relationship. i'd rather have a guy who thinks i'm amazing, with the same in return; reciprocally having each other's backs no matter what, making each other better people... and if its an either/or question being posed (not realistic, but still) i honestly prefer intimacy/cuddling/massage to all-out buttsex any day.
the best sex proceeds from intimacy and emotional connection, to me, even when its rough and full of power play
hookups are awkward, hollow, and leave me feeling lonely, empty, a bit dirty, and knowing that I haven't accomplished anything but getting off; something I could have done with less effort on my own anyways.
in the real world though, a healthy relationship needs a healthy sex life to be balanced. gotta have my cake and eat it too. Sex is just as consumingly important to me as to anyone else with balls, but it takes back seat to the totality of a relationship.