I can also add to this thread, being 57 yrs old now.
I clearly remember when I was younger, I was attractive, had a nice body and that I would readily tell any older guys to fu*k off... dirty old lechers I thought. Who the hell do they think they are, by what right do they think they even have a chance - a snow ball in hell likely has more of a chance to get at me.
Guess what... now I find that I have become the person I once so readily threw away... and quite frankly, as I type this right now, tears come to my eyes, because getting older in the Western World, especially the white gay culture is almost surely a death sign... something more stigmatizing than Aids - and you don't have to believe me.. just wait till you get there.
Then your heart will feel the pain, not only of rejection, but a silent ostracizing from the community that so readily embraced you when you had the looks, the "attitude" so many are proud of... then the tears will come when all you have left often is just looking at porn and wondering why.
Often, at that stage of life, you are too old for some, but not old enough for others... what the fu*k. Out of frustration, I went to a bathhouse some time ago and discovered that often the younger ones, and there are many, like older... but much older way larger, or they only like way younger... some even give a death look if they find older looking at them... so I just left.
Most guys our own age do not want their age group...
However, I took a few changes and messaged a younger guy.. explaining that I know I may be over his age range but I wanted to let him know that i thought he was a nice intelligent and handsome young man... nothing else. To my surprise he wrote back that "No, he actually liked older men" ! Wow... so we struck up a nice email communication and take it from there.
Another alternative is that for all intents and purposes, I have stopped messaging and communicating with white quys (not all, but most), and have discovered instead that there are cultures that appreciate older guys - asians - Thai, Filipino, Loas, Cambodian, and many Indian guys also like older - and I happen to like all these, especially Indian and South Indian and Indian and Thais. So all is not lost... because they do NOT all want our money, as hard as it may be to believe - many want the stability and security of a relationship with an older guy, and they are genuine.
A society like ours, the Western one where consumerism and youth and beauty are the main focus often create an atmosphere where we love things and use people, and once people's apparent usefulness in terms of their viability for the society wanes, we discard them, like things. Just look at how elders are treated in the Western world... relegating older to the 'home'. I know many older folks that only get a visit from their children a few times a year... and their hearts have broken a long time ago - they don't all have a glazed look in their eyes due to dementia - and many go there because their hearts are ripped apart.
So... you can take all this and consider whatever you want to... there is one thing though that is so certain and so unavoidable... we all get older even before we are born and death waits for no one - even though some may think it will never happen to them!