old and young

  • theone4u1212

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    Jul 07, 2012 8:37 AM GMT
    I log into a4a manhunt and my profile views and mailbox fills up with creepy nasty looking creeps. Can't they like there own age? why does everyone go after the young? not only that what makes some nasty looking 400 pound man that i would be interested?
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    Everyone has preferences. You look good and they're gonna give you a shot.

    Everyone's lookin' for lovin' bro. You don't need to respond to them. Just say no and delete them - problem solved.

    I'm getting messages just from guys in their 20's, The ones i'm not interested in, i tell them politely.


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    Jul 08, 2012 12:35 AM GMT
    Just take it as a compliment and move on. I mean I'm 23 years older than you, but I find your picture hot. Nice bod!. Just a compliment...:icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 08, 2012 12:35 AM GMT
    Just take it as a compliment and move on. I mean I'm 23 years older than you, but I find your picture hot. Nice bod!. Just a compliment...:icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 08, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    Wait till you're 2-3x your current age. Then you'll be the one the young guys hate.
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    Jul 08, 2012 1:27 AM GMT
    If it helps, I would reject you! icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 08, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidWait till you're 2-3x your current age. Then you'll be the one the young guys hate.


    ^This!
    I'm sooo bummed out that that shallow dude with no punctuation ability, and who spells "their" as "there," gets his bloomers in a knot if somebody not within 27 days of his age and sufficiently "atTRACtive" has the gall to let him know he's been noticed. So bummed out, in fact, that I clicked on his profile so he'll have to be subjected to the knowledge that I did when he looks to see "Who's Viewed Me." BWAHAHAHAHA
  • Hothouse

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    Jul 09, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
    Nice plan, but guys with no main profile pic don't show up in the "who viewed me" feature.
  • theone4u1212

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    Jul 09, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    ya but not many young guys are attracted to a man twice their age or more unless they are looking for sugar $$$. I ignore all of them, but they keep pouring in. It's sad to get more attention from daddy's and grandpa's then from people my age.
  • CurtisM

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    Jul 10, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    theone4u1212 saidya but not many young guys are attracted to a man twice their age or more unless they are looking for sugar $$$. I ignore all of them, but they keep pouring in. It's sad to get more attention from daddy's and grandpa's then from people my age.


    that's because you arent cute enough for the young ones. you don't rate A game.
  • no1timehookup...

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    Jul 14, 2012 3:15 AM GMT
    That's BS. I agree with the OP. I created a fake profile on adam4adam using a 27 y/o hot muscle guy as a pic just to see, and guess what my inbox got bombarded with? YES, the majority of profile views and messages were men in the late 40s and up. This is even after stating in the profile "No One Over 35".
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    Jul 14, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    At least the older guys have the balls to message people they're interested in!
    Too often I find younger guys debating whether or not they should:
    "He doesn't need another ego boost"
    "I don't want to be rejected; I'm too good for that" (it's not a matter of being quality or not, it's a matter of preference. Get over it).
    "He's out of my league"
    "Guy like him probably doesn't even respond"

    The list goes on...

    Anytime I get messages from older men I thank them and politely decline. I've never had one of them get upset, if anything they'll reply again thanking me for my honesty and saying they're impressed with my maturity. I actually feel really good after talking to them; reassures me that my mommy taught me good manners icon_smile.gif Getting older guys' approval is a good sign!
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    Jul 14, 2012 4:16 PM GMT
    Bustin saidEveryone has preferences. You look good and they're gonna give you a shot.

    Everyone's lookin' for lovin' bro. You don't need to respond to them. Just say no and delete them - problem solved.

    I'm getting messages just from guys in their 20's, The ones i'm not interested in, i tell them politely.




    True, I kind of get the same thing sometimes, but a compliment is a compliment. I always respond to messages and if i don't want to talk anymore, I just end it with a smile.

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    Kindness does not hurt anyone.

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    Jul 15, 2012 2:55 AM GMT
    theone4u1212 saidya but not many young guys are attracted to a man twice their age or more unless they are looking for sugar $$$. I ignore all of them, but they keep pouring in. It's sad to get more attention from daddy's and grandpa's then from people my age.





    Well believe it or not I understand where you're coming from, even though I'm near 60. When I was a teen and up through my 20's I was always having unwanted contacts from older men. I worked at Nuclear construction site for the owner/elect. Co. and more times than I like to mention I'd have to push them away, put my hand between their mouth and mine to push them off and a good share of the time it was done with other men around while on the construction site. I'd ask the guys I worked with why in hell the old men kept coming after me and the straight guys told me sometimes old men like something fresh, young and good to look at, guess they may have been right.


    Be glad that your contacts are on line and not in person and in front of other people. Now when I speak or am friendly to a younger person I have that memory in the back of my mind and am very cautious not to come off as an old troll, I'd hate to be thought of like one of them damn old creeps that I used to have to deal with.

    Ignoring them will go a long ways to stop the problem.
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    Nov 21, 2012 12:07 PM GMT
    I can also add to this thread, being 57 yrs old now.

    I clearly remember when I was younger, I was attractive, had a nice body and that I would readily tell any older guys to fu*k off... dirty old lechers I thought. Who the hell do they think they are, by what right do they think they even have a chance - a snow ball in hell likely has more of a chance to get at me.

    Guess what... now I find that I have become the person I once so readily threw away... and quite frankly, as I type this right now, tears come to my eyes, because getting older in the Western World, especially the white gay culture is almost surely a death sign... something more stigmatizing than Aids - and you don't have to believe me.. just wait till you get there.

    Then your heart will feel the pain, not only of rejection, but a silent ostracizing from the community that so readily embraced you when you had the looks, the "attitude" so many are proud of... then the tears will come when all you have left often is just looking at porn and wondering why.

    Often, at that stage of life, you are too old for some, but not old enough for others... what the fu*k. Out of frustration, I went to a bathhouse some time ago and discovered that often the younger ones, and there are many, like older... but much older way larger, or they only like way younger... some even give a death look if they find older looking at them... so I just left.

    Most guys our own age do not want their age group...

    However, I took a few changes and messaged a younger guy.. explaining that I know I may be over his age range but I wanted to let him know that i thought he was a nice intelligent and handsome young man... nothing else. To my surprise he wrote back that "No, he actually liked older men" ! Wow... so we struck up a nice email communication and take it from there.

    Another alternative is that for all intents and purposes, I have stopped messaging and communicating with white quys (not all, but most), and have discovered instead that there are cultures that appreciate older guys - asians - Thai, Filipino, Loas, Cambodian, and many Indian guys also like older - and I happen to like all these, especially Indian and South Indian and Indian and Thais. So all is not lost... because they do NOT all want our money, as hard as it may be to believe - many want the stability and security of a relationship with an older guy, and they are genuine.

    A society like ours, the Western one where consumerism and youth and beauty are the main focus often create an atmosphere where we love things and use people, and once people's apparent usefulness in terms of their viability for the society wanes, we discard them, like things. Just look at how elders are treated in the Western world... relegating older to the 'home'. I know many older folks that only get a visit from their children a few times a year... and their hearts have broken a long time ago - they don't all have a glazed look in their eyes due to dementia - and many go there because their hearts are ripped apart.

    So... you can take all this and consider whatever you want to... there is one thing though that is so certain and so unavoidable... we all get older even before we are born and death waits for no one - even though some may think it will never happen to them!

    Cheers all

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    Nov 21, 2012 5:06 PM GMT
    theone4u1212 saidya but not many young guys are attracted to a man twice their age or more unless they are looking for sugar $$$. I ignore all of them, but they keep pouring in. It's sad to get more attention from daddy's and grandpa's then from people my age.


    I don't think this is the case for everyone. Some young guys are looking for a father figure / role model. Some guys feel awkward with guys their own age and are looking for someone to share their feelings with. Obviously I'm coming from the other side of the issue - I get more messages from young guys than my age. (I'm not a sugar daddy either - I'm still looking for one myself!)

    Honestly just be happy that you get attention at all. Step up your game if you want attention from the bigger fish.
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    Nov 21, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    Complaining about it on here rather than on the other sites, or deleting your 'come-fuck-me' (why else have a manhunt or a4a profile?) reeks of

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    and I bet you log on here several times a day to see how many guys looked at your profile...
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    Nov 21, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    theone4u1212 saidI log into a4a manhunt and my profile views and mailbox fills up with creepy nasty looking creeps. Can't they like there own age? why does everyone go after the young? not only that what makes some nasty looking 400 pound man that i would be interested?


    I suspect this is a matter of your own self-esteem. The more older guys try to hit on you the more you feel that you are not attractive.
    You shouldn't judge yourself by the numbers of emails on some online site mailbox!

    Older guys(in general) have some experience dealing with rejection. Younger guys tend to be very uncomfortable with rejection, thus they tend to play the wait game.

    Grow some balls, accept you have put yourself out there in the open (internet) and go after the guys you like.
  • kevmoran

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    Nov 24, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    no1timehookups saidThat's BS. I agree with the OP. I created a fake profile on adam4adam using a 27 y/o hot muscle guy as a pic just to see, and guess what my inbox got bombarded with? YES, the majority of profile views and messages were men in the late 40s and up. This is even after stating in the profile "No One Over 35".


    ... You what?
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    Nov 24, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    That is called MID AGE CRISIS what's wrong with that.....
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    Nov 24, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
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  • jayatl56

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    Nov 24, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    Ok, I prefer younger guys. I can't figure it out. Maybe because I was molested as a kid by an older guy, I have stopped at a certain age even while I continue to get older. At one time I was dating and had relationships with guys my own age but as I aged those attractions didn't.

    I had a five year relationship with a guy I met when I was 50. He was 20. He chased me and I avoided him like the plague. He was a very mature 20 year old who explained that he was always more interested in adults even as a younger boy. He said he was settled, not a partier, didn't smoke, drank socially, etc. I explained to him that I could imagine that eventually he'd want to explore. To see what he missed as a young man even while I became even more settled. He said no way. He loved me and could see us together forever. The first few years was a perfect relationship. Those last two years became strained. He was in a MBA program and was out with school mates in the evenings. It didn't bother me in the least. I trusted him and figured it was good for him to do these things with people his own age. But it turned out he was seeing other guys - older guys he met on line. I finally found out when he went away for a weekend "to visit his mom". He was really away with another guy for weekend. I called the hotel to let him know I figured it out. He came home, we talked and I asked him to leave.

    Sometimes, in retrospect, I should have tried to work it out. I loved him and still do and I think he still has some feeling for me even though he denies it. But still he calls me at least once a week. We don't talk about our personal (dating) lives at all. When we did talk about our break up he said he realized that he just couldn't care for an older guy who would eventually be sick etc. and that he wanted to date younger older guys (maybe mid to late 30s).

    Ok, that was then. Now that I'm back in the US I do have a profile on Grindr and Jack'd. I do say that I have more of an attraction to younger guys. I get bombarded with messages from young black guys - rarely young white guys. The black guys want money to meet although I met one young black guy who's 20. A very nice, mature guy. He wants to date but I'm resistant for exactly what happened back then and I told him.

    I've tried going out with older guys (30s and 40s) but there just doesn't seem to be a "click". I don't know how to make that happen. Any suggestions?

    http://www.magneticfire.com/2011/08/16/older-man-and-a-younger-man/
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    Nov 25, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    I get hit on by older guys too but I usually nicely tell them no. At least they go for it.
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    Nov 25, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    It depends on how you look at it. You'll have a better chance of ending up with a person that has a lot of wisdom and knowledge, more mature and able to stay committed to that relationship ... Or you could end up with someone that is not as experienced and is still trying to figure life out. That is just my opinion...
  • JackDoyle

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    Nov 26, 2012 5:04 AM GMT
    you should be flattered, is it seriously that bad to have lots of men attracted to you?? and some young guys me included are attracted to older guys