Dealing with anger. How do you cool down when your fed up?

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    Aug 11, 2007 10:49 PM GMT
    Hey Guys,

    Today I got in an argument with my boss. She is a real control freak. She wants to know about everything going on even if it doesn't concern her. This issue didn't. I was starting to raise my voice at her because it was starting to get me angry but scared at the same time. I don't want to loose this job but I shouldn't be in fear at work either.

    Anyway I was really upset on my way home riding my bike then I saw this cute guy. I flirted with him and suddenly the anger went away.

    Try it this works!

    So how do you guys deal with anger management
  • metta

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    Aug 12, 2007 12:03 AM GMT
    I'm glad that you found a good way to deal with it. ;)

    My most common ways are to deal with frustration:

    * walking along the local trails
    * talking to a friend
    * doing some cardio and trying to burn it off.



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    Aug 12, 2007 12:18 AM GMT
    Find a Republican to fuck. Don't use lube.
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    Aug 12, 2007 12:39 AM GMT
    I'm a Republican. Hot.

    I actually channel my aggression into my workouts, which helps tremendously. I also meditate. Of course my favorite method is to go for a drive and find an abandoned road or a clear merge ramp.
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    Aug 12, 2007 12:42 AM GMT
    Well i deal with anger by walking away from the problem before i get too upset and comeback and handle it when im more calm.

    Cant have too much anger....im not trying to have lines by 30!



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    Aug 12, 2007 1:05 AM GMT
    I'll listen to calm music. But sometimes, I have to let the rage go until the bag is empty.
  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 12, 2007 1:08 AM GMT
    Go for a long run and admire the countryside!
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    Aug 12, 2007 1:15 AM GMT
    Anger Management?

    1 - Martial Arts and a Heavy Bag

    ...until I can't even stand anymore.

    2 - Swimming

    ...until I am totally exhausted.

    3 - Weights

    ...lots and lots of heavy reps.

    4 - Sailing

    ...out on the water under a full sail it just all seems to disappear.

    5 - Smashing (usually) big things into tiny little things. As this can sometimes be quite expensive, the first four ways are usually preferable.

    R
  • Partclman

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    Aug 12, 2007 1:18 AM GMT
    I realize that anger directed towards things I have no control over is only a waste of energy that can be applied to more constructive things. =)
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    Aug 12, 2007 1:18 AM GMT
    I used to be like Homer simpson and ball it all up untill it was a steal ball of rage and then unlease it on some poor unexpecting fool.

    Very bad


    Now, after the last year of inside work, i don't seem to get anger anymore and when i do i go for a cyle or a swim, usually a good long cycle puts things into perspective
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    Aug 12, 2007 1:33 AM GMT
    When possible, I often save up things that I know are going to upset me and deal with them just before a workout.

    Also, in the winter time, I can head out to the orchard and prune cherry trees. The more (controlled) havoc the better! Hacking away with shears, pruners, and chain saws. Then cleaning up the evidence with the chipper. It's a great way to relieve frustration.
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    Aug 12, 2007 2:47 AM GMT

    I also like to release anger and stress through workouts, running, hiking and tennis serve practice. Naked buddy wrestling also works well, if you've got a buddy who's open to it.

    Meditation is also great, especially if you're interested in penetrating and dismantling the underlying patterns.



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    Aug 12, 2007 4:57 AM GMT
    I too usually take it out on a poor unexpecting soul. Sometimes I call friends and rant about it and they let me, then try and reason with me.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 12, 2007 5:24 AM GMT
    Similar to others.

    I like to work out. Or yoga.

    Talk to a friend or family member.

    Read or paint.

    get a massage.

    Go for a walk shirtless!!



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    Aug 12, 2007 6:14 AM GMT
    i go into my backyard and find a tree branch that is just begging to be destroyed. you know the ones that dangle down there and are dead and would shatter if thrown. i wrench the brench down adn slam it against the trunk. then turn around and smash it against my brother's abandoned car.
  • thisguy023

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    Aug 12, 2007 10:24 AM GMT
    I punch out an old lady.
    Try it. It really works.
  • GQjock

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    Aug 12, 2007 12:52 PM GMT
    I'm still laughin' at Obscene's suggestion...

    I don't get angry..I'm a Capricorn
    we get Even
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 12, 2007 3:13 PM GMT
    SEX,SEX,SEX
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    Aug 13, 2007 7:23 AM GMT
    Taking a moment and taking a few deep breaths does wonders, especially when you don't have time to get away and deal with it in another way. I will also second the suggestion of vigorous physical exertion of some sort, the chemicals your body naturally produces during exercise have a very strong biochemical effect on mood that can obliterate unwanted anger and frustration.
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    Aug 13, 2007 7:25 AM GMT
    Also, I personally can't calm down with calm music, it will just get me too antsy. But loud, raucous music, I find quite soothing.
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    Aug 13, 2007 8:14 AM GMT
    Walk away and stay away from "ambulance chasers".

    Life is too damn short and built up anger can do more harm to your body over time. If you have an anger problem talk to a professional.

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    Aug 13, 2007 8:16 AM GMT
    I dont get angry because Im a virgo(or was it suppose to be capricorn?)

    I spend my anger on unsuspecting pillows and matresses.
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    Aug 13, 2007 2:16 PM GMT
    "I spend my anger on unsuspecting pillows and matresses."

    Please be aware that venting anger on pillows will make you straight:

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  • NickoftheNort...

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    Aug 13, 2007 3:05 PM GMT
    I've got a few means:

    * take a time-out away from all other persons and work myself through the angering issue; frequently, I bash the person in my head, engaging in internal vitirolic diatribes regarding my perceived weaknesses of that person (ex. people who assume humans are rational beings...gaaaaawrrrrgh!)

    * bundle it up and vent out with people I trust (to vent out against a stranger? not there yet)

    * listen to loud music, and engage in visual imagination (often in response to newsbroadcasts); it works a form of impotent raging, with cool images yet not progress in real life

    * talking about it or writing about it with someone

    * cleaning and organizing; keeping myself pre-occupied

    * throwing stuff in the privacy of my own room; one of the means I have worked and am working away from

    Increasingly, I want to do something about the anger-inducing situation and work to preempt the it from occurring in the first place, particularly where I am responsible for the situation (ex. procrastinating on a project or personal assignment)

    re: Richard "ex-gay" Cohen
    Perhaps he is bi- / heterosexual and biphilic / homophilic.
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    Aug 13, 2007 3:40 PM GMT
    I tend to repress and then get angry over unrelated things. I used to throw whatever was near me (Everyone in my family does this. We're a passionate bunch), but when I started living with non-freaks, they made me stop