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We all have our own methods but I'm curious to hear from other couples... how do you and your partner convey your interest in having a threeway with someone?

Most interesting method was a guy took out his cell phone in the gym. Used it as a stop watch, counted down 15 seconds and made the decision. Kinda COLD

Well, it's not something we've done (yet anyway) but it's funny you mention it because I was out with a couple I know recently that does and I got to see how they initiate it (in fact I think they were intentionally trying to show me the ropes, so to speak).

In essence, it doesn't seem all that different from how you'd pick someone up solo. It's just two of you doing the flirting. They were talking to a guy. I saw they exchanged a sort of "two thumbs up" look and it was on.

Is there much more to it than that?

Never hooked up a 3way at the gym, but always a possibility while hanging at the bars or pool parties. Usually hit on us when hanging with 3, 4, 5+ other buddies but seems to be our call when just the 2 of us are out.

Vibe needs to be friendly and easygoing, open and maybe a little flirty, no expectations and always safe and sane.

A few are simply one-nighters, but most end up becoming damn good friends.

I did date a couple before, that was cool, interesting as well as educational.

a1972guy saidI did date a couple before, that was cool, interesting as well as educational.

"Date" a couple?? Do tell!

How do you convey your interest in having a threeway with someone?

Tell me, for heaven's sake!

I've played with couples several times as the third man. One effective approach is for one guy to make the proposal, separately, to the prospective third, often under the pretext of offering a free "show." If the third is game he'll get the message and go with the flow. I love the interpersonal dynamics of a triad. So much easier than one-on-one.

I've been approached numerous times but, for varying reasons, never went through with any of them.

Often the "pretty" one baits me in; then I meet the other one...

...Getting into the pretty one's pants isn't worth seeing the troll out of his.

Going with Elvis's comment how many time will you do a Three way becuase of the "eye candy" Bait, when the partner is somebody you would not give to your worse enemy?

throw it out there, half-jokingly if it's a paticular peson you have in mind... See if he reponds in the positive (half-jokingly or not)

If just interested in finding someone for a three way, try ManHunt (if you're Republican - LOL)

or email me for my # BigSETXjock - woof!!

I told him that he and Michael Phelps have the same body, so it wouldn't be cheating on either of our parts. We are just playing with what we already know.

I just don't get it. I'm not trying to hate on any of you, but shouldn't threesomes be left for single guys? Like, aren't relationships meant for 2 people? Because the love isn't there for a 3rd..I just don't understand that. It's like both of you want to cheat and are doing it with the same person, at the same time..

you said "like"

I can say that I had a few 3-ways. It was pretty fun. I recall this one couple in which I was the top and got to have my way with both of them (they both were vers). Was a lot of fun. Would consider doing that again if I was still in FL.

jd1338 saidI just don't get it. I'm not trying to hate on any of you, but shouldn't threesomes be left for single guys? Like, aren't relationships meant for 2 people? Because the love isn't there for a 3rd..I just don't understand that. It's like both of you want to cheat and are doing it with the same person, at the same time..

Not always the case. Gay men like to have sex. In fact, I’ve yet to meet a monogamous gay couple. What I have met comes in all flavors: the ones who only have sex with other people together, the ones that do it separately and together and talk about it with each other and the ones who have sex with other people and never talk about it with each other. I did the threesome thing for about 5 months with this really great guy that my partner and I met. We both fell in love with him and we think he did with us but he decided that our relationship wasn’t something that he wanted to be a part of for a variety of reasons. So, it’s not always the case that the 3rd is the one who isn’t loved. It can go both ways and relationships come in all shapes and sizes.

I have always enjoyed 3-ways, played with other couples and then my spouse & I have had a 3rd joined in. For my partner and I it usually just a quick comment of "he looks he would be fun to play with" or something along those line.

When I was single I dated a couple and even toyed w/ the idea of a 3way relationship.

coming from the other side, and joining an already established couple for a threeway. I have had a few experiences with different couples, most were great because the couples themselves really just wanted an extra body to play with, a few were not so great, I mean the sex part was, but then one or both are trying to get emotionally attached, I had one in which after having our fun, the other partner went to use bathroom, and I was on bed with the other and he told me that if he wasn't in relationship he would date me. Then a day later I would receive texts from him saying "you are soo good for me", and "I think I am falling in love"....(time for me to run away lol)... I think if you both are confident in relationship and aren't looking to save a relationship going down the hill then go ahead. I must say though I enjoy getting with couples, because most of time, they are both on you, showing attention as you just lay there and enjoy it lol... I know its selfish but its worth it every now and then ;-)

Or how many people would be in a 3-way relationship?

I know that I personal could do that, but my partner while he enjoys 3-ways wouldnt want another partner to deal w/. I see benefits and cons for being in a 3 way relationship.

My bf and I have had quite a few hookups with another couple (friends of ours) and with some friends, and just recently a threeway with a guy that my bf knew sorta as an acquaintance.

We basically have to be on the same level and understanding of how far we want to go, what are the rules etc...

This past time with this guy, we just had a party for my bf's birthday and he went back to our place as he got a bit too drunk to go home.

My bf actually initiated it, and at first I was a bit hesitant, but then I just let it be and next thing I knew it we were all in our bedroom naked and getting it on. We never got to intercourse because we hadn't discussed the details of anything like that happening. We communicate through our eyes, body language on what we feel comfortable going ahead with or not.

We had a hot time, and although this doesn't happen on a regular basis, it lets us have fun and enjoy these kinds of experiences as a couple.

We also just had a great time after Folsom Street Fair with two of our friends (the couple) in SF

COMMUNICATION is the most important. I don't believe it is for everyone, and there MUST be trust in order for this to enhance, not ruin a relationship.

Well when my partner and I would have our occasional 3-ways, they were never planned they sort of just happened. It allowed us to go with the flow and enjoy it more.

We had talked about having 3-ways but we always said it'd never happen, but then after one drunken night of fun at a club we were too drunk to drive home so a "stranger" offered to take us home. When he took us home we offered to give him some gas money, which he declined. We said well we gotta pay you somehow and he replied, "I wouldn't mind a free show." We said sure and went up to our place and my bf and I started to get it on and before we knew it the guy was undoing our pants and giving us both head at the same time and well we just took it from there.

After that initial 3-way we were open to the idea but always talked about it and made sure we had the ground rules set out and one important thing, is that we both had to find the guy attractive.