I need relationship advice - age difference/open relationship

  • 3000bottom

    Posts: 2

    Jul 07, 2012 12:58 PM GMT
    I've been with my man for 12 months and we've hardly been apart except when work takes me away. I'm 51 and he's 28. We get on well, share a lot of things, talk openly about how we feel things are going and enjoy great sex. At first he said that monogamy was going to be a challenge, but worth it. Now he's changed his mind, and we're trying this: we can play safe with whoever if we're not in the same city, but only play together when we are.
    My head says this is fine, but I'm still sorta uneasy.
    I feel I need to get my head around it and then I should settle...I don't really mind that he's having sex in Germany (I'm having plenty in Australia), but my main motivation for the agreement is the age difference - I feel he needs to enjoy all sorts of stuff at his age. I guess I fear a bit that we'll slide into "friends with benefits" and water down what has been a fantastic start to the relationship. And even though I'm getting plenty, I hate being back on the prowl and find it all pretty average compared to the sex with my man with all the emotional connection that comes with it. Any advice?
  • Suetonius

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    Jul 07, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    We only have the pesent - the future is not guaranteed. So enjoy the present as long as it works. If things change in the future, and you are no longer happy with the relationship, then re-evalute
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    Jul 07, 2012 9:45 PM GMT
    Slippery Slope,very slippery slope, The fact that you are experiencing discomfort with this arrangement could mark the start of deep seated issues and resentment!..Do you really need to have an open relationship..??..He mentioned "monagamy was going to be an issue"..not exactly solid words for building a relationship. ..personally .. i think if you are not careful with this.. the two of you will slowly drift apart..hugz!icon_smile.gif
  • 3000bottom

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    Jul 08, 2012 6:29 AM GMT
    Thanks for your opinions- appreciated