Dating: Older vs younger

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    Jul 10, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    When looking for a partner, do you tend to go for older or younger guys? Why?
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    Jul 10, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    Older.

    Why?

    I don't know.
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    Jul 10, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    Older. Probably because of years of psychological conditioning. I've matured enough to be more open-minded. Somewhat younger isn't out of the question anymore.
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    Jul 10, 2012 2:57 AM GMT
    I guess it all depends on the person, i'v met someone a little older here on RJ and its the best connection i'v ever made.....Actually, i saw his pic/profile and stalked him until he agreed to see me..lol....And he's awsome!!!!
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    Jul 10, 2012 3:07 AM GMT
    bodyjuice saidI guess it all depends on the person, i'v met someone a little older here on RJ and its the best connection i'v ever made.....Actually, i saw his pic/profile and stalked him until he agreed to see me..lol....And he's awsome!!!!

    Why Thank You boo boo, i think your awsome too.icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 10, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    Older for many, many, reasons.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 10, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    Older ... like about 95 ... and really really rich icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 10, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Either is fine. Personality and common interests are the deal maker/breaker.
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    Jul 10, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    either, common interests and life views make it or break it
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    Jul 10, 2012 4:38 AM GMT
    About 10 yrs my junior and senior will cover my golden age range perfectly; though older is accepted, but younger must be more mature and have some kind of life experience to balance out the age difference.
  • Rawrdo

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    Jul 10, 2012 4:43 AM GMT
    I've tried both, still single. Conclusion: it doesn't matter.
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    Jul 10, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    Yes or yes... or the same age as me. I'm not using the partner's age to fix or validate something about myself.
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    Jul 10, 2012 10:40 AM GMT
    Older. As much I'm young and with the rends I am quite mature in my thinking processes and have had a lot of life experience for my age. My partner is 12 years older that me but we definitely are on the same wavelength.
  • fitartistsf

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    Jul 10, 2012 12:47 PM GMT
    Younger... never been comfortable dating or being with guys my age or older... personally, I like how a younger guy looks... if right out of HS or College, and was/is in sports or physically active, they are usually still in great shape. Almost all the guys my age now, are fat, bald, grey hair (even on the body, yeeeeecccchhh), and wrinkled... Younger guys are still good looking, tight, defined, etc.... that being said, the only thing I share with guys my age, or older, is that we grew up together in the same world... we share social, political, musical, theatrical, culinary, and other commonalities of being at, or near the same age. But I do look for a younger guy that is what is described these days as, an "old soul"... someone with interests, or hobbies that are not limited to his age group. I was that way... growing up, even before graduating HS, I had interests in history, music, the arts, politics, social aspects of society, etc., that were beyond my 18 years... so I continue to look for someone younger to settle down with... I know he's out there somewhere, LOL.....
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    Jul 10, 2012 2:02 PM GMT
    It's mostly an issue of personality so I'm open to go either direction.
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    Jul 10, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    I look for younger so I have someone to push my wheel chair in a few years!
  • urhereurthere

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    Jul 10, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    older because they are suppose to be more mature. younger men dont give a crap about feeling and just want to fuck and that disgustes me. i like connection and commitement and i cant get 5hat from a guy younger and then me and even at my age its hard to find someone with the same values as me
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    Jul 10, 2012 2:36 PM GMT
    It's changed for me over the years. When I was 20-25 I couldn't imagine dating someone younger than me, then I focused on my peers, and now I'm drifting towards younger guys. Hope that doesn't mean that at 40 I'll be running after 17-year-olds :/
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    Jul 10, 2012 2:42 PM GMT
    I like to keep my options open because everyone has a different view on life and chemistry comes in many forms regardless of age.

    However, some of the best dates and LTR relationships I've had were with older men. (Who are healthy mentally and physically) They seem to have a good balance of fun, maturity, and career building. Partying 24/7 is not so much a priority to them anymore. They seem cherish relationships a bit more and not make it feel so disposable.

    In contrast, I've also met guys my age and younger who also share these qualities, so in the end it's more about mutual chemistry for me.
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    Jul 10, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    There is no older than me.
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    Jul 10, 2012 2:46 PM GMT
    MolaMola saidYes or yes... or the same age as me. I'm not using the partner's age to fix or validate something about myself.


    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ this is so true ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

    Ive been on both ends of the spectrum..pretty much nails it.
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    Jul 10, 2012 3:00 PM GMT
    Got one, he's about the same age. We have a lot of things in common, including the same cultural references. I think that significant age differences make things more difficult - they're not insurmountable, it's just that you'll normally have more in common with someone roughly the same age.
  • Illusory

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    Jul 10, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
    (first time posting here and just set up a profile recently, so excuse the absence of detail in profile with pictures, etc.)

    I tend to identify with older guys alot more than guys in their 20's - I'm an old soul perhaps. All these kids nowadays with their digital-books, and wacky haircuts... icon_wink.gif ...

    In all seriousness though, I just tend to like more classically inclined guys alongside the look of a mature "silverfox" or whatever you want to call him.

    Only in the last few years I've come to identify myself as a gay man. One of the reasons I was initially so reluctant to accept it all was that because I wasn't in any way attracted to guys my age, I felt I somehow "wasn't gay"; I felt that being attracted to guys in their 40's, 50's and sometimes even 60's was just some phase. When I eventually garnished enough courage to start meeting older guys I quickly realised it was alot more than just a passing-phase, and that it is completely possible to go to the movies, visit museums and have great sex with an older guy. Older guys can be great so long as they're comfortable with their age and not trying to be something they're not.

    Saying that, I'm certain there are guys out there who would be my age that target older guys solely for their money, comfort etc. so there certainly is a stigma. For the record, WE'RE NOT ALL LIKE THAT! icon_smile.gif

    edit - spelling
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    Jul 10, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    well I prefer having a guy who is few years older than I am . But lets be serious age difference should not be too big other wise I would feel uncomfortable. Perhaps it is only my problem.
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    Jul 10, 2012 3:29 PM GMT
    I try to not look at that as a "factor" because I think when you have so many constraints such as , age, race, body, income, etc etc etc you can miss out on someone special

    However,

    I would say that I always cared for older men. I don't mean the bear/daddy sex appeal, but I am 22 and I guess for me, I want a guy who can guide, teach and love me. I want someone who has already done, and overcame what I am trying to overcome.

    I equate age with experience, and I feel like older men tend to have that protector, mentor type thing, which I like and find attractive. I think they tend to want more than sex because they know life is not just about that. They are more goal oriented and are, or should be established, career and lifestyle wise.

    I don't want a guy to take care of me, but then again I do, but by "care" I don't mean money wise(I have my own), or sex wise(more to it that that). I mean with passion, intimacy, love, protection and friendship.

    I tend to prefer a guy who is already there, not just on his way.


    wow...i just layed it on thick...hehe.