When guys tell you they're not into penetration

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    Jul 04, 2012 10:28 PM GMT
    What are your views on this? Does it make you want to meet the guy more or less? It might suggest that he's careful about his health and does not want to take risks. It might also suggest that he is a control freak and a coward and whatever you might want to label him with.

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    Jul 04, 2012 11:19 PM GMT
    All it takes is 2 bottles of wine..the right lighting..and a sad story from a really hot guy..legs will be flying in the air like a cheap pair of flags..icon_biggrin.gif..on a serious note some guys want to save "it" for someone long term and until they are shure of you..you'll keep hearing that line !
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    Jul 05, 2012 12:27 AM GMT
    anocxu saidAll it takes is 2 bottles of wine..the right lighting..and a sad story from a really hot guy..legs will be flying in the air like a cheap pair of flags..icon_biggrin.gif..on a serious note some guys want to save "it" for someone long term and until they are shure of you..you'll keep hearing that line !


    This is quite interesting, and I think the both of you may have a point.
    Some guys are serious about relationship know that sex is a 'dime a dozen'. So when you meet that someone that you like a lot you hold off on penetrations sex cause you want to be sure that person is really into you. Sex for some men is very intense and one of the rarest forms of intimacy like kissing. There some people that kiss and some that don't until later..... I agree with you bothicon_smile.gifhttp://assets6.rjstatic.com/images/global/icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 06, 2012 8:03 PM GMT
    I've never had this happen to me personally but if it ever does happen in the future I think I'd be fine with it. No one should feel pressured to do anything that he doesn't want to. And if the guy who wants penetration can't have it because his partner doesn't want it, then maybe they should see other people if it becomes an issue.
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    Jul 06, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
    I've never been interested in penetration...total boner-kill for me. I used fo top previous boyfriends in my first few years of dating, but it always grossed me out (with or without a condom). After the third condom broke (10 years into dating), I gave up all penetration except for the occasional bj. It's just too damn risky to do something I don't enjoy in the first place.
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    Jul 06, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    No means, no.
  • sbwlguy

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    Jul 06, 2012 10:42 PM GMT
    Fear of not being totally clean?
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    Jul 07, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    *sound of door swinging closed behind me*
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    To me it means:

    "I'm sorry, but I'm not really that into you being inside of me".

    To which I determine if I should friend-zone him, or zone his clenched ass right on out the door.
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    Jul 19, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch said*sound of door swinging closed behind me*


    yep
  • arcimboldo

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    Jul 19, 2012 6:02 PM GMT
    Could be this or it could be they are not too sexually mature, not ok with being gay or whatever. Some guys do not fuck on the first date because they don't know the partner well enough in oder to establish a connection. Penetration means intimancy, accepting your body and your partner's.

    As my psychoanalyst said : being fallic is not penetrating, but holding the penis inside you....

  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 22, 2012 7:41 AM GMT
    Most of my sexual encounters have been oral. I did try to bottom once but it felt so uncomfortable and had to stop it while he was half in. It just hurt so bad and it totally killed my mood. I don't know, I guess I'll have to see if I want to try it again with the right guy but every time I think of the discomfort, it just makes me shudder.
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    Jul 22, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    Had plenty of guys like that, some don't even want a finger or a tongue back there. No sweat, though... plenty of mind-blowing frot positions that do the trick. You can get many of them into hot-dogging position as long as you describe it well enough that they're cool with it. Now if they're not into mutual oral action, then it's definitely *sound of door swinging closed behind me* lol
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    Jul 22, 2012 4:49 PM GMT
    My mind might say no, but my cock wants to be inside of people.
  • Coachfan

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    Aug 26, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    It could mean that he wants to wait or just is not interested in this type of activity. I would ask why if it were a concern.
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    Aug 26, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    I say " I'm fine with that, bend over " icon_biggrin.gif
  • jackthejock

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    Aug 27, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    I only do anal in a committed relationship, topping or bottoming. I did a few times here and there when I was in college and stuff, but since then it has always been in a relationship....though there was a hook up or two where I would have done it but decided they were too big since I hadn't bottomed in so long LOL.
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    Aug 27, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
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    so.. should we rent a movie instead.. or what.. no movie? .. k bye. icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 27, 2012 12:36 PM GMT
    lucky_sevn said
    SkinnyBitch said*sound of door swinging closed behind me*


    yep





    yup
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    Aug 27, 2012 12:59 PM GMT
    Hapuna saidWhen guys tell you they're not into penetration
    What are your views on this? Does it make you want to meet the guy more or less? It might suggest that he's careful about his health and does not want to take risks. It might also suggest that he is a control freak and a coward and whatever you might want to label him with.


    It wouldn't make it an issue as long as I really liked the guy. I have no problem with limitations and respect people for theirs.

    But the actual suggestion that he is "coward"?! Hell, I would definitely keep away from people with such a mentality.
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    Aug 27, 2012 1:01 PM GMT
    i say, "fuck him."
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    Aug 29, 2012 5:22 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI've never been interested in penetration...total boner-kill for me. I used fo top previous boyfriends in my first few years of dating, but it always grossed me out (with or without a condom). After the third condom broke (10 years into dating), I gave up all penetration except for the occasional bj. It's just too damn risky to do something I don't enjoy in the first place.


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