HEART HURTS!!

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    Jul 04, 2012 9:07 AM GMT
    My ex sent me a text message that really hurt me. I don't think he did it on purpose. I have never felt like this before. I feel like my heart was pull out, stomped and stabbed on. It's really hard for me to breath. I don't know what to do. People keep telling me to forget him, but it's not that easy. I am also not the type that likes to be single. Maybe that's why it hurts to let go.
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    Jul 04, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    Breaking up is never easy and sometimes takes a long time. It doesn't help to receive messages that may or may not be interpreted differently. Sometimes it helps not to have communications so you can make the break and move on. Does that mean forgetting? No. Getting over him quicker? No. It just means that you can eliminate any chance of further hurt.

    Time is your friend. It takes time. You're young and you will find someone to fall in love with again. You may go through all of this with another guy but you'll find that each and every time, until you meet the 'right' guy, that you learn a little bit more about what you want, what you need and who you are. Take what you've learned from this and move forward towards a better place. Good luck.
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    Jul 04, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear that you are hurting.A lesson each of us needs to learn in this life is sometimes you have to tell even those closest to you to FUCK OFF .Best revenge...go out and have a really fun 4th of July.Good Food,drink hearty and get an awesome lay lol.Ryan
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    Jul 04, 2012 2:19 PM GMT
    If you keep in contact with him you'll keep the feelings alive longer. Better to sever all contact and move on. Assuming you want to move on from him and that he has moved on from you.
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    Jul 04, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    WickedRyan saidSorry to hear that you are hurting.A lesson each of us needs to learn in this life is sometimes you have to tell even those closest to you to FUCK OFF .Best revenge...go out and have a really fun 4th of July.Good Food,drink hearty and get an awesome lay lol.Ryan

    Gross, shallowest option ever, typical though. Tis should be the standard gay therapy. Anything that is wrong with any gay man should be met with, "you should get laid" and then actually say LOL just to show you have no soul.
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    Jul 04, 2012 4:52 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear that, I know how it feels and that sick feeling...all you can do is be the best man you can be and maybe he'll come back...for some it takes
    mistakes to realize what they had and time definitely heals.
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    Jul 04, 2012 4:57 PM GMT
    What did he say? Like, what was in the text?
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    Jul 04, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    Yeah, I want to know too. What was in the text?? icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jul 09, 2012 9:00 AM GMT
    Thank you all for the reply. I drove the two hour trip to see him again on saturday and sunday. P.S. i saw him the weekend before that too. This second time was harsh. I felt that he didnt want me there even though he invited me over. He just seemed to act strange around me.

    For those of you wondering why he doesnt just date me again is because at the same time he is talking to someone else. This other guy lives 6 to 7 hours away from him. Most of the time he is on his phone texting and i dont want to be a dick and be reading his messages. He tells me its just his friend, but i dont know who to believe. He also mentioned that the thing he has with this other is rocky and unsure of.

    What should I do? I don't want to drive two hours on the weekends to see him when he might just choose the other guy instead. I also dont want to build any stronger feelings just yet, but I care a lot about him. I think somethings wrong with me.
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    Jul 09, 2012 9:55 AM GMT
    You are wasting your time - move on, date other people, and find someone who actually values you. That will feel a lot better than pining for someone who doesn't care, to the point of making it clear you're Option 2 if his Option 1 seven hours away doesn't work out.

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    Jul 09, 2012 10:02 AM GMT
    so i was expecting this when I saw the title, but then remembered not everyone is as random as I am.



    To the OP, time heals all and you just need some time to get over him. yeah it sucks to be alone, esp after being in a relationship. I would just take time out for YOU and do all the things YOU would want to do. Be a little selfish, nothing wrong with that from time to time. You really don't get to be when you're dating someone. I hope this vid makes you laugh like it did for me.
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    Jul 09, 2012 11:29 AM GMT
    Like others have said, it's best to move on. You may have shared some good times with your ex and he may have treated you great at one point. But it sounds like he doesn't value you as he should. He's no longer grateful to have you as a bf or even as a friend. It sounds like you're the only one putting in the effort. If he isn't contributing then his heart isn't really where it should be to make things work. You are more than a back up plan. It's not right for him to string you along while he waits to see if the other guy works out. If he really valued you, even as a friend, he would realize that what he's doing to you is wrong. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of knowing that you'll be there waiting to see how things work out. Basically you deserve to be someones first choice. Find yourself another guy, if he was in your shoes I bet the situation would be totally different. Love hurts and it doesn't always make since, getting caught up with someone is easy. Then when they're not there you miss them. When in actuality it's the company you miss and not the person. It's like a piece of furniture you get used to it being there. When it's gone it's odd and something feels out of place, but eventually you adjust to it. You may have had some good memories attached to that old couch, but now it smells and the cushions are ripped. It's time to part ways, recycle it and find something more compatible, something that better suits your needs. Good luckicon_smile.gif
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    Jul 09, 2012 9:45 PM GMT
    justinsprings07 saidLike others have said, it's best to move on. You may have shared some good times with your ex and he may have treated you great at one point. But it sounds like he doesn't value you as he should. He's no longer grateful to have you as a bf or even as a friend. It sounds like you're the only one putting in the effort. If he isn't contributing then his heart isn't really where it should be to make things work. You are more than a back up plan. It's not right for him to string you along while he waits to see if the other guy works out. If he really valued you, even as a friend, he would realize that what he's doing to you is wrong. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of knowing that you'll be there waiting to see how things work out. Basically you deserve to be someones first choice. Find yourself another guy, if he was in your shoes I bet the situation would be totally different. Love hurts and it doesn't always make since, getting caught up with someone is easy. Then when they're not there you miss them. When in actuality it's the company you miss and not the person. It's like a piece of furniture you get used to it being there. When it's gone it's odd and something feels out of place, but eventually you adjust to it. You may have had some good memories attached to that old couch, but now it smells and the cushions are ripped. It's time to part ways, recycle it and find something more compatible, something that better suits your needs. Good luckicon_smile.gif



    Wow, you blew me away with that. Thank you so much. If I had a chance to meet you, I'd give you a big hug and a kiss. lol.

    Oh and the videos were awesome thanks. lol