Comparing your body with other men's bodies. Is it a good idea?

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    Aug 12, 2007 7:37 AM GMT
    Do you spend a lot of time looking at other men's bodies? No, I don't mean in the sexual way, we all do that. But in terms of wondering how they've achieved a particular look? Do you think it's healthy? Or, as we are all individuals and our body is unique to us, is it a pointless activity?
  • geebus

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    Aug 12, 2007 7:49 AM GMT
    I used to (and still sometimes) do that all the time. I think it's how I initially discovered that I was gay.
    I don't think it's that unhealthy, I mean it's just looking at what YOU wanna look like and working towards it I suppose.
  • GQjock

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    Aug 12, 2007 12:50 PM GMT
    That's a tough one...
    I do it all the time
    When I get past the "He's hot" thing
    I do compare myself ....
    In a way it keeps me up to my game so to speak

    ... But I live in Miami Beach
    and some of these guys are mutantly perfect :P
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    Aug 12, 2007 1:11 PM GMT
    I know I don't. A hot body doesn't necessarily have to be perfect, and sometimes a 'perfect' body isn't the best figure for a guy. I'm not after a specific look but something that just works for me. I'm not obsessed with the detail of my body or any other guy's for that matter.
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    Aug 12, 2007 2:44 PM GMT
    I think it could stimulate you to workout even harder or discourage you because you feel it's a goal that you'll never reached. I used to do it but I stopped, it was not helping me.
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 12, 2007 3:11 PM GMT
    I compare my body with you, Red. I wish I have a full body poster of you so I can hang on my little workout gym in my house so it can inspire me to have a body like yours.

    I just admire and like to compare my bodies with a lot of older Real Jock especially Chucky Stud, OW, Big Joey, Mc Gay and a few other. This guys prove that age has nothing to do with it. They give me inspiration. Yes , I think comparing my bodies with other men is a good ideas.
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    Aug 12, 2007 8:57 PM GMT
    I don't compare my body. I strive to do my best!

    I admire what success other guys have obtained though.

    We are all unique in our own way and I have never been thrown out of bed. Accept where you are at the moment, have dreams, set goals and do it. It will happen.

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    Aug 12, 2007 9:16 PM GMT
    as much as i want to say i dont, i do! i look at other guys bodies to give me motivation to workout even harder and tighten up my diet even more
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    Aug 12, 2007 9:16 PM GMT
    I love comparing my body with other guys' bodies. :)
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    Aug 12, 2007 9:32 PM GMT
    I think everyone compares, including straight guys. Whether it's to check out someone you are interested in, sizing up the competition, or just comparing for "academic" reasons... I think it is pretty natural.

    I think it only gets unhealthy if it's excessively often, competitive, or leads to feelings of inferiority.
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    Aug 12, 2007 9:46 PM GMT
    I try not to - but I know I do. It's a fine line between admiration and frustration.

    Most guys who compete are in their 20's & 30's - now some in their 40's. The ranks get pretty thin by 55. So I find myself inevitably comparing my progress to that of guys 10-20 even 30 years younger, which is unrealistic.

    I do find myself frustrated by the fact that no matter how I train, what I eat, or anything else, you cannot actually turn back time -
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    Aug 12, 2007 9:55 PM GMT
    I also try not to compare myself with others, but in the world of fitness and lifting, it seems inevitable that comparisons do arise.

    To PSBigJoey, don't worry about turning back the clock. You look great for a man of any age. Keep doing what you are doing.
  • DiverScience

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    Aug 12, 2007 9:58 PM GMT
    I think the real question is do you look at guys and go:

    WOW, he has great arms. I'm going to set a goal to have arms like that. That means about 10 pounds more of muscle and a 2% reduction in bodyfat. Ok, I can do this...


    or


    FUCK, he has awesome arms. I wish my arms looked like that. Why am I such a fat slob? I'm never going to look that good. I suck...
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    Aug 12, 2007 10:07 PM GMT
    Comparing yourself to other guys is something most everybody does. Including me. As long as you are just admiring and not judging yourself harshly for not looking the same way, seems OK.

    But if you are comparing yourself to the fitness models in magazines, competitive body builders in peak condition or that hot guy in the gym with a 48-50 inch chest and 18-20 inch arms, keep in mind how most, if not all, of those guys got there. I might catch some flack for this because there MAY be a few guys out there that are very muscular and didn't use drugs to get there but the majority of fitness models and all PRO body builders use steriods, period. I'm not judging them for that because I see nothing wrong with that if that's the way you choose to go and you do it fully educated on the effects and side effects. It's a personal choice in my opinion.

    The human body is not meant to be OVERLY muscular nor OVERLY fat. The skeleton has to support the weight of your body no matter how it's composed and the heavier it is, the more stressful it is on the body.

    So if you are comparing yourself to someone else, be realistic. Everybody's body shape is different. Muscles aren't shaped exactly the same and won't develop exactly the same. If you are going to try to emulate someone, try pick someone who seems to have a similiar build to you and muscle shape as you and use them for inspiration instead of something you could never genetically attain.

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    Aug 13, 2007 12:55 AM GMT
    DiverScience's thinking is similar to mine. I'll look and it will remind me of what I would need to do in order to improve and push myself. It's a motivator for me.

    Plus, I'm a tad on the competitive side, but I use it in order to keep myself focused and motivated.
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    Aug 13, 2007 1:48 AM GMT
    Yes, I do. More out of interest in how 'they' achieved a certain look. Was it a certain workout routine or something else?

    Years ago when I first started lifting weights the buddy that 'taught' me the right form and exercises told me that by asking questions I would get past sticking points or pick up good tips. I still do that.

    Sometimes when I see someone with the same build and appearance I will look at what they are wearing. Gives me ideas of how i might look wearing the same thing.

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    Aug 13, 2007 3:11 AM GMT
    Summer in NYC is a crazy time. You get to see guys from all over the world in various states of dress...tank tops, t shirts, shorts etc. I am constantly staring at guys looking for someone like me that maybe was skinny and built themselves up. I do it for some sort of validation that it is poss. to gain weight and size. Eye candy doesn't hurt but it helps to find those rare guys w/my body type that are alot bigger and you can tell they work out. Somehow, don't ask me how, but it makes me feel better and more hpeful at achieving my own goals.
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    Aug 13, 2007 3:20 AM GMT
    Diver makes sense to me as usual, so does shortnsexy, and thanks to musculardad - but the comment that strikes me is Hellskitchen's - it's so important to remember that mimicing the workout of someone whose physique you admire will almost never produce similar results. That's his workout for his body/age/condition/genetics/nutrition/etc. - your situation is different, and you will have different needs.

    Yes, there are some overriding prinicples to be observed, but workouts are not and cannot be one-size-fits-all. The workout that produces 19" arms in one man may produce 14" arms in another (or wreck the joints...). Learn the principles and apply them to yourself.

    In short, I can virually promise you that the latest Muscle & Fitness article on "how to build massive triceps in 6 weeks" will NOT produce massive triceps in 6 or 12 or even 24 weeks in most people.
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    Aug 13, 2007 3:24 AM GMT
    I have a frame hanging on my wall, and in it is the statement, "Do not compare yourself with anybody else." I need that constant reminder.
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    Aug 13, 2007 3:53 AM GMT
    PSBigJoey...I know that. I think if you re-read my post I said that seeing guys that prob have my build and have built up gives m hope that I can too. I think u might have read too much into what I wrote. I do my own workout...how could I poss. know what those guys do? It's just inspiration that's all.
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    Aug 13, 2007 4:12 AM GMT
    I find myself doing it as well- subconsciously.
    I am normally a big guy in the gym, but you start dissecting body parts and then it drives you crazy. It's worse when you are a competitor and you see another competitor in the gym.
    Most often different weight classes, but you can't help not comparing....
    Ric
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    Aug 13, 2007 4:16 AM GMT
    Yes, I compare my body to others'. And my heart goes out to each and every one of them. Poor things.
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    Aug 13, 2007 4:23 AM GMT
    Good one Obscene!lolol!
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    Aug 13, 2007 4:41 AM GMT
    Hells - I didn't say that's what you said - it just kicked off that line of thinking, that's all.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Aug 13, 2007 4:55 AM GMT
    Depends on the situation. I compare myself with some others when there's a good reason to--pickup volleyball games go better when both height and skill are roughly balanced between the two sides, for example, so I keep in mind height. When I was pressed into playing ultimate frisbee ( a sport at which I feel I suck), I'd look to see who looked like the better runners. Etc. But I'm pretty sure that's not what you're asking about.

    For the most part, no, I don't. I know that my metabolism, bone structure, and build when I'm not actively trying to control what I look like are very different than those of most guys, and pretty much always have been. I'm long used to the idea that no matter what I do, I won't look like almost any of those guys, and that the specific ways they went about getting to where they are wouldn't work for me. And I'm not a size queen, so my ego doesn't depend on my having a smaller waist, broader chest, or whatever other measurement you want than that other guy. I look at attractive men and mentally respond pretty much with something along the lines of "He's hot" (or not), and whether I think I have a chance at having a conversation with him. So to the extent that I compare my build with his and see if he's physically out of my league, sure, but to that extent--doesn't everyone?