Losing hope of losing weight

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    Jul 06, 2012 2:03 PM GMT
    I've been trying really hard to lose weight for a few months now. Right now, I weigh 229 pounds, even though most people don't believe it when I tell them. Most people think I "hide it well" and that I don't actually look that weight. But whatever. I feel it, and I want to lose weight, get in shape, and just be healthy. It isn't just about aesthetics to me. I want to feel healthy and comfortable in my own body. Everyone tells me that I'm a good-looking guy, but I won't feel that way about myself until I am happy with my body and not just my face (which is why I don't have any pictures posted here on RJ).

    I did Weight Watchers for a couple of months and I lost about 12-15 pounds. Then I went off track and stopped doing it. I recently started the "Insanity" program, and I've lost 4 pounds, but it's been like 2 weeks. I have a hard time finishing the workouts because they're too intense for me. I've never really worked out before, so I think I need to lose some more weight before I start such an intense program...

    My main problem is my diet. I eat like crap, but I've been getting better at it. I've had weeks where I ate healthy and exercised, but barely lost any weight. It makes me feel like it's impossible for me to do. I don't know anything about weightlifting and what types of exercises I should be doing, so I'm completely clueless at the gym. I'd like to get a trainer to me, but I can't really afford one being in college and only working part-time.

    I really just don't know what to do anymore. Nothing seems to work for me.
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    Jul 06, 2012 2:24 PM GMT
    You said it yourself, you eat like crap. That is why you aren't losing weight.
    Stop eating junk, start eating whole grains, lean proteins, fruits, vegetables, get plenty of fiber, eat yogurt and only drink water. Limit your caloric intake to around 1250-1500 and the pounds will fly off.
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    Jul 06, 2012 3:02 PM GMT

    You are doomed to fail. No, really.
    http://www.cracked.com/quick-fixes/fat-officially-incurable-according-to-science/

    Or... you can monitor your food intake and read some books.

    Scott Herman's video collection on youtube gives basic workouts. Look him up there, select a body region / typed workout, and go with it. They are simple enough and if you can bake a cake, you can follow his instructions.
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    Jul 06, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    You're setting yourself up for failure if you don't get yourself educated about food and exercise. If you just do things haphazardly, intermittently, without commitment, etc. how do you expect to achieve what you want to achieve?

    Either get a trainer/dietician to educate you or educate yourself on what needs to happen regarding food and exercise. Step by step, you can make it happen. But it won't if you don't know the proper steps to take. Commit to a new you, and don't settle for less than the best of and from yourself.

    Scott Herman's site is a good start if you can't afford a trainer.
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    Jul 06, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    Yes I have to agree that your eating habits are the main problem. You may think you are starting to eat healthier, but you're most likely not. For example I was at 250 (alot for a 17 yearold) and I started to work out. I got down to about 235 before I stopped loosing and I couldn't figure out why. My parents pointed it out and said it was still my eating habits. So I became very sticky (anything with enriched wheat flour and processed sugar in the first 5 ingredients I stayed away from) and now today I'm down to 190.
    For the exercises if you can afford it hire a personal trainer or go to a gym and ask the trainer to make the plan for you. If money is an issue do what the guy above me suggested and look to YouTube. Also you said you were doing insanity, while that is a extremly hard program I would suggest you try Rush Fit. Im into my second week and loving it. You will be drenched in sweat by the end, but if the moves are too challenging they will give you a more easy one to do that still works the area you're trying to target.
    In all loosing weight is challenging. You just have to get into the habit of eating right, working out and being honest to yourself about it all. Hell I still have days where I relasp, but I just shake it off and come back even harder in my next workout. Good luck!
    Cheers
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    Jul 06, 2012 3:17 PM GMT
    Thats a really depressing article.
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    Jul 06, 2012 3:27 PM GMT
    Yeah... but it is also very truthful. "Diets", pills and fad types, is what it is poking the most fun at. You have to actually change your diet, not go on and off weight watchers.
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    Jul 06, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    Stop making excuses about how this is too hard. It requires commitment on your part. So, respect yourself by making the commitment to be a better person.

    Did your Insanity workout come with nutrition guidelines? I ask because p90x had a good diet and nutrition manual that spelled out how to combine dietary changes with the workouts for maximum effect.

    According to their guideline, you need bodyweight x 10 in calories for your body to function. Adding exercise requires extra calories, which they estimate at 300. You take the total and round downward depending on some threshholds. The goal is to have a caloric deficit that helps you lose weight while still having energy. A 500 calorie deficit will give you weight loss around 1 pound per week.

    If you seriously try to lose weight, a healthy weight loss amount is about 2lbs per week. If you tally that up, it's more than 100 lbs in a year. How much did you expect to lose?

    Not all calories are created equal either. You need to eat clean protein, vegetables, and limit carbs. Cut junk foods, fats, sugary drinks, and alcohol. Do a little research about proper nutrition. Weight Watchers has plenty of information if you can't find another source.

    Commit to being healthy, eating properly, and exercising regularly. If Insanity is too hard right now, don't use that as an excuse not to do anything. Just keep trying to improve. Before long, you will be doing the workouts and thinking they are easy.

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    Jul 06, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    It is hard, but it's not rocket science. If calories in < calories out, you'll lose weight. Figure out your base calorie budget and then eat a few hundred less each day.

    I have never struggled with being terribly overweight, but for years was slowly gaining weight even though I was eating really healthy foods. My problem was quantity control - as well as not really comprehending how many calories were in my then-normal "cheat" foods, like tortilla chips. I recently started tracking calories on fitday.com (there are others out there) and it has been a real eye-opener.
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    Jul 06, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    If you TRULY wanted to lose the weight, then you'd adjust your mental outlook. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop looking for pity. Stop looking for external validation.
    Stop expecting everything you try to come up with huge results in short periods of time.

    LEAD the lifestyle you want your body to reflect. That includes diet and exercise. LEAD yourself to the feeling of well being and aesthetics you desire.

    This, "nothing seems to work for me" is utter bullshit. WW was working for you but YOU chose to deviate and cheat on your meals then abandon the program. The only thing that can work for you is YOU, so just get to it and stop your whining. WW is actually very effective. It's actually a calculated way to manage portion control and the intake of junk. Get back to it IF YOU REALLY WANT IT, otherwise, don't bother posting looking for a pity party again.

    Tough love. You need it.
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    Jul 06, 2012 5:14 PM GMT
    there's always gastric bypass and lipo ♥
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    Jul 06, 2012 5:16 PM GMT
    I've never understood anyone in this decade saying, "I don't understand something" and doing little to change it. Seriously - google. You have the equivalent of the world's greatest libraries at your finger tips in seconds. People even 30 years ago would have killed to have such quick easy access to information.

    You don't NEED a personal trainer and if you can't afford one then forget about it. Go read about routines, proper form, nutrition, and educate yourself. You'll be better off in the end for knowing the basics and finer points of working out than if you paid some guy to just walk you through everything anyway.

    Losing weight is not impossible for even the most genetically unlucky - just harder. If you want to lose weight, you'll have to eat properly, and workout properly. If you don't have the money to pay someone to do all the thinking for you, you'll have to spend your own time figuring it out. If you can't be bothered its obviously not that important to you.

    Others are right here, your biggest problem is your negative attitutude and expectation of fast results. Also stop weighing yourself...measure your waist if you want to track fat loss.

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    Jul 06, 2012 5:17 PM GMT
    To be honest, I am not a big fan of Weight Watchers, because I have been there done that and I believe it enables you to make the bad choices as long as you stay within your points.

    I have also felt the exact same feelings as the OP.

    Here's what I know now.

    1) Portion control. Learn it, live it.

    2) Find the right balance of proteins/carbs. That can vary based on your body type and activities. Runners need more carbs than body builders.

    3) Change something. If you get stuck, it's time to change something. Shock your body and your mind into getting re-motivated.
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    Jul 06, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    countrycityboy saidI've been trying really hard to lose weight for a few months now. Right now, I weigh 229 pounds, even though most people don't believe it when I tell them. Most people think I "hide it well" and that I don't actually look that weight. But whatever. I feel it, and I want to lose weight, get in shape, and just be healthy. It isn't just about aesthetics to me. I want to feel healthy and comfortable in my own body. Everyone tells me that I'm a good-looking guy, but I won't feel that way about myself until I am happy with my body and not just my face (which is why I don't have any pictures posted here on RJ).

    I did Weight Watchers for a couple of months and I lost about 12-15 pounds. Then I went off track and stopped doing it. I recently started the "Insanity" program, and I've lost 4 pounds, but it's been like 2 weeks. I have a hard time finishing the workouts because they're too intense for me. I've never really worked out before, so I think I need to lose some more weight before I start such an intense program...

    My main problem is my diet. I eat like crap, but I've been getting better at it. I've had weeks where I ate healthy and exercised, but barely lost any weight. It makes me feel like it's impossible for me to do. I don't know anything about weightlifting and what types of exercises I should be doing, so I'm completely clueless at the gym. I'd like to get a trainer to me, but I can't really afford one being in college and only working part-time.

    I really just don't know what to do anymore. Nothing seems to work for me.


    You need to come up with a detailed diet and workout plan. Stay away from the fads, and focus on meeting your goal. Take pictures of yourself weekly, so you can document your progress. Also, see if you can a buddy to keep you in check. If you have someone to talk to during moments of weakness, you might have a better chance of beating your cravings or staying on your workout plan.
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    Jul 06, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    uoft23 saidI've never understood anyone in this decade saying, "I don't understand something" and doing little to change it. Seriously - google. You have the equivalent of the world's greatest libraries at your finger tips in seconds. People even 30 years ago would have killed to have such quick easy access to information.

    You don't NEED a personal trainer and if you can't afford one then forget about it. Go read about routines, proper form, nutrition, and educate yourself. You'll be better off in the end for knowing the basics and finer points of working out than if you paid some guy to just walk you through everything anyway.

    Losing weight is not impossible for even the most genetically unlucky - just harder. If you want to lose weight, you'll have to eat properly, and workout properly. If you don't have the money to pay someone to do all the thinking for you, you'll have to spend your own time figuring it out. If you can't be bothered its obviously not that important to you.

    Others are right here, your biggest problem is your negative attitutude and expectation of fast results. Also stop weighing yourself...measure your waist if you want to track fat loss.


    Good post. Totally agree! ^^

    Yes it is a challenge to loose weight. But it definitely can be done. You need to change from 'a man with an idea' to become 'a man with a plan'.

    Changing your body composition is about changing your fat to muscle ratio. I don't mean this lightly but loosing weight (fat+muscle) is the easiest level.
    Loosing fat and retaining muscle is tricky and needs certain amount to training and knowledge.
    Increasing muscle mass, especially striving for minimal fat gains, is the most difficult and takes a long time and dedication.
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    Jul 06, 2012 9:21 PM GMT
    You can and will lose weight if you really want to.

    Let's look at what you write:

    countrycityboyI did Weight Watchers for a couple of months and I lost about 12-15 pounds. Then I went off track and stopped doing it.


    Quite. Stick with it and the weight will gradually reduce. But diet is not enough, you also write

    countrycityboyI recently started the "Insanity" program, and I've lost 4 pounds, but it's been like 2 weeks. I have a hard time finishing the workouts because they're too intense for me.


    It is intense and the more you do it the better you will get. You have to stick with it.

    I advise

    1. Go back to insanity and stick at it. If you do it regularly you will get better.

    and

    2. Cut out carbs.

    and

    3. Sign yourself into a serious weights regime. Men lose weight quicker through resistance training than through aerobic exercise, and

    Stick at it.

    You can and will lose weight. There is endless testament on this site from guys who have. If you lack the will power, hire someone to bully you into it :-)
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    Jul 06, 2012 9:24 PM GMT
    Have you tried removing wheat from your diet?
    Google "Wheat Belly"