How long to wait?

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    Aug 05, 2008 4:58 PM GMT
    I just found out that this guy I have had a bit of a crush on for a while now just broke up with his BF a few days ago. I really want to ask him out, but I feel like I need to give him a bit of time first. How long would you all say is a good waiting period before asking someone out after they just ended a realtionship?
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    Aug 05, 2008 5:12 PM GMT
    Freakyninjamonkey saidI just found out that this guy I have had a bit of a crush on for a while now just broke up with his BF a few days ago. I really want to ask him out, but I feel like I need to give him a bit of time first. How long would you all say is a good waiting period before asking someone out after they just ended a realtionship?


    Depends on how long he was with his ex.

    Anything from a week to 6 months.
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    Aug 05, 2008 5:24 PM GMT
    As soon as this thread gets taken over by LOLcats, that's a 100% reliable indicator that enough time has passed and you can ask him out.
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    Aug 05, 2008 5:29 PM GMT
    Befriend him first as a show of support. It's too early to "ask him out," as opposed to just wanting to hang out.

    The more you talk to him, the better you'll be able to determine when you can really ask him out.

    All the best! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 05, 2008 6:03 PM GMT
    BoarderX saidAs soon as this thread gets taken over by LOLcats, that's a 100% reliable indicator that enough time has passed and you can ask him out.


    You are a funny man! LOL
    Greatness, I loved that. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 05, 2008 6:51 PM GMT
    Depends on the nature of the breakup, Frikkyfrikky. Did he do the dumping? Did he get dumped? Was he ever that into the guy in the first place?

    In general, though, I'd say don't rush it. It's never good to be the rebound guy, anyway. You, my friend, are nobody's sloppy seconds.
  • dhinkansas

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    Aug 05, 2008 7:07 PM GMT
    I think the LOL cats wait 36 minutes after being dumped until they hook up again.
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    Aug 05, 2008 7:26 PM GMT
    Wait longer than 1-2 wks as it takes time for guys to get over the ex. I made a mistake there and came on really strong to a guy I liked that just broke up with his bf....I felt like some vulture coming in for the kill.icon_rolleyes.gif

    Also if theyre both dysfunctional enough they may get back together again and if you're friends with either or both that is awkwardness huh?

    Send him an LOL cat to let him know you're interested after 2 weeks, haha.icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 05, 2008 7:29 PM GMT
    Dont wait... go in for the kill ASAP

    jk
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    Aug 05, 2008 7:34 PM GMT
    If you don't mind being perhaps the "Rebound Fuck," ask him out. Considering the breakup is so fresh, there's a strong possibility he's not over it...or perhaps he's COMPLETELY over it (hence the breakup), so there'd be no reason for you to not ask him out.

    Anyway, life's too short man so be a fucking man and take one for the team (i.e., ask him out).
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Aug 05, 2008 7:36 PM GMT
    the lolcats have no sense of time

  • kinetic

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    Aug 05, 2008 7:55 PM GMT
    Ghen said
    Freakyninjamonkey saidI just found out that this guy I have had a bit of a crush on for a while now just broke up with his BF a few days ago. I really want to ask him out, but I feel like I need to give him a bit of time first. How long would you all say is a good waiting period before asking someone out after they just ended a realtionship?


    Depends on how long he was with his ex.

    Anything from a week to 6 months.


    This is definitely true. My last ex and I ended this past January (we were together 3 years) and I'm just now exploring the possibility of dating beyond hooking up and its 7 months later. By no means does that even mean a boyfriend for me, just playing the field I guess.
    I'd say if he was w/ the guy for close to a year or more then its definitely going to take at least a few months for him to get over it.
    Although, it really does depend on the person and the situation.. I'm just speaking from my own experience....
    Good luck!
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    Aug 05, 2008 8:00 PM GMT
    Give him time to deal with it. Don't be the rebound!
  • gr8hands4you

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    Aug 05, 2008 8:20 PM GMT
    Wait until you know the break up is permanent. Give him some time to grieve. Be a friend but dont comment on the breakup other than being supportive. You may be the one he will turn to.
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    Aug 05, 2008 8:20 PM GMT
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    BAM!!!






  • Hagan_F

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    Aug 05, 2008 8:28 PM GMT
    I would let him decide. I would tell him I had a small crush on him for sometime and while I wasn't waiting for or hoping that he would break up, now that he has I would like to ask him out but don't want to do something he might not be ready for.
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    Aug 05, 2008 8:28 PM GMT
    Freakyninjamonkey saidI just found out that this guy I have had a bit of a crush on for a while now just broke up with his BF a few days ago. I really want to ask him out, but I feel like I need to give him a bit of time first. How long would you all say is a good waiting period before asking someone out after they just ended a realtionship?



    I probably wouldn't ask him out per say, however what I would do is be like "Hey man! I know you're single now, so if you ever wanna hang out grab a drink or something let me know." Just be cool about it, no pressure kind of thing and just let him ease himself in to something else, and if nothing else you'll have a new friend!
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    Aug 05, 2008 8:28 PM GMT
    The correct amount of time falls into a range, defined as not too soon so as to seem tacky, and not too long so as to allow someone else to swoop in and start dating him.

    Figuring out where that range is, that's the tricky part.
  • GQjock

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    Aug 05, 2008 10:01 PM GMT
    Some strategic planning maybe necessary icon_cool.gif

    You can't rush in and say
    "Hey, I hear you and Ralph just broke up.. you wanna hook up?"
    ... Tactless

    If you're a friend say... Hey I'm sorry to hear that you and your bf split up
    you can ask him if he wants to hang out for coffee
    or hang out with you and your friends

    ...because you don't want to wait... too long
    before you call in a month and you hear that he's met

    .... somebody else icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 05, 2008 10:36 PM GMT
    ......Or you could be a real buddy and take him a nice hot terrain of your special soup - and offer to nurse him back to health - maybe even do a back rub for him.....
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    Aug 05, 2008 10:44 PM GMT
    An ex of mine (we broke up more than a long time ago), recently broke up with the BF after me. His ex BF started flirting with me and asked if I'd like to trade some hot, well used jockstraps and underwear with him. We did and exchanged pictures. My ex found out about it and was all pissed.

    I told him he had no reason to be pissed- he has dumped the guy, four days had passed, and we just exchanged gear... nothing more.

    My ex called me an asshole and now refuses to talk to me.

    Whatever...
  • joeindallas

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    Aug 05, 2008 11:08 PM GMT
    I am a Gentleman ONCE backed off a Great guy out of respect. Now my limit is 15 seconds a new rule
  • GQjock

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    Aug 06, 2008 9:50 AM GMT

    ...... See? icon_cool.gif