Any single guys in LA area into MMA

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    Aug 03, 2008 11:27 PM GMT
    So I finally realized what type of guy I want. I was always unsure of what I wanted and never could pin down a type but I finally got it. I just went to my first grappling tournament and I realized I want a guy who competes in Mixed Martial Arts like me because the are very masculine, competitive, and in great shape. So anyone out there? lol
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    Aug 04, 2008 12:33 AM GMT
    Looks like we like the same type of guy. Haha. I'm very much into MMA, but more watching than participating. Too much going on right now for me to join any kind of league or training. But all of the gay guys I've talked to about MMA and UFC and all of that have zero interest in it. They say, "It's too hetero." Maybe that's just the gays I know. Hopefully they don't speak for everyone.
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    Aug 04, 2008 12:47 AM GMT
    You are not alone, ItsMyLife, I've been meaning to join an MMA gym in part to be more involved in this world and those awesomely attractive (in body and personality) men.
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    Aug 04, 2008 12:50 AM GMT
    Great now I have good reason to join an MMA gym and be the most obviously gay and flaboyant ass-kicker ever icon_idea.gif
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    Aug 04, 2008 12:55 AM GMT
    its not like i joined to meet guys, but when i did i realized that i really liked the type of guys who do it and realized i want that type of guy
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    Aug 04, 2008 12:57 AM GMT
    ItsMyLife saidits not like i joined to meet guys, but when i did i realized that i really liked the type of guys who do it and realized i want that type of guy

    Of course, we all start out with good intentions and leave with naughty actions lol
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    Aug 04, 2008 1:10 AM GMT
    That's an important distinction to make... no one should join a legit sport, club or league (whatever you want to call it) with intentions that deviate from the purpose. You will fail, and you will be rediculed when they find out your true reasons.

    Don't get me wrong, if you get involved in MMA because you actually enjoy martial arts and you want to be a fighter, and then on the side, you happen to be human and have your human urges too, then that's fine. But know how to seperate the two, and when/where it's appropriate to express the different facets of one's personality. (ItsMyLife, I'm not pointing to you, you actually seem like you've got it figured out, I'm just speaking generally.)

    I was a wrestler in highschool, and I think soon, I may start up at an MMA gym near me. Occassionally, I get asked some pretty rediculous questions (at least I find them rediculous) and they're to the tune of "did you get hard when you were wrestling???" ... the answer is NO. Now, I'm just as gay as the next homosexual guy, but the truth of the matter is, when you're out on the mat to wrestle, taking down your opponent is the first and last thing that is in your head. There is no time for lusting or daydreaming because if you do, you'll be off your game, and you'll lose. Plain and simple. So please, for any of those who think they're going to join an MMA-related discipline for erotic reasons, look specifically for the "fantasy" based clubs, and not the real athletic leagues.

    I felt compelled to write this post mostly because of my past experience with people and their misconceptions. It may not speak to everyone, but I know there are a fair number of people out there who don't have a clear idea of what being a gay athlete really is all about. It doesn't help the situation when people are alreadying calling sports like wrestling a "gay sport." It makes even the least homophobic guys upset (who participate in the sport) and it makes it harder for us homosexual guys who are in it for the win to actually be apart of these lifestyles. OK! Rant over. :-)

    Oh yea, and I agree with you ItsMyLife... I think I'd do well with a guy who happens to be an MMA athlete aswell. :-) One of my biggest gripes is that, in a real fight (if, knock on wood, me and mine got into a fight) who'd be holding the ground? I'd prefer my boy and me to be equally protecting each other, but more often than not, I can't help but feel like I'd be the sole defender of our little "team" there. I don't want a guy I *have* to defend. I want a guy whom we can equally defend each other if ever necessary. That's just one little thing, of course, I'm not expecting to get into a fight any time soon, lol.
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    Aug 04, 2008 1:28 AM GMT
    I completely agree with you man on the sport aspect rant. Anyone who days MMA or BJJ is gay they're just hidding their homophobic urges hahaha. But seriously I feel the same way about both being able to protect eachother. I am tired of "being the man" in the relationship so to speak. If I wanted to date a skinny helpless person I would date a girl. There is nothing wrong with that type of guy, it's just not what I want.
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    Aug 04, 2008 3:03 AM GMT
    As someone who is NOT into MMA and UFC I have nothing against it but don't get the attraction to it. I mean the guys are in great shape and I've even seen a few that are downright drop dead gorgeous but I just don't get the appeal of either watching people beat each other senseless or being beaten senseless on a regular basis for the fun of it or the competitive aspect of being the best at beating people senseless??????? Why does that make someone manly? To each his own I guess.....just sayin'
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    Aug 04, 2008 4:44 AM GMT
    Shortnsexystud,

    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What you see as "beating people senseless" can also be seen as competing physically, mentally, and emotionally against someone to see how far you can push yourself compared to someone else.

    I'm not a fan of boxing, MMA, or WWE wrestling. I'd be the first to admit that I don't know what can make a man want to test himself in that way. But, that's what some guys do to test themselves. Others look to weightlifting or running with the same determination to push themselves in competition. Regardless, we as men feel compelled to constantly compare ourselves and continue to improve and grow.

    But, as I always say "Whatever floats your boat".

    I also have to agree with the general consensus here. If you're going to join a MMA gym because you are passionate about the art and enjoy doing it, GO FOR IT! If you are going to join a gym to meet a hot piece of beef, just see how long you last there. Follow your bliss, and then enjoy the company while you're there.
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    Aug 04, 2008 4:59 AM GMT
    I don't think anyone here was talking about pursuing MMA or any athletic discipline as a way to grope on guys or as a substitute pick-up joint. I think the point is that we're athletically-minded guys drawn to the world of martial arts and that it naturally follows that likeminded guys interest us. You obviously have to have your own individual interest in something like this to seriously pursue it and stick with it.
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    Aug 04, 2008 5:14 AM GMT
    That is true, innerathlete. I didn't mean to insinuate anyone here was planning on joining a MMA gym to pick up their type of guy.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is that it is natural for us to try and make ourselves into what we are attracted to. That way, our struggle makes us into the type of man that we find attractive.