some deep thoughts on human nature I'd like to share.

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    Jul 12, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    I often wonder why people are mean because I find being cruel very depressing, all that negative energy etc. I hate how some people just make life harder for other people, and don't help others. well I realise why nice guys finish last and mean people win, cause of happiness and human nature. a mean person would do mean things and not feel bad, they would just remain happy cause only nice guys would get depressed by guilt and conflict, were as mean people dont let themselves get depressed, ergo mean people are happy people, or should i say aren't depressed ever. another thing is I often wonder is why can't people just be happy, why cant everyone be friends, why how social heirarchies occur and why are people still mean, well maybe for people to feel happy with themselves some people have to be losers and suffer for us to feel secure, maybe human beings are just naturally unfair and cruel? share your thoughts?
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    Jul 12, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    That wasn't really that deep dude. There are plenty of mean people who are mean because they don't feel happy, and if you wonder why everyone can't just be nice to each other you clearly don't understand humans.
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    Jul 12, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
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    Jul 12, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    You:

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    Jul 12, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    Me:

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    Jul 12, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    ^ basically
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    Jul 12, 2012 4:54 AM GMT
    Mean Girls Meme: Appropriate for any forum occasion.
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    Jul 12, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    Darren.??.First..correction.!!.Nice STUPID guys finish last..So you seem to be a sweet sensitive guy..and..you need to be around more people like yourself !!..It sounds as if you are going thru a few things right now..Ignore the negative comments..And if this is a reaction to you being mistreated..you have to get a hold of those balls of yours and take control of what's going on around you !! You can still be tough and be a nice guy !!..Hugz..
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    Jul 12, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    Corvin saidMean Girls Meme: so fetch.


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    Jul 12, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    There are always going to be people that want to drag those with good motives into life's dark alley so they can rape you of your soul. Don't let them. The choice is yours to walk away or not respond to it. The point is: you can be happy with good intentions because there are those who have done it whom are waiting to welcome you into their lives which are often made of greater amounts of good people to share your life with. I know because I have been blessed to have found those people and I am always eager to learn from their experiences. Those who are liars, cheats, and thieves may be happy, but they are a slave to their conscience which requires them no choice of change unless they right the wrongs. Their lives become more complex than ours. We know freedom.
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    Jul 12, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
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    Jul 12, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
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    Jul 12, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    Mean people are usually unhappy or unstable or off-kilter. They get their bad karma back at them somehow. Just think of it that way.
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    Jul 12, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    the way i see it, people behave the way they do because they are raised that way.. human behavior are manifestations of their previous experiences.. and mostly, bad bahavior, e.g. being cruel, mean etc, are just their defense mechanism.. they must have been hurt badly before so tend to hurt others so somehow, others will feel their pain.. i dont believe that mean people are happy people.. happiness is a state of being, not an outward act.. as for people who are being treated bad by these mean people. what you can give them is something probably they didnt receive from people close to them, understanding.. let them be.. they will grow out of it, in time, hopefully. :-)

    about people not being happy, this is a lifelong pursuit.. and basically the essence of being alive..

    no, human beings are not cruel and unfair by nature.. i still believe in the good of people.. each has a good part within..

    search "desiderata" its avery good poem..
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    Jul 12, 2012 6:28 AM GMT
    Sailing_Officer saidthe way i see it, people behave the way they do because they are raised that way.. human behavior are manifestations of their previous experiences.. and mostly, bad bahavior, e.g. being cruel, mean etc, are just their defense mechanism.. they must have been hurt badly before so tend to hurt others so somehow, others will feel their pain.. i dont believe that mean people are happy people.. happiness is a state of being, not an outward act.. as for people who are being treated bad by these mean people. what you can give them is something probably they didnt receive from people close to them, understanding.. let them be.. they will grow out of it, in time, hopefully. :-)

    about people not being happy, this is a lifelong pursuit.. and basically the essence of being alive..

    no, human beings are not cruel and unfair by nature.. i still believe in the good of people.. each has a good part within..

    search "desiderata" its avery good poem..


    Thought just like you till i turned 32..Some human beings come from a long line of evil..
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    Jul 12, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
    Your answer: It boils down to two things: Unrighteous Influence & Genetics(inherited attribute traits). We are all born with different attributes, some more prone to one or the other. But attributes coupled with parental guidance, role models in our youth (or lack there of), life trials, brainwashing and traumas we face, will ultimately determine if we develop into a nice person or a mean person. Try as you may in adulthood to choose the behavior, but ultimately ones true nature of spirit will shine through, mean or nice.
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    Jul 12, 2012 7:32 AM GMT
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    Sailing_Officer saidthe way i see it, people behave the way they do because they are raised that way.. human behavior are manifestations of their previous experiences.. and mostly, bad bahavior, e.g. being cruel, mean etc, are just their defense mechanism.. they must have been hurt badly before so tend to hurt others so somehow, others will feel their pain.. i dont believe that mean people are happy people.. happiness is a state of being, not an outward act.. as for people who are being treated bad by these mean people. what you can give them is something probably they didnt receive from people close to them, understanding.. let them be.. they will grow out of it, in time, hopefully. :-)

    about people not being happy, this is a lifelong pursuit.. and basically the essence of being alive..

    no, human beings are not cruel and unfair by nature.. i still believe in the good of people.. each has a good part within..

    search "desiderata" its avery good poem..


    Thought just like you till i turned 32..Some human beings come from a long line of evil..


    im not sure but you kind of proven my point.. your statement has some hint of getting hurt.. whatever happened to you when you were 32, you'll grow out of it... give it time brother.. peace.. :-)
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    Jul 12, 2012 9:26 AM GMT
    I'm sorry, I feel how you do a lot, but sadly that's how things are currently, no matter what you have to keep your head held high, even if your shoes are weighed with stones. I believe in a higher power so I feel that every action or word or way we present ourselves affects our outcome sooner or later, maybe not in this lifetime but the next. I take solace in the fact that(and this is hard to feel) that cruel people are weaker, laughers and pointers are the same, but those who want love among people or peace, are stronger and even when they fail are more successful in a bigger way then our tiny human minds can perceive.
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    Jul 12, 2012 10:18 AM GMT
    Ehhh there are many people, especially on here who just enjoy being assholes.

    With me unless they're trying to physically abuse me or other people, or messing with my finances I tune them out. Life is too short to be dragged down. Do you brotha
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    Jul 12, 2012 12:56 PM GMT
    I hear people say why do bad things happen to good people, how bad people do bad things because they can, well happy things happen to happy people, there is a difference between good and great, you can be a great man but still a bad person. you got to respond to every incongruity in life with a laugh, cause life is pretty ridiculous. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 12, 2012 1:01 PM GMT
    I understand what you're saying, but in reality, I think when people are mean (i've been guilty) it's because they're upset and want the other person to feel how hurt they are and they think the only way to achieve that is to degrade somebody. But after you hurt a person, and you realize you hurt someone, you start to feel bad. So "mean" people are really just hurting people. Most of the time. If they're not hurting, then they're not human. We just need to learn to communicate our feelings in healthier ways. At least I do. I can't speak for anyone else.
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    Jul 12, 2012 1:20 PM GMT
    In your circle of friends and even business affiliates try to be around the positive happier types. The mean negative ones always seem to be pulling you down to their level. We all get upset and negative at times, but life should be a good experience and if it isn't we should strive for change. Those people prefer negativity and lash out to make themselves feel better. It's sad, the only way they can change is through themselves. So, maybe nice guys finish last but I'm sure those that do may have a better time doing it. Do we really care about winning all the time or how we play the game.

    And yes, it could be true that it is all they know and they were brought up that way. I've seen that run in families. Pretty sad.
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    Jul 12, 2012 6:29 PM GMT
    darren222 saidI realise why nice guys finish last and mean people win


    You can know how stagnant is the water by how much pond scum you see risen to the top.

    Your subject is a breath of fresh air on these banks. Though you'll find good people here with good thoughts like yours, wade carefully and ignore click liberally. Most are too deep, not in thought, but in the cesspool to be saved. Try as you might, you won't come out smelling like a rose, but if you wash off regularly and don't let that shit stick, you will not grow thorns. For those in too deep, you might toss a line, but most often you'll find that the more rope you let out, the more they just hang themselves with it. Perhaps best to just let them rot and recycle.

    Be in Realjock, not of Realjock.

    Bad people win nothing but illusions of the ego which eventually shatter upon later in life reflection**. They wind up with nothing.

    **http://www.ehow.com/info_8556786_eriksons-8-stages-development.html#page=8
    Older Adult: Ego Integrity vs. Despair

    **http://12stagesoflife.com/9reflection.html
    Reflection is Life’s way of growing us. But for some, it comes too late, and becomes their prison

    Sailing_Officer saidthe way i see it, people behave the way they do because they are raised that way.. human behavior are manifestations of their previous experiences.. and mostly, bad bahavior, e.g. being cruel, mean etc, are just their defense mechanism.. they must have been hurt badly before so tend to hurt others so somehow, others will feel their pain.. i dont believe that mean people are happy people.. happiness is a state of being, not an outward act.. as for people who are being treated bad by these mean people. what you can give them is something probably they didnt receive from people close to them, understanding.. let them be.. they will grow out of it, in time, hopefully. :-)

    about people not being happy, this is a lifelong pursuit.. and basically the essence of being alive..

    no, human beings are not cruel and unfair by nature.. i still believe in the good of people.. each has a good part within..

    search "desiderata" its avery good poem..


    There can't be that many bad mothers in the world. Even if so, eventually people have to take responsibility for their own actions and stop blaming mom, as endearing as they might find that to be.

    I like your idea of supporting the bullied. I once did but have since put most of the scumbag bullies on ignore--there being so many--so that my internet experience would not turn to the complete and utter shit which they represent.

    Meanwhile, do not confuse happiness with enlightment. Tragedy is part of life too.

    "Traveling makes a man wiser, but less happy."~~Thomas Jefferson

    Oh, & I searched youtube for desiderata but found only this ...