What would you do if a guy you found attractive and was just trying to be in his company but you knew he was out of your league and you never knew his name so you just wished. And then after fantasizing about them for 2 years you end up finding them online and they give you their number. They offer to hang out with you then a couple weeks later something tragic happens which puts them in a very bad state where they feel " they are not in psychological state to have a friendship". What would you

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    Jul 06, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    Ok long story short i ended up in a complex by a college. Was not in college at the time but working. Looked out the window and saw this incredibly hot guy wearing tank top and black gym shorts just coming back from practice with a football build, broad shoulders, huge calves, thick thighs, big arms. I literally ran to the window every time i saw him come out his car. After a 6 months it became a routine until he ended up literally in front of me when he ended up being hired by the complex. We met twice but did not know each other. I go to pay my bill and there he was. then i needed to hand in a letter and he was there to take the letter. Unfortunately I never got his name and ended up moving out the complex. A year later i found his name via online while i was looking at pictures from my old complex. I messaged him and 4 months later got a response and he gave me his number. We started texting and he was searching for a job cuz he lost his job. I was giving him support by wishing him luck on his finals he had to take. He asked me if I wanted to grab some food sometime. I kinda hesitated because I am not sure if he is straight so did not know how to react. So he said he would hit me up when he gets to my area for work. I started my job and he said when i get out to hit him up and we could meet up. All i said was good luck on his final.. he said thanks.. then all I said was " That is just the type of friend I am". literally 3 weeks later i get a message about him not being in a psychological state to make new friends and to not contact him any further". Of course I was pissed and felt bad like i did something wrong. But he said he " just did not want to deal with people" and it was not me. Kinda took it as a cope out then I saw he deleted his fb profile completely. i am not even sure what he wanted from me. I believe though that some how some way we will end up having contact with someone who you have fantasized about out of everyone in a entire complex is fate. What do you guys think? And I left him a message today just saying that I hope he had a great 4th and that i know he needs his space but I am here. Hopefully he does not change his number. So I need opinions on what would you do and how would you react?
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    Jul 06, 2012 6:11 AM GMT
    what is this long ass thread title tho?
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    Jul 06, 2012 6:16 AM GMT
    I would take his words at face value and let him be. Let him deal with whatever issue(s) he has to deal with. Forcing anything on him will be too problematic. If I were you, I would move on.
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    Jul 06, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
    creature saidI would take his words at face value and let him be. Let him deal with whatever issue(s) he has to deal with. Forcing anything on him will be too problematic. If I were you, I would move on.


    What he said... ^
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    Jul 06, 2012 6:40 AM GMT
    Stuart length thread title is TL;DR
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    Jul 06, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    Firebrand saidStuart length thread title is TL;DR


    I'm always hostile about reading a long thread title because I think it will be Stuart...but this one I just got bored halfway and expected the actual opening post to be 3 words but it was just more tl;dr.
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    Jul 06, 2012 7:09 AM GMT
    You should bore strangers with long threads that no one will read. Job well done.
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    Jul 06, 2012 2:52 PM GMT
    WTF is this shit? Learn to forum.
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    Jul 06, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    A suggestion for the site- when starting a new thread, change the name of the box called "subject" to "title".
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    Jul 06, 2012 4:44 PM GMT
    hahaha RJ needs to go the Twitter route when it comes to titles, 140 characters or less
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    Jul 06, 2012 6:57 PM GMT
    BlackCat90 saidhahaha RJ needs to go the Twitter route when it comes to titles, 140 characters or less
    They should limit posts to 140 characters also. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 06, 2012 7:02 PM GMT
    An exceedingly helpful post. Like.

    socalfitness saidForum suggestions:

    1) This belongs in the Dating and Relationships area. Even with the obnoxiously long title, it will get pushed down quickly. Admin can move it. You can ask him to do that via the Help link at the top right.

    2) Take the current title and make it your first paragraph. A title that most find annoying will alienate some who would otherwise seriously address your questions.

    3) Make this your new title: Difficult relationship with a guy you think is out of your league
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    Jul 06, 2012 8:43 PM GMT
    Yawn.
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    Jul 06, 2012 8:45 PM GMT
    whatwouldyoudoifyoumadeahugelongtitlewithnospacesnosenseandnopunctuationanditwasreallyhardtoreadbutyoustilltriedbecauseyourwholeOPisprettymuchimpossibletoread
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    Jul 06, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
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    BlackCat90 saidhahaha RJ needs to go the Twitter route when it comes to titles, 140 characters or less
    They should limit posts to 140 characters also. icon_lol.gif



    True. I just attempted to read the OP and it could have been seriously edited and still gotten the same information out.
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    Jul 07, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    showme saidAn exceedingly helpful post. Like.

    socalfitness saidForum suggestions:

    1) This belongs in the Dating and Relationships area. Even with the obnoxiously long title, it will get pushed down quickly. Admin can move it. You can ask him to do that via the Help link at the top right.

    2) Take the current title and make it your first paragraph. A title that most find annoying will alienate some who would otherwise seriously address your questions.

    3) Make this your new title: Difficult relationship with a guy you think is out of your league

    Thanks for the comment.
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    Jul 07, 2012 1:06 AM GMT
    sorry I got stuck on the 4 months later you got a response. WHO WAITS FOR FOUR MONTHS? it takes me a combo of (a) I'm insanely attracted (has happened twice) AND (b) a ton of confidence to even message a guy. period. if he doesn't respond in FOUR DAYS i am done. FOUR MONTHS??? omg.

    To me, it seems like the guy is clearly not into you and was only talking to you because he thought you may be able to offer him unemployment. I'm not trying to be mean or condescending (I've been there to a very lesser extreme), but yeah - pack up and move on
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    Jul 07, 2012 1:08 AM GMT
    Sounds like your guy might be going thru a rough patch..or he might just be unstable...ya know what i mean.."ALWAYS going thru a rough patch"..stay close..but don't get too close even if it turns out he's gay..which you dont know right now..if he can pull it together and it turns out you can get those sexy calves over your head..go for it..icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 07, 2012 1:26 AM GMT
    How did the title go from "a guy" to "they"? icon_confused.gif