Most humane way to dump a guy

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    Jul 12, 2012 11:21 PM GMT
    How do you end something with someone in a humane way, considering their feelings but also not loading yourself with guilt ?

    Im a caring person but need advice on the best way
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    Jul 12, 2012 11:30 PM GMT
    Don't drag it out. When you've decided it needs to happen, be straight forward with it. And be honest 100% - it's always going to hurt, but that doesn't mean it isn't humane. It's just a part of life.
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    Jul 13, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    Agree with the post above. I've seen firsthand the damage that can be done when someone doesn't have the balls to just break up with someone and strings the other along with false hopes that the relationship might work out. The longer it takes the more it hurts.
  • Timbales

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    Jul 13, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    Don't do the "It's not you, it's me" bit. It's cliche and played out.

    If you're not happy and it's not working for you, then just say it. Don't be a dick about it, though.
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    Jul 13, 2012 4:54 AM GMT
    Don't do to this guy ..what you wouldn't want someone to do to you..be honest open sensitive!
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    Jul 13, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    a condo in Aspen, works for me.
  • Rush_

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    Jul 13, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    What they all said above and do it in person. Not skype. Not a phone call. Not a fuckin text (dude just ended it off with me that way Sunday..;.). In person-away from spectators.
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    Jul 13, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    A bullet to the back of the head when he goes to the bar to get the second Happy Hour round.

    He will be slightly buzzed and will never know what hit him.

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    Jul 13, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    Is it wrong that I first read the thread title as "Most humane way to dump a body?"

    EDIT: Sorry I totally didn't contribute to the conversation. Do what 7Famark says.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    There is no humane way...odds are the person is going to be hurt and upset regardless.

    The only way to lessen the blow is to do it in a manner that is respectful of the relationship you shared. No texting, no phone calls, no e-mails...you need to meet with them in person and respectfully explain it because you owe it to them.

    They're going to be upset, the last thing they deserve is to have to also be upset about the disrespectful details of the handling of the situation.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    FloridaT23 saidIs it wrong that I first read the thread title as "Most humane way to dump a body?"


    Yes, Dexter it was, now run and play.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
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  • Fermata

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    Jul 13, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    Most humane way to dump a guy?

    Post a thread with this title on a public forum with your picture... he'll get the hint. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:08 AM GMT
    Down by a river... tell him face to face, then walk away.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    Just break up with him like all guys break up: pretend everything is going SPECTACULAR, make truly believe that you are 101% happy with him, and then one day COMPLETELY DISAPPEAR. Ignore ALL calls, ALL messages, ALL emails, respond NOTHING, EVER AGAIN.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    JR_RJ saidDown by a river... tell him face to face, then walk away.


    Why river?
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidJust break up with him like all guys break up: pretend everything is going SPECTACULAR, make truly believe that you are 101% happy with him, and then one day COMPLETELY DISAPPEAR. Ignore ALL calls, ALL messages, ALL emails, respond NOTHING, EVER AGAIN.
    I'd settled for this* Over having two different guys I say "fell for" as the catch all term; telling me that I wasn't good enough, smart enough, or liked enough for the stupidest reasons... that is their combined description... they burn forever as anonymous fucks I don't want to be with ever again. At least I know I still got a heartbeat.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    showme said
    JR_RJ saidDown by a river... tell him face to face, then walk away.


    Why river?
    Duh! "Cry me a river", and more people are likely to be there so the social awkward aspect makes it less likely he'll explode on your, or vice versa.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    My ex, out of the blue, told me one day that he was getting married to a woman but still wanted to "date" me.

    I broke up with him by packing up all his crap and leaving it in a box on my front porch.
  • BmwKid92

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    Jul 13, 2012 5:29 AM GMT
    to hiis face, and give him your reason.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:48 AM GMT
    Wait, your breaking up with me and this is how you do it? Well, fucking brilliant.
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    Jul 13, 2012 6:04 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidJust break up with him like all guys break up: pretend everything is going SPECTACULAR, make truly believe that you are 101% happy with him, and then one day COMPLETELY DISAPPEAR. Ignore ALL calls, ALL messages, ALL emails, respond NOTHING, EVER AGAIN.

    Hey dude, how rude, I left you 10 messages icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    boydroid said
    Ariodante saidJust break up with him like all guys break up: pretend everything is going SPECTACULAR, make truly believe that you are 101% happy with him, and then one day COMPLETELY DISAPPEAR. Ignore ALL calls, ALL messages, ALL emails, respond NOTHING, EVER AGAIN.

    Hey dude, how rude, I left you 10 messages icon_sad.gif
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    I was too busy stalking you outside your bushes and beating off while watching you shower icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 6:06 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    boydroid said
    Ariodante saidJust break up with him like all guys break up: pretend everything is going SPECTACULAR, make truly believe that you are 101% happy with him, and then one day COMPLETELY DISAPPEAR. Ignore ALL calls, ALL messages, ALL emails, respond NOTHING, EVER AGAIN.

    Hey dude, how rude, I left you 10 messages icon_sad.gif
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    I was too busy stalking you outside your bushes and beating off while watching you shower icon_redface.gif

    Oh ok, that's a humane way of breaking up with me.
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    Jul 13, 2012 6:10 AM GMT
    boydroid said
    Ariodante said
    boydroid said
    Ariodante saidJust break up with him like all guys break up: pretend everything is going SPECTACULAR, make truly believe that you are 101% happy with him, and then one day COMPLETELY DISAPPEAR. Ignore ALL calls, ALL messages, ALL emails, respond NOTHING, EVER AGAIN.

    Hey dude, how rude, I left you 10 messages icon_sad.gif
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    I was too busy stalking you outside your bushes and beating off while watching you shower icon_redface.gif

    Oh ok, that's a humane way of breaking up with me.


    In the bushes? Really? You should at least invite him in so he's. It kneeling on any thorns or anything. So much easier to stalk from the inside of someone's home.