Are You Slowly Turning Into A Recluse??

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    Jul 08, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    Anyone else here feels they are slowly becoming recluse??.I notice lately that i am getting too comfortable with myself..to the point where i'm declining invitations from my friends to hang out or dates..Believe me i know i'm not "all that"..but i am turning down dates from really nice guys..i mean like..all of them !!..A few times..i had to choose between a hot date ..and the gym.. I chose the gym !!...My friends from West palm are in town for the weekend..texting me right now to come hang out..When we all hang..we ALWAYS have a great time!!..well..here i am trying to figure out how to tell them i want to stay home..!!F**KING SAD!!..Anyone else turning recluse..?
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    Jul 08, 2012 1:32 AM GMT
    A recluse or introverted? I really enjoy my time by myself. I find it a lot more satisfying to lose myself in some music while cycling, or working out from home and playing some video games sometimes. Hanging out with large groups of people for an extended period of time can exhaust me but I do have my moments where I like to be surrounded by others.

    Anyway, nothing wrong with being introverted or to yourself. Society tells people that staying home alone is wrong or you're lesser of a human being. Society isn't always right.

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    Jul 08, 2012 1:40 AM GMT
    Thanks Josh !!..icon_smile.gif.
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    Jul 08, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    Not sure about becoming a recluse. But I think I'm starting to get the old man syndrome. I don't want to go out because..

    - It will be too crowded there.
    - Music is too loud and can't here the conversation.
    - I don't want to deal with traffic.
    - $15 for parking? I'd rather spend that on a pizza and a Red Box movie.
    - I have to get up early tomorrow to run errands.

    I think I'm pretty content with my boring/average/routine lifestyle. I only allow minor variations/disruptions in my schedule once in a while. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to go organize my sock drawer.

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    Jul 08, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    Slowly turning? I'm full blown. Look at me and see thy future!
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    Jul 08, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    I call it SoFla fever. It happens when you're in an area that's so full of excitement all the time that you need to take a hiatus from it.

    There was a point where I went 6 months at home, and only went to work or out to eat...just got tired of all the action.
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    Jul 08, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    Josh1992 saidA recluse or introverted? I really enjoy my time by myself. I find it a lot more satisfying to lose myself in some music while cycling, or working out from home and playing some video games sometimes. Hanging out with large groups of people for an extended period of time can exhaust me but I do have my moments where I like to be surrounded by others.

    Anyway, nothing wrong with being introverted or to yourself. Society tells people that staying home alone is wrong or you're lesser of a human being. Society isn't always right.



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    On the same note, I do love mingling in crowds and watching people. I LOVE going to the mall on December 24, to feel the rush.
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    Jul 08, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI call it SoFla fever. It happens when you're in an area that's so full of excitement all the time that you need to take a hiatus from it.

    There was a point where I went 6 months at home, and only went to work or out to eat...just got tired of all the action.


    same dude.
    living in south fla and always "being on" can get exhausting and costly.

    I found myself at one point drinking like 5 times a week....spending tons of cash to keep up, partying at "the manor" or "alibi" or "johnnys" orwherever in ft lauderdale.

    ohmahgawwwd i do not miss it
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    Jul 08, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    No, not slowly at all; over the course of a couple weeks I can go from social butterfly to recluse without much trouble, and back again. I'm a bit introverted where I'm at, but mostly cause I'm not sure I'm being understood correctly; or being seen as the person I expect my actions to portray me to be in real life... I guess I'm a bit like Ari in that I want to withhold what I hold true about myself; until it can properly displayed for others to appreciate. I can only stand with one foot inside a box.
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    Jul 08, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
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    paulflexes saidI call it SoFla fever. It happens when you're in an area that's so full of excitement all the time that you need to take a hiatus from it.

    There was a point where I went 6 months at home, and only went to work or out to eat...just got tired of all the action.


    same dude.
    living in south fla and always "being on" can get exhausting and costly.

    I found myself at one point drinking like 5 times a week....spending tons of cash to keep up, partying at "the manor" or "alibi" or "johnnys" orwherever in ft lauderdale.

    ohmahgawwwd i do not miss it
    I tend to prefer South Beach (Twist and Palace). The guys are SO much hotter and SO much more up for NSA j/o sessions. icon_wink.gif

    But even that gets old after a while. Fortunately I've been away long enough now that I'll go hog wild when I get back in Sept. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 08, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidAnyone else here feels they are slowly becoming recluse??.I notice lately that i am getting too comfortable with myself..to the point where i'm declining invitations from my friends to hang out or dates..Believe me i know i'm not "all that"..but i am turning down dates from really nice guys..i mean like..all of them !!..A few times..i had to choose between a hot date ..and the gym.. I chose the gym !!...My friends from West palm are in town for the weekend..texting me right now to come hang out..When we all hang..we ALWAYS have a great time!!..well..here i am trying to figure out how to tell them i want to stay home..!!F**KING SAD!!..Anyone else turning recluse..?


    I just started coming out of my shell actually. However, being by yourself and enjoying it can be healthy. Take a break if you need to. See what kind of things you find yourself doing and maybe the thought of such new and meaningful things will surprise you. Good luck.
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    Jul 08, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Yes, but I am enjoying the added legs!

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    Jul 08, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
    Anocxu,

    It sounds like you are maturing and are looking at improving yourself at the gym rather than hanging out. You should have your friends come by and watch a movie or something more interesting. Enjoy the fact that you have a choice. I am living in India and have become a total recluse. I am either working, sleeping, or at the gym. There aren't any recreational things to do other than see a movie in Hindi with my only friend's extended family. The Internet is the only recreation I have and the one or two email buddies that I have are who keep me company.

    All the best,

    Kevin
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    Jul 08, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    Sometimes you need to concentrate on yourself for a spell. As some have already noted, focussing more exclusively on your physical fitness and other personal development to the exclusion of some other things for a while can be healthy.

    That having been said, it is a good idea to make the effort to socialize with your friends every once-in-a-while, even if that's not what you are naturally inclined to do: people that don't share activities and experiences eventually drift apart.
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    Jul 08, 2012 4:54 AM GMT
    Guilty. $12 for parking? Recluse.

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    Jul 08, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    The potential is definitely there.......
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    Jul 08, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    Slowly turning? No. Already am? Yes. icon_smile.gif

    It won't be so bad once Guild Wars 2 comes out. Diablo 3 sucked. It isn't fun at all to play. There are funner (I know, not a word) grinding games (Aion). Who wants to grind in an action rpg? Who wants to turn it into a low-paying job thanks to the real-money auction house? Now the kiddos can double their allowance money with daddy's credit card number since they found a Yellow item of great power in-game thanks to the random number generator!

    In the meantime, I'm watching the entire series of Charmed since I wasn't allowed to watch that as a teen. Last summer I did Buffy and Angel. Charmed doesn't seem to be as entertaining, but it is still getting better as I watch it.
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    Jul 08, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    Its so funny you say that because I have been going through the same kind of thing.. The hook ups are just not doing it for me and I have been passing on some hot guys because they just want to hook up..I really need more than that but no one seems to want more.. It is getting kind of insulting, I am good enough to have sex with but not spend time and be friends with? I am a good guy but no one seems to want to get to know me..
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    Jul 08, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    The gay scene - been there, done that a million times, feels like a huge waste of time. Mentally you just don't want to deal with all the nonsense when you could be actually enjoying yourself at home. And even though it seems like I'm at home a lot, I'm spending a lot of time doing things I'm passionate about like writing/blogging/art/photography, etc. I have something to show for all of that when all is said and done. But an evening wasted with flaky gay nonsense and that whole scene, over it. Whenever I am out and about with friends or at a club (which is rare), I spend a lot of that time planning my upcoming week and figuring out how to end the evening earlier so I can get back home.
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    Jul 08, 2012 6:25 AM GMT
    Been there. Doing that.
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    Jul 08, 2012 6:37 AM GMT
    "Hell is Other People."

    Yes.
  • metta

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    Jul 08, 2012 7:09 AM GMT
    I have always been introverted and I do like to spend some time alone. However, I see myself becoming more reclusive over time. I slowly....well...not so slowly... see the friends I have in my life moving away and I'm not really getting any new ones. I start to think about Saraphine and think about how it is not healthy to be alone all of the time. I'm not now but I can see that potentially happening within a few years. I'm not worried about it but I do sometimes ponder it.
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    Jul 08, 2012 8:32 AM GMT
    Metta,Macho,Gigalo,Eager,Havasu,Lasher,Bluey,Alpha,Robert,Intensity,Us Guy,Ari,Sustenance,Paul,Klassik,N8,Skinny,Rich..(Rich),And Josh..Thank You!..Really..Thank You!icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 08, 2012 11:57 AM GMT
    Josh1992 saidA recluse or introverted? I really enjoy my time by myself. I find it a lot more satisfying to lose myself in some music while cycling, or working out from home and playing some video games sometimes. Hanging out with large groups of people for an extended period of time can exhaust me but I do have my moments where I like to be surrounded by others.

    Anyway, nothing wrong with being introverted or to yourself. Society tells people that staying home alone is wrong or you're lesser of a human being. Society isn't always right.



    You're so young, but really intelligent, I've noticed that you always post very valuable stuff in the forums and start really interesting threads.

    Good man!
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    Jul 08, 2012 12:05 PM GMT
    YES! and looking forward to it everyday! icon_eek.gif