Lack of sensitive guys

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    Jul 11, 2012 9:47 AM GMT
    I notice many very masculine men are harsh at times, although myself am masculine in presentation(voice and mannerisms) have a very soft personality, and feel that some guys can come across as being mean or careless. why is this the case?I feel as if the need to be aware of the feeling of others is a dying thing in general in broader terms.
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    Jul 11, 2012 9:51 AM GMT
    You need a thick skin in these forums mate!
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    Jul 11, 2012 9:59 AM GMT
    I'm not bothered by anything said on the forums I'm talking about generally.
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    Jul 11, 2012 10:16 AM GMT
    I know what you mean there is only a few people that impress me with their sweetness.....when i see somebody talking about other people or having a lack of compassion and respect for others i lose interest so quickly.

    They are just so moronic and immature.
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    Jul 11, 2012 10:25 AM GMT
    it's very sad and I feel that amongst gay men, kindness should be abundant with all the trials everyone here has faced, may face, or have a possibility of facing, instead on every gay site and after speaking with few but a good amount of gay men, most of which seem very catty and mean and that disappoints me.
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    Jul 11, 2012 10:28 AM GMT
    Galaxyguy36 saidit's very sad and I feel that amongst gay men, kindness should be abundant with all the trials everyone here has faced, may face, or have a possibility of facing, instead on every gay site and after speaking with few but a good amount of gay men, most of which seem very catty and mean and that disappoints me.


    There is also super nice gay guys. The way i see it a few of them are worth more than all the idiotic bitchy ones put together.

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    Jul 11, 2012 10:39 AM GMT
    I don't believe you when you say you have masculine mannerisms.
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    Jul 11, 2012 11:44 AM GMT
    I agree many are harsh, catty and even rude. What does that attitude serve? It's a turn off for me.
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    Jul 11, 2012 12:45 PM GMT
    Anduru saidI don't believe you when you say you have masculine mannerisms.


    Agree
  • synestheticxs...

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    Jul 11, 2012 8:59 PM GMT
    Many men are simply so insecure about themselves that they feel the need to be dickheads to other people. It has nothing to do with masculinity; we gays have our meatheaded jerks just like the heteros do.

    I, too, find the general lack of sensitivity disappointing.
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    Jul 11, 2012 9:04 PM GMT
    what are these "feelings" you speak of?

    i don't know what those are...
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    Jul 12, 2012 6:37 AM GMT
    Is it really a 'masculine' issue..because ..both mascs and fems can be jerks..a jerk is just a jerk..not a masc or fem issue..
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    Jul 12, 2012 7:27 AM GMT
    ^ to above that is true, I've seen it occur from both sides, but from what I've seen it's usually from the Yin rather then the Yang, and anybody can believe what they want about me.
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    Jul 12, 2012 7:29 AM GMT
    Anduru saidI don't believe you when you say you have masculine mannerisms.


    THIS
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    Jul 12, 2012 7:29 AM GMT
    synestheticxserenade saidMany men are simply so insecure about themselves that they feel the need to be dickheads to other people. It has nothing to do with masculinity; we gays have our meatheaded jerks just like the heteros do.

    I, too, find the general lack of sensitivity disappointing.


    You're just mad cuz ur ug and get rejected a lot
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    Jul 12, 2012 7:56 AM GMT
    Firebrand said
    synestheticxserenade saidMany men are simply so insecure about themselves that they feel the need to be dickheads to other people. It has nothing to do with masculinity; we gays have our meatheaded jerks just like the heteros do.

    I, too, find the general lack of sensitivity disappointing.


    You're just mad cuz ur ug and get rejected a lot


    Oh the irony
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    Jul 12, 2012 8:01 AM GMT
    Firebrand said
    synestheticxserenade saidMany men are simply so insecure about themselves that they feel the need to be dickheads to other people. It has nothing to do with masculinity; we gays have our meatheaded jerks just like the heteros do.

    I, too, find the general lack of sensitivity disappointing.


    You're just mad cuz ur ug and get rejected a lot


    What's with the unprovoked nastiness? Show this guy some respect.
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    Jul 12, 2012 8:02 AM GMT
    RollDontWalk said
    Firebrand said
    synestheticxserenade saidMany men are simply so insecure about themselves that they feel the need to be dickheads to other people. It has nothing to do with masculinity; we gays have our meatheaded jerks just like the heteros do.

    I, too, find the general lack of sensitivity disappointing.


    You're just mad cuz ur ug and get rejected a lot


    Oh the irony


    Um. Look at yourself. Eww.
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    Jul 12, 2012 8:04 AM GMT
    Firebrand said
    synestheticxserenade saidMany men are simply so insecure about themselves that they feel the need to be dickheads to other people. It has nothing to do with masculinity; we gays have our meatheaded jerks just like the heteros do.

    I, too, find the general lack of sensitivity disappointing.


    You're just mad cuz ur ug and get rejected a lot


    What a jerkoff. icon_rolleyes.gif Don't pay him any attention. But like you said a lot of guys on here are rude or pricks for no reason. More of it has to do with their personal lives and how unhappy they are so they feel like big men talking the way they do on these forums. You just have to keep your head up and look for the good ones. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 12, 2012 8:20 AM GMT
    For some mean spirited people it is all that they know, so you just have to forgive them for being poorly developed. However deliberate mean people are drawn to sensitive people in order for their meaness to have an affect. Mask your sensitive side if you get too much meaness from people and try to avoid becoming tainted by the bitter hags seeking to ruin someones day. Be pleasant to others and ignore the mean folks seeking gratification out of anothers misery. You'll soon see that other pleasant people will be drawn to you.
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    Jul 12, 2012 8:20 AM GMT
    I hate to break it to you but it's not just masculine people that are insensitive. It's a majority of people. There's always going to be people out there that will be sensitive and others that aren't. Don't sum up an entire demographic.

    Welcome to the fend for yourself society that we all live in.
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    Jul 12, 2012 8:53 AM GMT
    Sounds like you just need thicker skin. There's really nothing you can do about how others act here in the forums or in real life. That's just one of things you'll have to deal with (or not). When you have that much time to think about the negatives in folks and what they do then naturally it's going to get on your nerves.

    I'm dying of laughter at a few people here (one in particular who just recently joined).
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    Jul 12, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    It just gets annoying, when your newly out you have this expectation of positivity from a particular group of people who undergo the same difficulties as you did before, but yet the same "community" wants equal rights, in this "Gay community" I've encountered racial prejudice, sexism, and even homophobia.
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    Jul 12, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    sensitive...Sensitive...I'LL GIVE YOU SENSITIVE! Oh, hell...never mind, I'm too sensitive to say it...icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 12, 2012 10:18 PM GMT
    Firebrand said
    RollDontWalk said
    Firebrand said
    synestheticxserenade saidMany men are simply so insecure about themselves that they feel the need to be dickheads to other people. It has nothing to do with masculinity; we gays have our meatheaded jerks just like the heteros do.

    I, too, find the general lack of sensitivity disappointing.


    You're just mad cuz ur ug and get rejected a lot


    Oh the irony


    Um. Look at yourself. Eww.


    At least I'm more secure than you icon_lol.gif