I've had several very fem freinds in the past 10 years each unique and wonderful in their respective qualities. From a shy, soft-spoken vietnamese friend that was gawked at whenever we did 'daytime activities' (shop, lunch, terrasse) because of his remarkeable beauty and grace. I never once saw him without his flawlessly and subtlely exotic make-up in the four years I knew him! He was treated like royalty by everyone and I always felt somehow 'purified' just being in his company. Bless you, where ever you may be today, Kiet. In my opinion, many modern women could learn a thing (or sixty) from him in what it means to be 'classically feminine'.
At the other end of the spectrum were the acquaintances (friends of friends) that I've suffered on numerous occasions; the brash, obnoxious, and self-centred attention seekers that most would label the Flamer or the Drag queen. The ones that need to make their every movement and thought into a public production, in or out of make-up, though often amusing in their eccentricities, are the one's I find very difficult to tolerate for long periods of time. Its all about them, all the time. In my estimation, a handbag and a weave alone do not 'feminine' make.
Grace and a quiet confidence to Be as Fem as they wish gets my respect.
Needing to be the centre of all social environments and vulgarity leave me looking for the exit signs.