Fuck, I must be Ugly!?

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    Jul 10, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    Does anyone have days where they just think...am I unattractive? And not just like "oh you're good looking to someone", but like oh my gosh, the plague- ugly. I have those odd moments, when I see a guy in a starbucks, bar whatever, totally think he's hot and completely "on my level".. and then proceed to give him the eye, not the creepy eye, but "the slightly coy glare"; and he looks away, not interested. I'm just like, fuck! I must be ugly..lol Or even on RJ, I message a guy I'm so interested in, great smile, body, and a fantastic personality on his profile, --send him a message, he goes to see my page......no response. Fuck, I must be ugly..lol Like I get it, everyone has their preferences, some people like tall blue-eyed guys, some red heads, some black guys, old guys, whatever. But, who's going to like me??! Maybe, my standards are to high, maybe I'm not on the "level" I think I'm on, maybe I'm too picky??! Fuck, I must be ugly....................












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    Jul 10, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    Since when are abs ugly?
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    Jul 10, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    Dude i just checked out you profile..what part of you is ugly??
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    Jul 10, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidDude i just checked out you profile..what part of you is ugly??


    Whatever part, that keeps guys from responding to me, or calling me, when I give out my number.
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    Jul 11, 2012 12:23 AM GMT
    Sidney12 said
    Anocxu saidDude i just checked out you profile..what part of you is ugly??


    Whatever part, that keeps guys from responding to me, or calling me, when I give out my number.


    It's not necessarily you.

    You're in constant competition with other guys, and most guys are always looking for something better. Yeah, they may have your number, but that doesn't mean they don't have twenty other numbers.

    Fish with a net, you'll land one.
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    Jul 11, 2012 1:39 AM GMT
    TroyAthlete said
    Sidney12 said
    Anocxu saidDude i just checked out you profile..what part of you is ugly??


    Whatever part, that keeps guys from responding to me, or calling me, when I give out my number.


    It's not necessarily you.

    You're in constant competition with other guys, and most guys are always looking for something better. Yeah, they may have your number, but that doesn't mean they don't have twenty other numbers.

    Fish with a net, you'll land one.


    Fish with a net huh? hmmm...
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    Jul 11, 2012 1:53 AM GMT
    TroyAthlete said
    Sidney12 said
    Anocxu saidDude i just checked out you profile..what part of you is ugly??


    Whatever part, that keeps guys from responding to me, or calling me, when I give out my number.


    It's not necessarily you.

    You're in constant competition with other guys, and most guys are always looking for something better. Yeah, they may have your number, but that doesn't mean they don't have twenty other numbers.

    Fish with a net, you'll land one.


    Is this big enough??

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    Jul 11, 2012 6:07 PM GMT
    well I also have same thoughts constantly. Gay guys alway ignore me and hit on my friend who is even straight and not interested in them.
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    Jul 15, 2012 7:05 AM GMT
    magnus87 saidwell I also have same thoughts constantly. Gay guys alway ignore me and hit on my friend who is even straight and not interested in them.


    Yeah, it just sucks sometimes. But still seize the day. I try to approach guys more now, instead of just the eye, to see how they really feel. Sometimes, they look away not because they aren't interested, but because they're as nervous as you.
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    Jul 15, 2012 7:27 AM GMT
    In response to the question: Yes I have lots of days where I feel unattractive. It might just be that I am! *shrug*

    My advice: Don't try to read the minds of people. They might have not responded because of something you wrote on your profile that is a personal pet peeve to them. They might not have responded immediately or are planning to. They might have thought "he's hot but he reminds me of ___".

    Though not responding with a "thank you" is a telling sign that they aren't as nice inside as they appear outside.
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    Jul 15, 2012 8:36 AM GMT
    Someone told me a long time ago about some of the advices, hope it helps you too. Don't ever think that you're ugly or not good enough for someone. Because there is one great person out there for everyone of us. A couple of points.

    . When you msg on RJ here, I don't think most guys take it seriously because it's the internet, distance, whatever, you shouldn't take it personally. I mean, I am on here to *meet people but yeah right! I rather and prefer meeting someone in person and close to my city, not some random headless dude from Texas. I am on here to read most of the tips/work out advices but that's just me.

    . If the guy at the bar ignore or look away, it can be many thing, he may be cruising, have a bf, waiting for someone or not in the mood. You don't know what they're thinking.

    . It's just a cycle, you hit on someone, got rejected, others hit on you, if not your taste, reject them. It's just a dating cycle, it will never stop. It's life, move on.

    I think part of it is that you're a little young at 21, dating will get better as you age and grow more life/love experiences. Hope some of my two cents help.

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    Jul 15, 2012 9:05 AM GMT
    Sidney12 said
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    nah. icon_cool.gif


    OK, like what, are you fishing for compliments?

    Apparently others missed that last part. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 16, 2012 4:06 PM GMT
    intensity69 said
    Sidney12 said
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    nah. icon_cool.gif


    OK, like what, are you fishing for compliments?

    Apparently others missed that last part. icon_lol.gif


    No, dear god no. The "nah" at the end is just a joke. Plus, although I have days where I feel unattractive, I have confidence in myself to know that I'm not. (It took me a while to build that confidence up) but, at no point am I fishing for compliments. Just looking to share some healthy conversation and advice. I guarantee there is another ba-zillion guys feeling a lot like me sometimes. This is for myself and them.
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    Jul 16, 2012 4:16 PM GMT
    Sidney12 said
    intensity69 said
    Sidney12 said
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    nah. icon_cool.gif


    OK, like what, are you fishing for compliments?

    Apparently others missed that last part. icon_lol.gif


    No, dear god no. The "nah" at the end is just a joke. Plus, although I have days where I feel unattractive, I have confidence in myself to know that I'm not. (It took me a while to build that confidence up) but, at no point am I fishing for compliments. Just looking to share some healthy conversation and advice. I guarantee there is another ba-zillion guys feeling a lot like me sometimes. This is for myself and them.


    True
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    Jul 16, 2012 4:27 PM GMT
    Maybe our attitude is ugly.
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    Jul 16, 2012 4:56 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidMaybe our attitude is ugly.


    This is nice to hear from Smartmoney... (:
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    Jul 19, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidMaybe our attitude is ugly.


    You could be completely right. I mean, people I meet tend to see me as a nice guy? I don't "think" I have a bad attitude? But, who actually knows if they them self have a bad attitude, or are willing to admit that they do?
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    Jul 19, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    I get those days all the time. But more than most, my doubts are legitimized by my love handles...

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    Jul 19, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    magnus87 saidwell I also have same thoughts constantly. Gay guys alway ignore me and hit on my friend who is even straight and not interested in them.


    This is probably a little late, but since you are from Denmark, you probably have a kick'ass accent. I LOVE accents. But, I hope to move somewhere to pick one up... Im from the part of the country what has no accent haha
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    Jul 19, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    Sidney12 saidOr even on RJ, I message a guy I'm so interested in, great smile, body, and a fantastic personality on his profile, --send him a message, he goes to see my page......no response. Fuck, I must be ugly

    nah. icon_cool.gif


    No babes, you're not ugly, they're just dicks. icon_biggrin.gif If they're not interested, the least they could do is say so. So just file them under dicks....right next to douchebags icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 19, 2012 6:27 AM GMT
    First time in the Dating & Relationship Forum... to answer the OP, if you want to be ugly, it will come from deep inside where you see yourself as you decide to believe yourself to be. Who you are outside is just a lens used to filter that self out. Either your exterior or interior will appeal to others, but be careful of those unaware of the other. Best still, become someone projects the beauty that is within, and polishes the mess that is throughout; and find someone who does the same...
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:56 PM GMT
    Sidney12 said Or even on RJ, I message a guy I'm so interested in, great smile, body, and a fantastic personality on his profile, --send him a message, he goes to see my page......no response. Fuck, I must be ugly..lol/>


    I like to think that people aren't always that shallow so I'll say maybe the guy read what you wrote on your profile and just genuinely wasn't interested. Who knows.
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    Jul 19, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    this is either one of those "everyone tell me how gorgeous i am", threads. like the fb self shot with "omg so horrible lol xxxxx" or something.

    or you are just plain mental.

    you are obviously beautiful to look at. who the feck told you that you were ugly. maybe you go for a type that doesnt go for you. but you are genuinely gorgeous.

    i have a feeling you know this

    anywho hope you find what you are looking for

    x
  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 22, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    I think you look just fine dude. icon_smile.gif You're being to hard on yourself.

    But to answer your question, yes I do have those days. It's not a fun feeling but what usually helps me drop off those negative thoughts are drawing, exercising, playing guitar, or just listening to music. Usually helps me feel better.

    And also, you have to just know that just because one guy doesn't find you attractive doesn't mean the next guy will feel the same way. Just keep your chin up.
  • mindblank

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    Jul 22, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    You need to do a bit more than just "giving the eye". If somebody gave me "the eye" I would run a mile....not knowing what it was...like "is he gay?" "does he know that I find him attractive and is challenging me?" or just guys can be shy... this is a possibility with strangers in public.... I suggest you do more, or God forbid, perhaps the guys are actually straight, like who's to say that they are even into other men in the first place?

    But no, never allow yourself to think that you're ugly. Always remind yourself that you are beautiful, and hot. Coz your perspective will define your day, keep a good perspective always.