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I had been seeing someone for about 8 months and never met his parents or brother, or even his close friends. We all live in the same city. I've asked why and he says they're just always busy. I feel like I'm not important or I'm not good enough for him and that's the reason why he won't let me meet them, yet he visit them independently every so often. What's wrong with this picture?

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He could be embarrassed of them?

1) He's not out.

2) He's embarrassed by THEM.

Those are the two reason why I wouldn't bring a boyfriend home...or really meet my friends. My friends are quite immature and weird and I'd be quite embarrassed by their behavior in front of the guy I'm dating.

BF and/or Parents in denial.

May have to just live with it.

my bf hasn't met my parents and we've been together for a total of like 3 years. they live in the state too

Meeting the parents is pretty normal, it's not as easy to introduce a guy to your parents as it would be to introduce a girl. In my case, I would also wait a while for that to happen.
As for the not introducing you to his friends, well that's a little weird unless he's in the closet.

It's just strange because he's met all of mine, and my work colleagues. I'm almost insecure about it because he's more integrated in to my life than I am in his. Paranoia much?

My last ex introduced me to his mom..... only to break up with me 2 weeks later. It's no big deal.

huhwhat saidMy last ex introduced me to his mom..... only to break up with me 2 weeks later. It's no big deal.

Awww that sucks! I guess I'm just a family man and like that sort of thing.

Some people don't get along with their families.

You don't have enough abs to impress his family and friends.
Learn Paleo and start working out.

Firebrand saidmy bf hasn't met my parents and we've been together for a total of like 3 years. they live in the state too

You noticeably didn't mention why this is, so I'll ask...why?

I've not met my BF's either but his only sibling lives in NC and his parents, who have issues with him being gay, live in southern CA. Someday we'll all meet. I'm guessing that your BF just isn't ready yet. A good pointed conversation without cornering him would be my suggestion, understanding that if he's not ready, you need to work with him not get upset with him.

I can understand not meeting parents and family in some cases but not meeting his close friends means he either has none or is still in the closet. Not good either way. Somewhere along the line he is lying.. to you or them or all of you.
Time for a discussion or to move on

northoz saidI can understand not meeting parents and family in some cases but not meeting his close friends means he either has none or is still in the closet. Not good either way. Somewhere along the line he is lying.. to you or them or all of you.
Time for a discussion or to move on

Or is like me and is embarrassed by them.

Maybe his family is unapproving of gays in general and he's protecting you (and the relationship) from them.

Instead of us speculating here, why don't you just ask him? In a good relationship communication is key.

CityRiver saidMaybe his family is unapproving of gays in general and he's protecting you (and the relationship) from them.

Instead of us speculating here, why don't you just ask him? In a good relationship communication is key.

But it doesn't feel like he's protecting me from anything, just hiding, and every time I ask he gets worked up and angry at me for asking. So unfair.

be thankful for small miracles.... LOL

hotrocket said

CityRiver saidMaybe his family is unapproving of gays in general and he's protecting you (and the relationship) from them.

Instead of us speculating here, why don't you just ask him? In a good relationship communication is key.

But it doesn't feel like he's protecting me from anything, just hiding, and every time I ask he gets worked up and angry at me for asking. So unfair.

Maybe he had a rough childhood....? How much does he interact with his family? Very little? If you bring up his childhood does he get irritated and worked up as well? If he had a lot of painful memories growing up, then of course he doesn't want you to see that part of him and therefore he hides.

(I am, of course, speculating that)

Maybe he is embarrassed of you. Maybe he is embarrassed of them. Maybe he isn't the "bring the guy home to the family" type. Maybe they don't live close.

The options are endless.

Firebrand saidmy bf hasn't met my parents and we've been together for a total of like 3 years. they live in the state too

You should take him to meet your folks.
They'll probably like him more than they like you.
I imagine anyone would.

7Famark saidMaybe he is embarrassed of you. Maybe he is embarrassed of them. Maybe he isn't the "bring the guy home to the family" type. Maybe they don't live close.

The options are endless.

Or he is in the closet..

Cranque_des_Epices said

Firebrand saidmy bf hasn't met my parents and we've been together for a total of like 3 years. they live in the state too

You should take him to meet your folks.
They'll probably like him more than they like you.
I imagine anyone would.

Cranque_des_Epices said

Firebrand saidmy bf hasn't met my parents and we've been together for a total of like 3 years. they live in the state too

You should take him to meet your folks.
They'll probably like him more than they like you.
I imagine anyone would.

lmao

mad dino is mad

Firebrand said

Cranque_des_Epices said

Firebrand saidmy bf hasn't met my parents and we've been together for a total of like 3 years. they live in the state too

You should take him to meet your folks.
They'll probably like him more than they like you.
I imagine anyone would.

lmao

mad dino is mad

No no
Contemptuous dino has contempt.
Pathetic troll is pathetic.

When I met my last BF family I realized his roots were rather pedestrian and white trash and although he presented himself as educated and aware, I knew after meeting these slobs and good for nothing's, that he too would always fall back on their lazy and slack jawed ways. We broke up soon after that fateful meeting, I of course blamed it on the weather.