Do You Say I Love You First.

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    Jul 13, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    I have been in love quickly with some I have been close with, but I just could never say it first. I would wait until they do.

    I feel like there is so much power in that word and if you say it first, i feel like that person has power over you. I know I may be overthinking it, but It just seems like the person who says it first is the "whipped" one.

    and then Suppose the person does not say it back, You basically left yourself hanging out there, and once again they have all the "power" or the "control" because you went there and they did not.

    Has anyone ever been in that situation, where you just did not feel comfortable saying I love you first?
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    Jul 13, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    Many people can't distinguish between love and desire, but that's a whole different topic.

    I don't think that much into it to be honest. I say how I feel at that particular moment in time. People can take it for what they want.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    Hard for me to say it..and i'm not really shy !!!..The L word is really a big deal!!
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    I've never said it, never had it said to me.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI've never said it, never had it said to me.


    I Love You Ariodante.

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    Jul 13, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
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    Ariodante saidI've never said it, never had it said to me.


    I Love You Ariodante.

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    Jul 13, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
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    Ariodante saidI've never said it, never had it said to me.


    I Love You Ariodante.

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    U better smile, pardner.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    Ariodante..I Love ..loe...lo...l..LLLLL..Love your goatee!!..(can't do it)
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    Does it count if you gasp it out during orgasm?
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:19 AM GMT
    I know im pretty strong mentally and emotionally and I can handle if he doesnt respond with the same, I'll just say "I wanted you to know"

    btw I dont get whats the big deal about it in America? Ive found that in some relationships people dont say it after about a year, thats crazy to me(after a month is crazy too)...but If both of us are on the same page and have the same feelings, I have no problem saying if thats what I truly feel.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:23 AM GMT
    I have said it first because it was truly how I felt, and I meant it and it was at the point in the relationship where it would not have been a mistake. In hindsight though, I believe it was said back only to appease me. I am not sure I was ever loved.

    I think if you feel it though, and KNOW that it is love, why wait? People deserve to be loved, and they deserve to be told and shown that they are loved. icon_smile.gif

    I think next time I enter a relationship, I will wait for him to say it first because then I will feel/know it is genuine.

    And I also wish you, the OP, lots of love, and a genuine comfort in saying it first icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
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    Ariodante said
    Cash said
    Ariodante saidI've never said it, never had it said to me.


    I Love You Ariodante.

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    U better smile, pardner.


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    Jul 13, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidAriodante..I Love ..loe...lo...l..LLLLL..Love your goatee!!..(can't do it)


    sokay, you tried <3
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:27 AM GMT
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    Anocxu saidAriodante..I Love ..loe...lo...l..LLLLL..Love your goatee!!..(can't do it)


    sokay, you tried <3


    He looks love-able.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    Can't recall... but I can remember getting so wildly lost in my emotions that I cried it out on two different occasions to two different guys, years apart, and never got the response back from them... how or when I WANTED to hear it... as for the times I did feel I actually was in love, loving and loved it was like being on a different planet, or something. Nothing compared to it... I'm glad I kept believing in it for all those years before I actually knew it. It made opening up to it when I found it, or it found me(?), much easier.
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    JR_RJ saidCan't recall... but I can remember getting so wildly lost in my emotions that I cried it out on two different occasions to two different guys, years apart, and never got the response back from them... how or when I WANTED to hear it... as for the times I did feel I actually was in love, loving and loved it was like being on a different planet, or something. Nothing compared to it... I'm glad I kept believing in it for all those years before I actually knew it. It made opening up to it when I found it, or it found me(?), much easier.


    Basically what your saying is..???
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    showme said
    Ariodante said
    Cash said
    Ariodante saidI've never said it, never had it said to me.


    I Love You Ariodante.

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    U better smile, pardner.


    I cry emoticon when happy icon_cry.gif


    I'm serious ya Know???
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:40 AM GMT
    Not me, I say it to everybody... all the time... though I do it a lot less in Canada, since its not as common to say it as it is in Southern culture
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:40 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidHard for me to say it..and i'm not really shy !!!..The L word is really a big deal!!
    I WANT it to be a 'big deal'!
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    Daas saidDoes it count if you gasp it out during orgasm?


    That is actually really, seriously hot

    I am instantly aroused ahem
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:53 AM GMT
    Cash said
    Ariodante said
    showme said
    Ariodante said
    Cash said
    Ariodante saidI've never said it, never had it said to me.


    I Love You Ariodante.

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    U better smile, pardner.


    I cry emoticon when happy icon_cry.gif


    I'm serious ya Know???


    I don't know how to handle it icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:56 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    Cash said
    Ariodante said
    showme said
    Ariodante said
    Cash said
    Ariodante saidI've never said it, never had it said to me.


    I Love You Ariodante.

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    icon_cry.gif


    U better smile, pardner.


    I cry emoticon when happy icon_cry.gif


    I'm serious ya Know???


    I don't know how to handle it icon_sad.gif
    Just sigh!icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 5:58 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    Cash said
    Ariodante said
    showme said
    Ariodante said
    Cash said
    Ariodante saidI've never said it, never had it said to me.


    I Love You Ariodante.

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    icon_cry.gif


    U better smile, pardner.


    I cry emoticon when happy icon_cry.gif


    I'm serious ya Know???


    I don't know how to handle it icon_sad.gif


    I'm willing to show you how....

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    Jul 13, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    Cash said
    I'm willing to show you how....

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    If you even knew....what a teacher's pet I am icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    Cash said
    I'm willing to show you how....

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    If you even knew....what a teacher's pet I am icon_redface.gif


    TRYING to find out!!!!!!

    JEEZE!!!!!

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