Threeway survey

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    Aug 04, 2008 10:53 PM GMT
    We all have our own methods but I'm curious to hear from other couples... how do you and your partner convey your interest in having a threeway with someone?
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    Aug 05, 2008 12:28 AM GMT
    Most interesting method was a guy took out his cell phone in the gym. Used it as a stop watch, counted down 15 seconds and made the decision. Kinda COLD
  • VinBaltimore

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    Aug 05, 2008 3:21 AM GMT
    Well, it's not something we've done (yet anyway) but it's funny you mention it because I was out with a couple I know recently that does and I got to see how they initiate it (in fact I think they were intentionally trying to show me the ropes, so to speak).

    In essence, it doesn't seem all that different from how you'd pick someone up solo. It's just two of you doing the flirting. They were talking to a guy. I saw they exchanged a sort of "two thumbs up" look and it was on.

    Is there much more to it than that?
  • JohnsonPhx

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    Aug 05, 2008 3:34 AM GMT
    Never hooked up a 3way at the gym, but always a possibility while hanging at the bars or pool parties. Usually hit on us when hanging with 3, 4, 5+ other buddies but seems to be our call when just the 2 of us are out.

    Vibe needs to be friendly and easygoing, open and maybe a little flirty, no expectations and always safe and sane.

    A few are simply one-nighters, but most end up becoming damn good friends.
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    Aug 05, 2008 4:05 AM GMT
    I did date a couple before, that was cool, interesting as well as educational.
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    Aug 06, 2008 1:14 AM GMT
    a1972guy saidI did date a couple before, that was cool, interesting as well as educational.


    "Date" a couple?? Do tell!
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    Aug 09, 2008 8:40 PM GMT
    How do you convey your interest in having a threeway with someone?

    Tell me, for heaven's sake!
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    Aug 10, 2008 2:11 AM GMT
    I've played with couples several times as the third man. One effective approach is for one guy to make the proposal, separately, to the prospective third, often under the pretext of offering a free "show." If the third is game he'll get the message and go with the flow. I love the interpersonal dynamics of a triad. So much easier than one-on-one.
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    Aug 12, 2008 3:19 AM GMT
    I've been approached numerous times but, for varying reasons, never went through with any of them.

    Often the "pretty" one baits me in; then I meet the other one...

    ...Getting into the pretty one's pants isn't worth seeing the troll out of his.
  • joeindallas

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    Aug 15, 2008 8:50 PM GMT
    Going with Elvis's comment how many time will you do a Three way becuase of the "eye candy" Bait, when the partner is somebody you would not give to your worse enemy?
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    Aug 15, 2008 8:56 PM GMT
    throw it out there, half-jokingly if it's a paticular peson you have in mind... See if he reponds in the positive (half-jokingly or not)

    If just interested in finding someone for a three way, try ManHunt (if you're Republican - LOL)

    or email me for my # BigSETXjock - woof!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 23, 2008 6:27 AM GMT
    I told him that he and Michael Phelps have the same body, so it wouldn't be cheating on either of our parts. We are just playing with what we already know.
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    Sep 10, 2008 3:37 AM GMT
    I just don't get it. I'm not trying to hate on any of you, but shouldn't threesomes be left for single guys? Like, aren't relationships meant for 2 people? Because the love isn't there for a 3rd..I just don't understand that. It's like both of you want to cheat and are doing it with the same person, at the same time..icon_cry.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Sep 10, 2008 5:51 AM GMT
    you said "like" icon_lol.gif
  • helium

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    Sep 10, 2008 6:07 AM GMT
    I can say that I had a few 3-ways. It was pretty fun. I recall this one couple in which I was the top and got to have my way with both of them (they both were vers). Was a lot of fun. Would consider doing that again if I was still in FL.
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    Sep 10, 2008 6:27 PM GMT
    jd1338 saidI just don't get it. I'm not trying to hate on any of you, but shouldn't threesomes be left for single guys? Like, aren't relationships meant for 2 people? Because the love isn't there for a 3rd..I just don't understand that. It's like both of you want to cheat and are doing it with the same person, at the same time..icon_cry.gif


    Not always the case. icon_smile.gif Gay men like to have sex. In fact, I’ve yet to meet a monogamous gay couple. What I have met comes in all flavors: the ones who only have sex with other people together, the ones that do it separately and together and talk about it with each other and the ones who have sex with other people and never talk about it with each other. I did the threesome thing for about 5 months with this really great guy that my partner and I met. We both fell in love with him and we think he did with us but he decided that our relationship wasn’t something that he wanted to be a part of for a variety of reasons. So, it’s not always the case that the 3rd is the one who isn’t loved. It can go both ways and relationships come in all shapes and sizes.
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    Sep 10, 2008 6:47 PM GMT
    I have always enjoyed 3-ways, played with other couples and then my spouse & I have had a 3rd joined in. For my partner and I it usually just a quick comment of "he looks he would be fun to play with" or something along those line.

    When I was single I dated a couple and even toyed w/ the idea of a 3way relationship.
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    Oct 02, 2008 7:58 PM GMT
    coming from the other side, and joining an already established couple for a threeway. I have had a few experiences with different couples, most were great because the couples themselves really just wanted an extra body to play with, a few were not so great, I mean the sex part was, but then one or both are trying to get emotionally attached, I had one in which after having our fun, the other partner went to use bathroom, and I was on bed with the other and he told me that if he wasn't in relationship he would date me. Then a day later I would receive texts from him saying "you are soo good for me", and "I think I am falling in love"....(time for me to run away lol)... I think if you both are confident in relationship and aren't looking to save a relationship going down the hill then go ahead. I must say though I enjoy getting with couples, because most of time, they are both on you, showing attention as you just lay there and enjoy it lol... I know its selfish but its worth it every now and then ;-)
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    Oct 02, 2008 8:32 PM GMT
    Or how many people would be in a 3-way relationship?

    I know that I personal could do that, but my partner while he enjoys 3-ways wouldnt want another partner to deal w/. I see benefits and cons for being in a 3 way relationship.
  • JewcyDude

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    Oct 04, 2008 6:38 AM GMT
    My bf and I have had quite a few hookups with another couple (friends of ours) and with some friends, and just recently a threeway with a guy that my bf knew sorta as an acquaintance.

    We basically have to be on the same level and understanding of how far we want to go, what are the rules etc...

    This past time with this guy, we just had a party for my bf's birthday and he went back to our place as he got a bit too drunk to go home.

    My bf actually initiated it, and at first I was a bit hesitant, but then I just let it be and next thing I knew it we were all in our bedroom naked and getting it on. We never got to intercourse because we hadn't discussed the details of anything like that happening. We communicate through our eyes, body language on what we feel comfortable going ahead with or not.

    We had a hot time, and although this doesn't happen on a regular basis, it lets us have fun and enjoy these kinds of experiences as a couple.

    We also just had a great time after Folsom Street Fair with two of our friends (the couple) in SF icon_smile.gif

    COMMUNICATION is the most important. I don't believe it is for everyone, and there MUST be trust in order for this to enhance, not ruin a relationship.
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    Oct 05, 2008 12:43 AM GMT
    Well when my partner and I would have our occasional 3-ways, they were never planned they sort of just happened. It allowed us to go with the flow and enjoy it more.

    We had talked about having 3-ways but we always said it'd never happen, but then after one drunken night of fun at a club we were too drunk to drive home so a "stranger" offered to take us home. When he took us home we offered to give him some gas money, which he declined. We said well we gotta pay you somehow and he replied, "I wouldn't mind a free show." We said sure and went up to our place and my bf and I started to get it on and before we knew it the guy was undoing our pants and giving us both head at the same time and well we just took it from there.

    After that initial 3-way we were open to the idea but always talked about it and made sure we had the ground rules set out and one important thing, is that we both had to find the guy attractive.
  • chuckpnla

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    Mar 21, 2009 6:33 PM GMT
    My partner and I have known each other a long time. We were together over 10 years ago, then lost touch. We got back together 3 years ago after being apart in between. In most of my relationships I've been the "wild" uninhibited one. But never had a 3-way with a partner. After we got back together we were in Palm Springs and he approached me about having a 3-way while we were at lunch. It was a slow day and only one guy was nearby and he joined the conversation. We ended up having a 3-way with him. It was a great experience and I learned a lot about myself, my partner and what committment is. I have a much more open mind about the subject now. We've done it a few times since then and haven't had a bad experience yet. Things that help are:

    1. Ground rules between you.
    2. What behaviors you agree on together
    3. Trust between you
    4. Security in yourself
    5. Maturity

    It's not for everybody.

    Chuck