Bad Boy Type: Why?

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    Jul 11, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    Does anyone else realize that they're just instantly interested in a bad boy type of guy? While I was running just now I saw this guy drive pass me and stop off somewhere and like his mannerisms and look erased the guy who I currently was obsessed with... I have no idea why that happens to me, even though when I came back around the circle he was cussing and acting like a complete ass to someone on the phone. He obviously wasn't BF material and I could see that but why the attraction?
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    Jul 11, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    Because rebels are fun man.

    And, as for them not being boyfriend material, I find all kinds of guys want to settle down, bad boys and the good ones. If you are embarrassed to show him off then yea dont go for it.

    But still, a guy who breaks the boundaries of society shows courage!
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    Jul 11, 2012 3:59 AM GMT
    Chainers saidBut still, a guy who breaks the boundaries of society shows courage!
    Depending on the boundaries they often show stupidity.
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    Jul 11, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    Yeah..?..being attracted to bad boys is one thing..(i am)..But if you want good things to happen to you in a relationship ...Don't date a bad boy..(i did)....("Epic sequential nightmares")..icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 11, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
    In depends very much on what you mean by "bad boy" type. A guy with a little bit of an edge to him or an adventurous guy can be appealing. A screw-up who constantly needs to be bailed out of trouble is a huge turn-off.
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    Jul 11, 2012 4:40 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidIn depends very much on what you mean by "bad boy" type. A guy with a little bit of an edge to him or an adventurous guy can be appealing. A screw-up who constantly needs to be bailed out of trouble is a huge turn-off.
    .. Your defination seems to be a little skewed..An edgy adventureous guy..and a bad boy are not the same!!
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    Jul 11, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    Two words: parental issues

    A bad boy is a big screw you to your overbearing mom/dad.
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    Jul 11, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    Bad and good are things that were engrained into your head since you were a child.

    Psychology has proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that people generally want things they can't have.

    Conclusion: Bad boys are guys you'd only take home to mom to piss her off for all the shit she told you about bad boys.

    In other words, MolaMola is right.
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    Jul 11, 2012 5:08 AM GMT
    Strange. I don't find myself attracted to bad boys in the least. I'm more attracted to good, upstanding types. You say it has to do with pissing mom off - I guess my family instituted an upbringing of "my boyfriend is better then yours".icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 11, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    Because they can be hot if all you're interested in is sex. But when you start to assess what you want in a companion, the bad boy appeal fades fast.
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    Jul 11, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
    A couple of my friends were always attracted to "bad guys". As my sister put, the one friend could walk in a bar and unfailingly zoom in on the biggest jerk in the place". I think the attraction must indicate a self-esteem issue because the "bad guys" inevitably act like domineering and inconsiderate jerks (IMO) and I think that only someone with low self-esteem could be interested in putting up with that crap.
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    Jul 11, 2012 7:03 AM GMT
    IceBucket said I'm more attracted to good, upstanding types.


    This. I'm allergic to mean, selfish, or inconsiderate people. Jerkishness is an instant turnoff, can someone please explain what about it is attractive?

    Clean cut, a nice smile, and ambition or education gets me every time. Throw in being nice to old people, children, or service staff and I'm pretty much pants-on-the-ground.
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    Jul 11, 2012 9:38 AM GMT
    STOP!! read this article. Here's an excerpt.


    http://jezebel.com/5921436/your-love-does-not-necessarily-conquer-all?utm_campaign=socialflow_jezebel_facebook&utm_source=jezebel_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow

    There's a connection between this self-overestimation and the enduring (though thankfully not universal) "bad boy phenomenon". After all, if you really believe you've got this amazing well-spring of love inside of you, so strong it has the capacity to change the world, what better way to demonstrate its power than to use it to tame the asshole? Doctors demonstrate their skill by healing the sick, not merely keeping the already well, healthy. The "my love will change him" discourse is a powerful one, and it's rooted less in young women's poor judgment or self-destructiveness and more in a whopping miscalculation of their own power. A woman who believes her love will change a man may simultaneously believe she isn't worthy of a good guy and, even as she lacks vital self-worth, believe that her selflessness and her love has this capacity to transform the jerk upon whom everyone else has given up.


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    Jul 11, 2012 9:51 AM GMT
    I don't understand the mentality at all, I like a bad boy appearance but that's it, don't go after anybody who doesn't coincide with your values or lifestyle, thats it. hope it works out though ^_^
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    Jul 11, 2012 2:05 PM GMT
    I think there's a certain appeal in what we can't (or shouldn't) have.
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    Jul 11, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    I'm attracted to both good and bad boys.
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    Jul 11, 2012 2:53 PM GMT


    A very old gay gent I knew once said to me,
    "Doug, gay guys like assholes." icon_lol.gif


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    Jul 11, 2012 2:56 PM GMT
    meninlove said

    A very old gay gent I knew once said to me,
    "Doug, gay guys like assholes." icon_lol.gif


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    Jul 11, 2012 3:01 PM GMT
    Well in the case of the OP, like many guys, the attraction is based on
    a guy who is attractive and part of it is the behavior,.. its like "wow, he really does it" (where the OP or others might it kind of intriguing). Some of the behavior might be so over the top, you could call it "un social" type of stuff.

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    Jul 11, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    meninlove said

    A very old gay gent I knew once said to me,
    "Doug, gay guys like assholes." icon_lol.gif


    icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif


    What's even funnier is I didn't get the joke and got all huffy about liking nice people. You should have been there, you'd have been in stitches. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 11, 2012 3:13 PM GMT
    Danger can be attractive........the consequences not so much.

    Also some people are just masochists.
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    Jul 11, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    TroyAthlete said
    IceBucket said I'm more attracted to good, upstanding types.


    This. I'm allergic to mean, selfish, or inconsiderate people. Jerkishness is an instant turnoff, can someone please explain what about it is attractive?

    Clean cut, a nice smile, and ambition or education gets me every time. Throw in being nice to old people, children, or service staff and I'm pretty much pants-on-the-ground.
    This for me too ^^
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    Jul 11, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    Bad boys basically work out like this..

    http://www.quickmeme.com/meme/3ovudb/

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    Jul 11, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
    The same reason why women like bad boys bc they dont like pussys icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 11, 2012 4:37 PM GMT
    IzzyMuscle saidSTOP!! read this article. Here's an excerpt.


    http://jezebel.com/5921436/your-love-does-not-necessarily-conquer-all?utm_campaign=socialflow_jezebel_facebook&utm_source=jezebel_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow

    There's a connection between this self-overestimation and the enduring (though thankfully not universal) "bad boy phenomenon". After all, if you really believe you've got this amazing well-spring of love inside of you, so strong it has the capacity to change the world, what better way to demonstrate its power than to use it to tame the asshole? Doctors demonstrate their skill by healing the sick, not merely keeping the already well, healthy. The "my love will change him" discourse is a powerful one, and it's rooted less in young women's poor judgment or self-destructiveness and more in a whopping miscalculation of their own power. A woman who believes her love will change a man may simultaneously believe she isn't worthy of a good guy and, even as she lacks vital self-worth, believe that her selflessness and her love has this capacity to transform the jerk upon whom everyone else has given up.




    That makes sense, I was just thinking that actually. To me, I'd want to help him change his ways or something like that I dunno, I always said that I wanted to help people who have problems out... maybe that's it. They're still hot though so yeah lol.