Broken hearted

  • L3GO

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    Jul 11, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    I fell for a guy, and when I fall, I fall hard. We hit it off immediately, and we've been very close for the past eight months. We weren't official but exclusive nonetheless.

    Three days ago, he told me he wanted for us to stop seeing each other. I couldn't stop crying. He was my best friend, my lover, my rock. I can't go on without him. He was a part of my daily routine, whether it was going out to dinner, drinking, or just cuddling. He made everything better.

    And tonight, to make it worse, he texted me saying we needed to talk. I haven't responded and I'm not sure I can. It would be too much. I just want to fall asleep on his chest one more time, or laugh at nothing and just enjoy each other's company. He was perfect, and now he's gone. I can't describe the overwhelming loneliness and anger at myself I feel right now. What did I do wrong? I was there for him, I did everything with him, nothing seemed to be going wrong. How did I fuck up?

    I have a normal account here, but I wanted to get this off my chest without everyone knowing who I am.
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    Jul 11, 2012 3:34 AM GMT


    Why do you think you fucked up? Why do you think you did anything wrong?

    Sometimes no one is to blame. icon_wink.gif

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  • Webster666

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    Jul 11, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    You said he wanted to talk to you.

    A long time ago, I broke up with the guy I refer to as, "The one great love of my life." He had said, "Don't you want to talk things over ?" But, I was angry, and I said, "There's nothing to talk about."
    I've always regretted that.

    Call him.
    Don't text him.
    Call him.
    Find out what he has to say.

    If it's supposed to work out, it will.
    If not, you will survive.

    Regardless of what happens, I'm sorry that you're going through this heartache.


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    Jul 11, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    you ll be ok, not matter what.
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    Jul 11, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidYou said he wanted to talk to you.

    A long time ago, I broke up with the guy I refer to as, "The one great love of my life." He had said, "Don't you want to talk things over ?" But, I was angry, and I said, "There's nothing to talk about."
    I've always regretted that.

    Call him.
    Don't text him.
    Call him.
    Find out what he has to say.

    If it's supposed to work out, it will.
    If not, you will survive.

    Regardless of what happens, I'm sorry that you're going through this heartache.
    Related, check out this article about a wife who successfully kept her relationship together when her husband wanted a divorce:
    http://theweek.com/article/index/99512/the-last-word-he-said-he-was-leaving-she-ignored-him
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    Jul 11, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    Webster666 saidYou said he wanted to talk to you.

    A long time ago, I broke up with the guy I refer to as, "The one great love of my life." He had said, "Don't you want to talk things over ?" But, I was angry, and I said, "There's nothing to talk about."
    I've always regretted that.

    Call him.
    Don't text him.
    Call him.
    Find out what he has to say.

    If it's supposed to work out, it will.
    If not, you will survive.

    Regardless of what happens, I'm sorry that you're going through this heartache.
    Related, check out this article about a wife who successfully kept her relationship together when her husband wanted a divorce:
    http://theweek.com/article/index/99512/the-last-word-he-said-he-was-leaving-she-ignored-him



    Thats a great article.
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    Jul 11, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    Webster666 saidYou said he wanted to talk to you.

    A long time ago, I broke up with the guy I refer to as, "The one great love of my life." He had said, "Don't you want to talk things over ?" But, I was angry, and I said, "There's nothing to talk about."
    I've always regretted that.

    Call him.
    Don't text him.
    Call him.
    Find out what he has to say.

    If it's supposed to work out, it will.
    If not, you will survive.

    Regardless of what happens, I'm sorry that you're going through this heartache.
    Related, check out this article about a wife who successfully kept her relationship together when her husband wanted a divorce:
    http://theweek.com/article/index/99512/the-last-word-he-said-he-was-leaving-she-ignored-him

    +1
    I read this article a while back. its beautiful.
    I've been on that side. its the worst feeling. But, the best thing you can get, at least for your own heart, is closure. Sometimes, even though it hurts, its good to have a reason. Or to just listen to that person's heart. Either way it goes, It will be a good thing- either in growth or in keeping it together.
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    Jul 11, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    If he doesn't take you back you're going to be more guarded from now on, affecting the next time you fall for someone.
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    Jul 11, 2012 5:27 AM GMT
    guyathome74 saidIf he doesn't take you back you're going to be more guarded from now on, affecting the next time you fall for someone.

    Or he'll just make the same mistake again if he's dumb. It can happen...

    *gestures to self*

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    Jul 11, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    Webster666 saidYou said he wanted to talk to you.

    A long time ago, I broke up with the guy I refer to as, "The one great love of my life." He had said, "Don't you want to talk things over ?" But, I was angry, and I said, "There's nothing to talk about."
    I've always regretted that.

    Call him.
    Don't text him.
    Call him.
    Find out what he has to say.

    If it's supposed to work out, it will.
    If not, you will survive.

    Regardless of what happens, I'm sorry that you're going through this heartache.
    Related, check out this article about a wife who successfully kept her relationship together when her husband wanted a divorce:
    http://theweek.com/article/index/99512/the-last-word-he-said-he-was-leaving-she-ignored-him


    Wow Anduru, I'm surprised you didn't respond with a sarcastic comment like you always do. Turns out you DO have a heart... I knew it icon_smile.gif

    To the OP... This advice is all you'll need. Hope everything goes well for you. Please update soon.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Jul 11, 2012 6:30 AM GMT
    Good grief, is there something in the water this month?

    You should see what he has to say. But it's important for you to know that you can go on. It completely sucks, but just ride it out. Unfortunately, that's the only advice I can give. Certain activities can temporarily mask the pain, but nothing truly alleviates it pain except the passage of time.

    Source: more experience with getting dumped than I care to revisit.
  • Havasu

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    Jul 11, 2012 6:46 AM GMT
    Is it possible he met another guy? Seems odd that someone would randomly leave without explanation if things were going fine. Of course he would probably never admit it if it's true.
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    Jul 11, 2012 8:13 AM GMT
    That is an AMAZING article. Profoundly touching.

    Wish I had that strength and I wish I would've been given that opportunity.

    Just jawdropping...
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    Jul 11, 2012 1:16 PM GMT
    running11 saidThat is an AMAZING article. Profoundly touching.

    Wish I had that strength and I wish I would've been given that opportunity.

    Just jawdropping...


    I think for what happened in the book to come out the same for others would require two people similar to the author and her husband. It's an excellent article on having strength and NOT taking another's decision as necessarily being your fault. icon_wink.gif


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    Jul 11, 2012 4:49 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    running11 saidThat is an AMAZING article. Profoundly touching.

    Wish I had that strength and I wish I would've been given that opportunity.

    Just jawdropping...


    I think for what happened in the book to come out the same for others would require two people similar to the author and her husband. It's an excellent article on having strength and NOT taking another's decision as necessarily being your fault. icon_wink.gif




    icon_smile.gif Thanks for saying that. Definitely a point worthy of being made that I didn't think of