends in a dress with me at least once a year...

    - David
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    Aug 11, 2007 8:53 PM GMT
    I've had several very fem freinds in the past 10 years each unique and wonderful in their respective qualities. From a shy, soft-spoken vietnamese friend that was gawked at whenever we did 'daytime activities' (shop, lunch, terrasse) because of his remarkeable beauty and grace. I never once saw him without his flawlessly and subtlely exotic make-up in the four years I knew him! He was treated like royalty by everyone and I always felt somehow 'purified' just being in his company. Bless you, where ever you may be today, Kiet. In my opinion, many modern women could learn a thing (or sixty) from him in what it means to be 'classically feminine'.
    At the other end of the spectrum were the acquaintances (friends of friends) that I've suffered on numerous occasions; the brash, obnoxious, and self-centred attention seekers that most would label the Flamer or the Drag queen. The ones that need to make their every movement and thought into a public production, in or out of make-up, though often amusing in their eccentricities, are the one's I find very difficult to tolerate for long periods of time. Its all about them, all the time. In my estimation, a handbag and a weave alone do not 'feminine' make.

    Grace and a quiet confidence to Be as Fem as they wish gets my respect.
    Needing to be the centre of all social environments and vulgarity leave me looking for the exit signs.
  • liftordie

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    Aug 11, 2007 10:06 PM GMT
    cheers to dfr!! i agree totally. we all have our certain 'queen out' moments. it allows us to sort of make fun of ourselves but not in a malicious way. i know some of the biggest toughest muscleheads who can do the finger snap 'Z Formation' with the best of 'em!! LOL
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    Aug 11, 2007 10:17 PM GMT
    DFR and Liftordie (name with held to protect the innocent), I knew you guys were on my hot list for a reason! Lighten up a little, you only go around once in this life and it's too short to discard people just because of personality traits that make you uncomfortable. That discomfort is your true self telling you to look inside at you and not take your discomfort out on someone else who's just being who they are!
  • liftordie

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    Aug 11, 2007 11:06 PM GMT
    i think we were complimented dfr !!
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    Aug 11, 2007 11:24 PM GMT

    Everyone should be respected as a person, I don't think anyone here would question that.

    There is a huge difference between respecting a persons individuality or character, and being attracted to that person romanticly or sexually.

    The Q was:

    "Who all is attracted to a feminine-acting man? How feminine is too feminie for you?"

    Lets face it - this site is not named "RealQueens.com". People are here because they have specific interests and attractions: Especially those that come to the site for hoolups in the personals are here because they are looking for a specific type.

    R
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    Aug 11, 2007 11:48 PM GMT
    God, what a bunch of pussies. Give me a hot drag king like Valentino with a strap-on, any day.

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    Aug 12, 2007 12:27 AM GMT
    Ok, I will confess that I have at times been attracted to fem guys.

    I draw the line when you can see the make-up, or there is x-dressing involved, as neither is my thing. But a pretty boy with fem undertones can be damned cute, just as much so as an NFL quarterback... It's just a different flavor to me.
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    Aug 12, 2007 12:31 AM GMT
    Schucks... thanks, italmusclebtm.
    *blush*

    Well, then I'll confess that I find your intensity and conciseness very damn studly.
    You're welcome Bellissimo.
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    Aug 12, 2007 12:32 AM GMT
    Oh, btw... I like your 'flavour' too.
    mwah!
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    Aug 12, 2007 12:36 AM GMT
    No attraction at all.....have nothing against feminine men....its just as far as sexually or anything of that sort once i see your fem then im basically going to see a woman and nothing could reverse thats onces its done. :(

    does that make me a mean person guys?
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    Aug 12, 2007 12:46 AM GMT
    No, not necessarily a mean person. But I do think it seems as if people have been conditioned to believe that fem = drama, and while I can see the reasons for that, it isn't always true.

    Besides, 75% of the guys who describe themselves as "str8 acting" are actually downright campy, IMHO. This wouldn't be a problem if they were honest about it and less forced... But I find it amusing that they don't seem to see it in themselves.
  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 12, 2007 1:13 AM GMT
    I seem to go for masculine guys most of the time,but ultimately it`s the personality that counts.If he`s kindly,intelligent,and humourous,I don`t really care if he`s feminine in his ways....
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    Aug 12, 2007 2:23 AM GMT
    You're being charitable with 75 percent, Ital. Nothing seems to be more predictable.
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    Aug 12, 2007 3:20 AM GMT
    I was actually thinking that same thing when I posted it. I also do recognize that "fem" and "campy" are actually not equivalent terms. The stereotypical lisp, for example... I dunno where that comes from. I don't know any women who actually speak that way.

    I introduced a friend to Fire Island this afternoon, and his first reaction was "OMG these guys are SO fem." It wouldn't surprise me if most of those guys THINK they are "str8 acting."

    For me, the turn off is the misrepresentation, not the person's actual placement on the masc/fem spectrum.
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    Aug 12, 2007 3:52 AM GMT
    Nothing gets my pink tickled quite the same way as when Ward is hard on my Beaver. Up yours if I feel like making pot roast after. Feminine? I'll give you feminine! In spades! Now get down and lick my pumps you little dog!