jonplondon saidOK guys you have had your fun and yes I admit my post was clumsily written.
Being new to this forum I didn't realize the poisened tongues that were around, though perhaps I should have known better.
'Qi' is a completely valid concept. It means 'universal life energy' and it is simply the energy that runs through everything, including humans.
The Taoists relate the concept of 'qi' to sex and put simply they realize that when you ejaculate you lose qi. This over time becomes debilitating, leads to premature ageing and weakens the immune system.
I accept this is a very hard thing for most gay men to comprehend because they are fed a diet of porn where everyone comes and nobody has to deal with the consequences. Pure fantasy.
I can tell you with 100% certainty that I am better off, more physically and psychologically fit than I have ever been- for not coming!
But yet I crave intimacy.
It is also perfectly valid to want to experience the ultimate intimacy with another man. The fact that HIV exists of course makes the practise much harder but I for one am a bit sick of playing it safe and not truly connecting to my partner. I would never had said that in my 20s because I was utterly scared of becoming infected. But I recognize that at 36 all these years of fear have taken me to a brick wall. It is time to re-assess the beliefs that have led me here.
I seek a man who wants the same, who wants horny, passionate sex but who is trustworthy and mature to communicate honestly with me and committed to the same thing as I am. I shall persevere.
Barebottoming = HIV
Baretopping = quite possible HIV
don't get it sorry???
Besides I simply want to experience sober and responsibly something that probably 1000s of guys around the world experience in a state of being drug-fucked and in denial on Sunday morning after a night out clubbing. Now that is loony-bin behaviour.
Enough. I have learnt my lesson and likewise you lot will do well to consider what I have to say.
Jon I would like to apologize for these people. You ask a simple question and they go all around with negative answers and needless bitchyness.
Ironically when I posted a topic on being postive or negative..most people here said they are Positive in Personality...
I think that bareback is beautiful and if you care enough about your partner to expose yourself to them in that way than more power to you. I do however as well as men in love said is concerned with you.
Please before you do that, get tested or something. Being one with a person is not worth your health.
i want someone who will live for me, not die for me. I think that would be amazing.. I havent done it yet, which is one of the reason I take sex so highly and seriously. I want that cherished moment of freedom, combined with trust, love and passion. I am waiting for that one person because I don't plan on using protection.
I think condoms are something we really should not need, but since more often than not, people dont want to wait, and are not "wise" about what they do and who they do it with. Condoms are necessary.
Even you said a "friend", so with that being casual I assume can be dangerous.
Just be wise, get tested and have him do the same. If you trust each other to be exclusive to each other there should be no problem. You can bareback all you want, as long as you are sure it is safe.
It seems scary how we can sleep with people but deep down are afraid they may have something..so we use condoms. I am sorry but if i have sex with someone there is not going to be one, because i will know in my heart they are clean.