Hot Lists

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    Aug 05, 2008 12:46 PM GMT
    Just curious, how many people that you have hot listed have actually contacted you, whether you have contacted them or not, even if it's just to say thank you? I for one have had very few that have taken the time to drop me a line or show any interest whatsoever. I know I'm not for everybody and most likely the majority of guys I hot list won't be into me but am I that bad at finding men where there might be a mutual attraction? If so, I'm in big trouble! icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 05, 2008 1:19 PM GMT
    Perhaps I shouldn't be answering this, since I put guys in my hot list, only because I find them hot, and not to develop anything. As such, I do not expect any response, and neither do I respond to people who place me on their lists.
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    Aug 05, 2008 1:28 PM GMT


    ...what about the buddy list? Everything I'm reading around this site points to the hot list as being similar to what anyone would do in public; appraise the body magnificent. So maybe guys that make both the hot list and the buddy list (and I've seen that on some profiles) would be a more likely potential.icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 05, 2008 2:10 PM GMT
    There have been several guys who have put me in their hot list and I've responded with a "hello and thank you." Most of them are regular posters here on the threads.

    Those found in my buddy list are guys that I routinely email back and forth with. Discussing everything from our day to the latest movie.
  • Bunjamon

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    Aug 05, 2008 2:26 PM GMT
    I'm the same way as HighVoltageGuy. I sometimes respond to the people who hotlist me with a "Hey, thanks for the hotlist!" message, and leave it to them to strike up a conversation if they want to. I don't expect a response from the people I hotlist, though. But I also find that if you're looking for a response from someone, you should write them first or write a message along with hotlisting them. Hotlisting is so impersonal.
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    Aug 05, 2008 2:31 PM GMT
    I only have 2 on my "Hot List" and one we TOTALLY chat and BS and the other is a complete gratuitous HOT one!!! icon_eek.gif

    As for me, if I am "Buddied" or "Hot Listed" I always respond with at least a Thanks!
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    Aug 05, 2008 3:32 PM GMT
    I always thank anyone who adds me to their hot list. On the other side, I've had about a few people who I have hotlisted contact me. I've had a lot more people want to talk after I put that sword picture as my main one... Odd...
  • SuneFL

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    Aug 05, 2008 3:34 PM GMT
    Well, you know what they say about a big sword! icon_razz.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Aug 05, 2008 3:36 PM GMT
    SuneFL saidWell, you know what they say about a big sword! icon_razz.gificon_biggrin.gif




    Big wound????icon_rolleyes.gif
  • SuneFL

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    Aug 05, 2008 3:40 PM GMT
    I use to reply to all of the hotlist automated messages, but few replied to me. So, now I respond to guys who take a moment to say "Hi" too.

    I think the hotlist is for just that: the guys I (or you) think are hot. It is a bit impersonal.

    The buddy list is for those who graduate to a different level after several mail messages.

    Both categories are like personal bookmarks.

  • SuneFL

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    Aug 05, 2008 3:42 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    SuneFL saidWell, you know what they say about a big sword! icon_razz.gificon_biggrin.gif




    Big wound????icon_rolleyes.gif


    Guess that depends on where he or it strikes. lol
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    Aug 05, 2008 3:47 PM GMT
    I'd say a few people that have hot listed me talk to me. But the ones that talk to me are usually the ones that are also right around my age. I think the others wont say anything because of the age difference and they think I wouldn't respond back...but I love talking to everyone!
  • kinetic

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    Aug 05, 2008 3:49 PM GMT
    Shortnsexystud saidJust curious, how many people that you have hot listed have actually contacted you, whether you have contacted them or not, even if it's just to say thank you? I for one have had very few that have taken the time to drop me a line or show any interest whatsoever. I know I'm not for everybody and most likely the majority of guys I hot list won't be into me but am I that bad at finding men where there might be a mutual attraction? If so, I'm in big trouble! icon_lol.gif


    I recently cleared my hotlist a few weeks back.
    Not so much because I didn't think that the guys weren't aesthetically appealing, but because I had some more thoughts on the whole issue of hotness.
    Much of this came about because of the job I have too (working in a gay bar).
    Here's my reasoning:
    I could see an absolutely stunning man, but then he opens his mouth and all the awe just disappears. Its amazing how 'hotness' can turn into disgust for another's words or behavior!
    So, I've really begun to up my standards. Not only do I have to find someone aesthetically pleasing, but I have to know that their personality is cool too (in order to make my hotlist). Kind of like 'all-around hot'... For some reason this is harder to come by..

    I'm not saying that all of the guys on my old hotlist had ugly personalities, but when people are (a) not verified, (b) void of content in their profile, (c) have never had so much (or so little) as a single forum post of interaction w/, then I don't really have a clue as to how they are (and that kinda freaks me out!).
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    Aug 05, 2008 4:35 PM GMT

    Have mercy, big guy, it's the internet!! You are drop dead sexy so judge your appeal, don't rely too much on others. However, if you want some tips, why not search your "viewed me list" and "hotlisted me list" for guys that you fancy, this way if you choose to hotlist them, atleast you know they were somewhat into you first. I think I picked all of my hotlist guys this way and I contacted ALL of them. Also, most of them hotlisted me first. LOL, I'd never waste my time hotlisting a guy who didn't know about me or didn't atleast fancy me a little. To me, part of what makes them hot is that they fancy me, preferably, more than I do them.icon_wink.gif
    Hotlist impersonal? Not at all. I think a good way to personalize your Hotlist is to have a shorter Hotlist, made only of guys you think are really hot, hotter than any other guys here. I always feel like I Hotlist guys more because I have a small crush rather than think they are hot only. I always laugh a little when some guy has like 200 guys on his Hotlist, how hot can 200 guys be to him, a 1...a 2? This is why I boast about my Hotlist, because those guys have been there so long and they are guys I thought were hot then and still do. Way too hot to shove out of view with anyone new, noone compares. Like my COMale, if I ever push him off, I delete him and re-add him so he'll be visible again!

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  • germanguy888

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    Aug 05, 2008 4:40 PM GMT
    yea this is true like guys add me and i sometimes respond with like 'hey whats up' and then they just dont respond and i think its wierd so i just stopped responding. so if any of you guys add me just send me a message lol icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 05, 2008 4:50 PM GMT
    Huh...odd. I never stopped to consider that some guys who hotlist expect an email in response, since it's RealJock automatically notifying you you've been hotlisted, not the member himself. If a guy hotlists me and then emails me to tell me so or to say hi, I'll be friendly and say hello...but I never thought of the hotlist feature as a way to say hi.
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    Aug 05, 2008 5:02 PM GMT
    kinetic said when people are (a) not verified, (b) void of content in their profile, (c) have never had so much (or so little) as a single forum post of interaction w/, then I don't really have a clue as to how they are (and that kinda freaks me out!).

    Well said, and I wish more guys on here would appreciate how those things matter.
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    Aug 05, 2008 5:12 PM GMT
    So, I've really begun to up my standards. Not only do I have to find someone aesthetically pleasing, but I have to know that their personality is cool too (in order to make my hotlist). Kind of like 'all-around hot'... For some reason this is harder to come by..

    I'm not saying that all of the guys on my old hotlist had ugly personalities, but when people are (a) not verified, (b) void of content in their profile, (c) have never had so much (or so little) as a single forum post of interaction w/, then I don't really have a clue as to how they are (and that kinda freaks me out!).


    Your post reminds me of why I hotlisted you in the first place, you can think, feel and grow as a person.

    I believe hotlisting is a useful tool to give people compliments about their profiles, it is not necessarily a come on or an expectation of reciprocity.

    If you are single and interested in a guy on RJ, maybe striking up a conversation with him is a good way to start. Hotlisting is not necessarily the best introductory tool in my mind. On RJ there are thousands of "hot" guys. After all it is a fitness website, so it goes without saying that a lot of guys will get put on hundreds of members hotlists.
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    Aug 05, 2008 5:17 PM GMT
    I haven't hotlisted anybody. I only see forum posters on this board (I don't chat nor do i go trollin' through the member profiles)... but even out of this small population I find most of you guys really really handsome and broaching 'hot' status.

    I do send out an e-mail to those that have hotlisted me.

    btw, shortnsexystud... you are mad goodlooking. Now just shave that head and i'm all yours icon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gif
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    Aug 05, 2008 5:30 PM GMT
    my hotlist reflects the type of guys who naturally attracts me - so it's like my visual taste )

    but, for making friends obviously we have to talk and find common points - what's profile for.

    and surely i don't expect hotlist to bring true_love_NOW. i mean that matter 's of just-listen-to-yourself nature thing. On the other hand, when it's very much expected-awaited it becomes very elusive lol. It's good when all's in due course.)
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    Aug 05, 2008 7:22 PM GMT
    Just got home from work and had a chance to browse through the responses. Thanks for all the observations.

    I really was just wondering what other peoples experiences were with this and it's interesting to hear that most of you don't expect responses from guys you hot list and just a few expressed that they actually say thank you when hot listed......interesting! I would think there may have been some romances started on here seeing as how I see quite a few hot men that are in the same cities on this site which you'd think would create a wonderful opportunity but maybe I'm just totally off base here.

    Yes, my hotlist is generally derived from the men I find "my type" on this site because I figured since I am a guy into fitness, this site might be a good place to find other guys I'm into that were also fitness buffs and start with something we have in common. I add people to my buddy list that I've made friends with or chat with from time to time. A number of the guys I've hotlisted have come from looking at the "They viewed me" list and I've sent them messages to say hello and a few replied back but for the most part it seems like I do all the "approaching" and after several attempts to strike up a conversation with no response, I figure there just not that interested and leave it alone.

    I totally understand that this is the internet and most of the guys I contact don't live near me and therefore the likelihood of meeting is pretty small. However, I have to admit that I have recently hit it off with DancerJack and I am going to visit him in Charlotte over Labor Day. What will come of it, I don't know but I'm really looking forward to meeting him and having a fun weekend in the mountains. icon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gif
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    Aug 05, 2008 8:03 PM GMT
    Shortnsexystud, I just found some attraction seeing you in that pic with the armbands on.

    lol, so dont worry about your hot list!
  • kinetic

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    Aug 05, 2008 8:36 PM GMT
    SurrealLife saidSo, I've really begun to up my standards. Not only do I have to find someone aesthetically pleasing, but I have to know that their personality is cool too (in order to make my hotlist). Kind of like 'all-around hot'... For some reason this is harder to come by..

    I'm not saying that all of the guys on my old hotlist had ugly personalities, but when people are (a) not verified, (b) void of content in their profile, (c) have never had so much (or so little) as a single forum post of interaction w/, then I don't really have a clue as to how they are (and that kinda freaks me out!).


    Your post reminds me of why I hotlisted you in the first place, you can think, feel and grow as a person.


    You are too sweet!
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    Aug 05, 2008 8:43 PM GMT
    I remember when the Sears "Wishbook" catalog would come out about five months before Christmas. Mom would tell me to circle the big toys I was dreaming of... and "X" the toys that were more affordable.

    The hot list and buddy list are kind of the same way. The hot list contains the guys you're really dreaming of. The buddy list is more like those you might actually have.

    Either way... how nice that Realjock has allowed us to build our own Sears "Wishbook" LOL...

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    Aug 05, 2008 9:03 PM GMT
    maybe a dozen of them contacted me.